Okay making another post because the last one was poorly typed and it was extremely blinded by anger. When I first announced I was taking a break from Tumblr it wasn’t to avoid taking accountability. That was before I received the major backlash for being transphobic, biphobic, etc. That was when terfs invaded the post and were making fun of trans people. As a trans guy it offended me greatly and I needed to get away from that.
1. I didn’t address the transphobia properly. I didn’t take in to account trans women’s feelings and for that I’m sorry. A lot of the trans bingos were related to dysphoria because I projected a lot of my feelings into the trans guy bingo. I still suffer from internalized self hatred from being trans and that was extremely apparent in the bingo. Being trans shouldn’t be about invasive questions and self hatred. I shouldn’t have made the bingos so invasive and uncomfortable. And I definitely should have acknowledged that trans woman aren’t always feminine and don’t always love dresses and makeup. And for that I apologize. I understand why both trans men and women would be offended by that.
2. The biphobia I addressed in the other post. Bi people can date nonbinary people, I agree. It was a careless afterthought and I should have included a space for that. Nonbinary isn’t exclusive to only pan people.
3. Nonbinary people do not have a universal experience. Not everyone is androgynous and afab. I thought of this in advance and that’s why I added androgynous, feminine, and masculine spaces. There isn’t a set way to look nonbinary. Not every nonbinary person uses they/them pronouns/neopronouns and I should have included he/him and she/her pronouns.
4. As mentioned in the other post, most of these ideas were not my own. I simply designed the bingos and included ideas that were sent to me. I apologize if people think I was trying to talk over their own experiences. I’m not lesbian, enby, gay, etc and it’s not my position to talk over their experiences. I should have specified that in the original post.
5. Sterotyping. My original mindset was not at all trying to stereotype the community. But that’s exactly what these bingos look like and it’s hard to see otherwise. There is no universal experience for the lgbt community. We’re all diverse and do not fit into neat boxes. There’s so many ways to experience being a lesbian, as with being nonbinary, gay, bi, etc.
I have since deleted the bingos from my profile, although it can still be viewed from reblogs and will still probably be floating around Tumblr. I’m not asking for people to accept my apology, especially after how angry and blind I acted earlier. These aren’t meant to be excuses but just to explain my mindset during when I was making these bingos, and to provide an explanation for why I done certain things. I just want people to understand my viewpoint on the subject and that I am acknowledging those who have felt hurt by my post. You’re right to be angry for feeling stereotyped and like you’re being poorly represented by someone who does not share your experiences.
