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In many of our journeys, we experience doubts and ask ourselves âAm I really ace enough?â Here is your reminder that yes, you are ace enough đđđ

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I'm a sapphic ace and I live my girlfriend and I'm not sex repulsed and I'm pretty comfortable being sexually active with her but sometimes I feel like she just doesn't take the fact that ime ace seriously or forgets that it's just different for me.
Sorry that you feel this way. Maybe you need to communicate this to her (perhaps again) if you feel she is still not getting it. Please offer other thoughts etc to this anon in the replies.
Hey um, the 2019 Intersex Inclusion Survey is mainly being circulated in TERF circles right now, which I feel like I shouldnât have to explain is uh⌠Bad? So please take it! Please circulate it! Share it on and off Tumblr!
You donât have Intersex or LGBTQ+ to take it!
hey all- if you can, fill this out! Itâs super quick and the idea of the results being skewed because of a shit sample is killing my lil research-brain.Â
Hi,i recently came to the conclusion iâm ace I also got some psychological problems and finally decided to go see a therapist Yesterday was my first meeting conversation goes and there was a moment when she ask me about my sexuality so I told that iâm ace. I was kinda uptight the whole time so I canât remember everything but I do remember her asking me if I know that itâs unnatural. it makes me angry and confused even tho it shouldnât Iâm sharing this with you cause i canât get it out of my mind
That's totally uncool and unprofessional for a therapist to say that. Asexuality is a valid orientation and there's nothing wrong with asexuality. Get a different therapist if you choose to continue with therapy because you have a right to be respected by your therapist and not be invalidated by their personal opinion.
idk can we stopâŚtreating a.ce disc.ourse like itâs some haha funney cringe compilation or whatever the fuck because it fucking destroyed the entire ace and aro communities. there is no solid aspec community on tumblr anymore (which was by far the biggest number of aspec ppl). exclusionists took our community and fucking smashed it to pieces and y'all treat it as this fucking stupid joke when they traumatized, gaslit, and abused an entire group of queer people back into the closet. fuck every single person who doesnât take that seriously.
My personal experience is just that, but itâs really indicative that I have watched almost every single ace and aro person I know, irl and online, actively recloset themselves as a direct result of the consequences of The Disc Horseâ˘
I watched irl queer groups disintegrate bc a few ppl who got into leadership positions used that to make the space hostile towards ace ppl (among others as well), saw friends go from being loud and proud aces n aros to actively avoiding any mention of it and letting ppl assume their sexuality. I myself, having been IDing as ace for 10 years at least, have in the past couple since this whole â"discourseââ came into being, actively and intentionally stopped telling anyone at all that Iâm ace. To put that in some kind of perspective, I am incredibly out as trans and will actively out myself pretty constantly except to total strangers I will never see again. I feel safer telling ppl Iâm trans than ace. Especially in queer spaces. Itâs fucked me up so much I didnât even quite grasp how much but today my therapist asked me for the first time about like romantic relationships and I physically could not say I am aro and ace. Completely incapable, utterly frozen, and I just kinda let her believe what she will. Ironically the fact that Iâve gone from being willing and ready to tell ppl Iâm ace as just another facet of myself to entirely unable and unsolicited to tell anyone, is probably a thing one might want to talk w oneâs therapist about.
This has really fucked not just the community at large but fucked up individual ace ppl in so many ways. Itâs not something âfunnyâ or remotely harmless, itâs absolutely devastated us.
I reblogged this only a couple of days ago when this hand only 2k-ish notes.Now this has 10k notes FULL of ace , aro and aroace people talking about how much the âace discourseâ emotionally and mentally traumatized them and how so many of them stopped coming out as ace even among their most lgbtqa friendly peers and groups and its just SO SO heartbreaking to read.
The ace discourse has been going on here for around 3 years now with no signs of stopping considering of how many excusionist and aphobic ace discourse keep popping up here and 99% of them are just really horrible people who keep bullying,harassing and mocking ace people as a form of âdiscourseâ
Ace discourse hasnt made ANYONE feel safe in the lgbtqa community except people who are as much of a bully towards ace people as aphobes are and has just created a huge divide among the community bc many lgbtqa ACE people too feel like they cant trust other lgbtqa people non ace people since they might turn out to be aphobic.
I hope anyone who has EVER contributed to this disgusting agenda against the existence of ace people reads this and realizes how they have only played the part of the bullies and bigots they hated in schools and societies, towards ace people and have contributed to the unsafeness and self hatred ace people feel for being ace.
No matter how many âhot takesâ people write with as many leftist buzzwords or masterpost aphobes make ,ace people arent EVER going to stop existing.Its their LIVES and not some internet identity they make up so all this harassment of ace people is only EVER going to make ace people hide themselves not erase themselves.

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How can I be sure I'm ace enough? (There's always this voice in my head that keeps me thinking about it)
It's okay to question yourself. Just trust that you know who you are and allow for the possibility that later on down the line you may feel differently but that right now this is who you know yourself to be. And you're ace enough.
(The anon from before) Sorry, I basically said that I realized I was demisexual about a month ago and I'm starting to question my id again. Like I can't imagine myself in situations where s*x is involved. I'll experiment by myself...but I'm not putting myself in a situation with a partner or anything. I'm 20 almost 21 years old and can't watch scenes like that. I feel bad weird, it's awkward as heck, and I don't know if I want to do anything like that - with or without romance.
I'm sure that lack of interest in sex is a part of why some people come to ace identities but as i mentioned in the last answer, i think it's moreso a lack of sexual attraction that people use as a marker in what label they choose. If you think asexual suits you better then you're asexual. It's totally up to yourself what you choose to use. The thing with labels is that they're meant to be helpful for you when explaining yourself to others or finding like-minded people; they're not meant to cause you more stress. Labels don't always fit perfectly, either. And that's ok.
-I can't watch a sex scene in a movie. Even if they're happily married, already have kids, and it makes narrative sense for them to do it, I can't watch. I'll avert my eyes and I feel all-in-all entirely uncomfortable. And while I thought that I would eventually do something with a husband one day, now I'm not so sure. I just can't imagine myself in that situation, even if we were entirely in love and I was consenting. It makes me feel weird in a bad way. So here is my dilemma: 2/???
:am I demisexual, graysexual, full on asexual, what the heck am I? I know that labels aren't that big of a deal, but I want to know what I am. Knowing that I'm heteromantic helps things, and I definitely know that I like guys, but it's frustrating to not know beyond that what and who I am. I don't know. What do you think this sounds like? I'm sorry to dump all this out of the blue. I just don't know anymore. 3/3
I never got the first part of your ask. I think being uncomfortable with sex scenes in media is not uncommon even for non ace folks especially depending on age, though i have no idea how old you are. People tend to define asexuality as a lack of sexual attraction and less about how they feel about sex in general (though the two can go hand in hand). If you don't experience sexual attraction or limited or situationally, you may choose to identify with the ace umbrella. But I'm not in the business of telling others what labels they can and can't use.
Itâs always been so weird to me how the response to drug addicted homeless people is to just let them die outside from quitting cold turkey on the cold hard concrete while being stared at by snobby ass hats cuz âoh thatâs what they get for choosing to do drugsâ or what ever the fuck
depriving homeless addicts wont magically make them not addicted to drugs.
Itâs a whole obsession in this gross ass western society with punishing marginalized poor people and ââteaching them a lessonââ
if you want to help people like this in your community, see if thereâs needle exchange/cleanups you can volunteer in, or other kinds of harm reduction groups.
find out if these places give out narcan injection kits (narcan is a life-saving drug that can reverse an opiod reversal). learn how to use it, carry it with you. whether you live in an area known for opioid abuse or not, you never know when you might encounter someone overdosing. i live in oakland and nearly every week someone i know witnesses an OD. other ways you can help is just destigmatize drug users. encourage people in your life that use to have someone nearby when they use. encourage discussions about drug stigma and question people when they raise this sort of rhetoric. drug stigma kills!!!!!
So at some point last year I think/thought I was or maybe still am ace. But when I started dating my girlfriend I started feeling sexual attraction and I feel bad for saying Iâm one when maybe I wasnât and it was just due to a bad past relationship but sometimes I still think I am cuz Iâm only really sexually attracted to my girlfriend so like maybe Demi or grace. I always thought I was one of those two. I need help, thank you have a nice day and sorry for the long ask! :)
I'm not sure what you need help with? There's nothing wrong with adopting new labels as they feel more comfy for you and it doesn't mean that the old labels weren't once right for you. If you feel like gray or demi now suits you better then use them. Labels are important, but they're not the be all and end all- it's okay to be in label limbo for a while until you find one that fits how you feel. I wouldn't stress about it.

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Iâm really proud of ace wlw for figuring out the difference between internalized self-hatred and not feeling sexual attraction to women. Iâm so happy for aro wlw who have learned to accept themselves and recognize that their sexual feelings for women are not predatory because they donât feel romantic attraction. itâs okay to use the split attraction model if it helps you. your identities are not the result of internalized homophobia.Â
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Every time I see things about aces and how âif youâre ace, you wonât want a partnerâ, I feel a little weird because I know I like girls in a gay way (I want to date them and look into their eyes etc.) but the idea that I might like someone in a gay way is always described as sexual attraction. I think Iâm ace; the idea of doing anything sexy or âpassionateâ with anyone kind of repulses me, and I donât feel anything in particular when I see people in revealing clothes. 1/2 (sorry for the length).
2/2) Nonetheless, I can still appreciate really beautiful girls by their faces and sometimes even their (clothed) figures. Iâm sure that I do want a partner. Am I ace? Am I gay? Sorry, just kind of nervous and confused.
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You can be gay and ace. I donât know where youâre reading âIf youâre ace, you wonât want a partnerâ, but thatâs not a universal truth. Sure, there are some aces (who are often also aro-spec) who are not interested in being in a relationship, but by no means is not wanting a partner synonymous with asexuality. I am not in the business of giving other people labels, but what you are describing sounds like you experience attraction to girls (perhaps romantic?), just maybe not sexual attraction hence the ace part. Sometimes people like to use what has been called the split attraction model of describing their sexuality- typically separating out romantic and sexual attraction. People who may feel similar to you might call themselves homoromantic asexual meaning they experience romantic attraction to the same gender but donât experience sexual attraction. Thereâs nothing wrong with being ace and wanting a partner.Â
Asexual Awareness Week is here!! Time to celebrate each and every one of you wonderful aces <3 Thank you for being you! Enjoy!!
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Youâre not weird.
Youâre not selfish.
You donât have opening up issues.
Just because society pushes towards romance, dating, and marriage doesnât mean you have to.

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Trying to figure out if youâre ace or aro can be so goddamn hard because itâs like, trying to find the absence of something. Imagine youâre at a pond and you want to know if there are any turtles, or fish. Say you find a turtle and youâre like âgreat! Now I know there are turtles.â Or a fish, now you know for sure there are fish. Or you find both, and now you know for a fact there are both turtles and fish in the pond.
But like, if you donât find any turtles it might be that there are no turtles or maybe youâre just really shitty at looking for turtles and maybe you THINK you saw a turtle over there or maybe it was just a stick. Maybe there are only a few turtles. Maybe you need to do something special to find the turtles. Maybe a bunch of these rocks are actually turtles but you couldnât tell them apart. Maybe there are no turtles. You have no idea. Meanwhile some people are saying âOh there have to be turtles! Youâll find them eventually ;)â or âHow many turtles have you found in your pond?â or âTry planting some vegetables at the shore to attract the turtles.â Or âOh no! What disaster happened to your pond that there are no turtles?â And youâre just standing there wet with an empty net and a tired expression.
But whatever because whether there are turtles or fish or not your pondâs ecology works just fine without them because thatâs what eco-communities do they form a system around what they have. You arenât missing anything if you donât have turtles you just have a pond system without turtles. If someone tried to change you by pouring a bunch of turtles into your pond it would probably fuck something up.
So you donât have to be entirely sure. You donât have to search every inch of the damn pond before you can decide there are probably no turtles. If you want to take the aro or ace label because you think it fits go for it. And if you do find your turtles you can rename the pond. Thatâs fine.
Hello everyone! This is resource I wanted to tell you all about! Itâs an app called âVoice Pitch Analyzerâ. It has you read a passage a full minute, and then tells you if the range may be perceived as more masculine, feminine, or androgynous. (Disclaimer: Obviously peoples voices vary from person to person. There are women with very low voices and men with very high ones. This does not mean they arenât ârealâ men and women. This is simply a post for those with voice dysphoria or who would just like to sound more masculine, feminine, or androgynous to those around them). Please donât be discouraged if you voice does not land in the range you want it to! It takes practice, and practice is just what this app is for. It allows you to practice speaking in the range you want to be percieved as. Admittedly, it can be a little disheartening having to strain my voice just to get in the upper androgynous range, so a major dysphoria trigger warning to anyone considering downloading it, but, with practice I am getting better and able to talk in that low voice for longer periods of time.
Signal boosting! Please reblog to help others!
Please reblog this, even if you are cis! This app could help so many trans people, and I would like for it to become as well known as Refugee Restrooms!!