❤ ღ A.Kiss3s ღ ❤

1. If you do not go after what you want, you will never have it. 

2. If you do not ask, the answer will always be no. 

Here’s the information I request on my contact form, and how I use it.

Required information is marked with an asterisk*

*First name

*Middle name

*Last name

*Email address

*Phone number

*Do you prefer texting or calling?

Texting 

Calling

Either

*Provider References

Please provide the name, email, website address or ad link, and contact number for AT LEAST TWO currently active companions, and the dates you last saw them. 

Age

Employment Verification (REQUIRED if you have less than two provider references, STRONGLY RECOMMENDED otherwise)

Employer’s name, your position/title, company phone number, your direct line or extension, and story for me to use when I call (or other way for me to verify employment, such as an employee photo ID badge)

*Appointment Date and Time

*Appointment Duration

P411/TER/localboard/Datecheck Info

Outift request (not guaranteed)

*What are you looking to get out of our date?

*Where did you find me?

Is there anything else you’d like to tell me?

RECOMMENDED Driver’s License Upload

OPTIONAL Face Photo Upload

How I use this information:

Google their name, both with and without quotes around their name (quotation marks tell the engine to search specifically for that exact phrase, not similar phrases)

Google their email address, both with and without quotations

Google their phone number, both with and without quotations

Plug their phone number and email address into the search feature of my local board to see if they’ve ever been blacklisted

Go to your state’s courts website, and search their court records database for his name. If your state separates their database by county, search for your county, his county, and a few surrounding counties. In my state, all superior court cases are available to view. You can see what pleading/motion was filed, and when, as well as the final judgment. You do have to pay to request the actual documents to see their contents, and you probably cannot do this anonymously (in my county, you have to call the county clerk’s office). In my state, district and municipal cases cannot be viewed, but they will still show up in the search results. Your state may be different. 

Search for them on Facebook. Often their wives or children have much more of their profiles publicly visible. 

Search for any information on their family members. 

(I will be buying a Spokeo subscription soon, so I can plug all their info into here, as well)

Google the providers (normally Googling their name and city will pop them up if they have any sort of online presence). Or just find them based on the info he gave you.

See what kind of reputation those providers have. What to they charge? Do they have any rob reports or bad reviews posted of them? Do they look like they have their shit together? Do they have their own website? Does it look nice? Are there a ton of typos? Having your own website legitimizes you. Do they have professional photos, or are they bathroom selfies?

Contact the providers. I start off by emailing them. “Hi Jessica, this is Foxxxy. Billy Joe is requesting a date with me and used you as a reference. Can you please tell me if he was safe, clean and respectful? Would you recommend him to another provider? Anything else you can tell me about him and his personality I would very much appreciate! Best, Foxxxy.” I follow up with a text. “Hi Jessica, this is Foxxxy. I just sent you an email with a reference request. If you could get back to me promptly, I would really appreciate it!” 

See what they say. Duh. 

Contact his employer. The one time I called a client’s company, it was quite well-known and Google-able. I called the main company line, and asked to be connected to the president of _____. He was already en route on the plane, but I was able to hear his voice during his voicemail recording. A simple phone call to his cell phone would match up his voice, verifying he does work there. I have had a few clients send me photos of their photo ID badge (military personnel, for example). 

Obviously check to see how many Okay’s they have, or if they’re on the whitelists for the hobby IDs they provided you. Search their usernames/IDs to see if anything negative pops up. 

If they sent you a photo of their driver’s license: search Google Maps for the address on the card. Do they live in a nice part of town? Google the address. Has it popped up on Zillow lately? Any homeowner info pop up? You might be able to search their driver’s license number, either by Googling or going to your state highway patrol site, though I haven’t tried this myself.

If they sent you a photo of their face: reverse Google image search that shit! Also reverse search for it on TinEye. Do they look friendly? 

Outfits seen on the gram that inspired me. In my journey to be a successful spoiled girlfriend, I really wanna step my game up when it comes to what I wear DAILY. I always wanna look like that girl but I struggle to 1. wake up early enough in the morning and #2 pick an outfit the night before. 

My travel SD found my SA profile and sent me an angry email asking if I was spending “his” money on clothes for other dudes. This is how I responded. He’s the passionate, lookin’ for love type so I match his tone. He came back offering to switch to monthly allowance and to pay my tuition. Watch and learn xxo

Dear —-,

I wanted to replace the blue dress with something form fitting, since that’s what you like and most of my wardrobe is loose and shapeless. As for the photos, it saddens me to think that you would doubt whether those were for you. But I don’t think explanations really do much to ease feelings of jealousy. 

I am open to the option of exclusivity. There isn’t anyone else, and I would be happy to end my search for further financial support. It didn’t occur to me as a possibility, given that you support a whole family. 

There are some things I would like to draw to your attention about my commitment to our relationship. Each time we go away, I lie to my parents about where I am. This may seem insignificant but it makes me sad, anxious, and uncomfortable for several reasons, particularly because they are not in good health. In November my shifts at work were cut back because I had been asking for too much time off. When I came back from our trip to San Fransisco I was told they had hired someone in my place because it was evident that I didn’t “need” the job. I’ve also been experiencing some degree of loneliness the past few months. You have never before made it seem like it would be an issue if I had a “normal” boyfriend, but our arrangement precludes that possibility. I take no issue with your infidelity. In fact I have a lot of compassion for your situation. But for myself, I am not comfortable pursuing even casual relationships without being honest about my dating situation. Which means I do not date at all.

I haven’t discussed these things with you up until now because, quite simply, they are not your problems. They are consequences of decisions I’ve made. I didn’t want to make them “our” problems, because I think part of what makes our time together so incredible is the amount of freedom and acceptance that we give each other. However, had I better anticipated the personal and financial risks associated with being with your travel companion, I would have asked for a more generous gift structure. Make no mistake, you have given me so many experiences that I treasure deeply. But like any kind of “secret” relationship, no matter how passionate and loving, it comes with an aspect of burden.  

I can understand the insecurity you’re feeling but I feel unappreciated when you talk like this. I like to think you see some strength of character in me, as I see in you. I care deeply about you ——-. I’m not sure if what we need is better communication, to change the structure of our arrangement, or a combination of both. Tell me what you think you need. I hope we can work this out.

Love,

– 

🐍❤️

*I asked for $3K in compensation for losing my job and he obliged 

** I might be a literal genius

My travel SD found my SA profile and sent me an angry email asking if I was spending “his” money on clothes for other dudes. This is how I responded. He’s the passionate, lookin’ for love type so I match his tone. He came back offering to switch to monthly allowance and to pay my tuition. Watch and learn xxo

Dear —-,

I wanted to replace the blue dress with something form fitting, since that’s what you like and most of my wardrobe is loose and shapeless. As for the photos, it saddens me to think that you would doubt whether those were for you. But I don’t think explanations really do much to ease feelings of jealousy. 

I am open to the option of exclusivity. There isn’t anyone else, and I would be happy to end my search for further financial support. It didn’t occur to me as a possibility, given that you support a whole family. 

There are some things I would like to draw to your attention about my commitment to our relationship. Each time we go away, I lie to my parents about where I am. This may seem insignificant but it makes me sad, anxious, and uncomfortable for several reasons, particularly because they are not in good health. In November my shifts at work were cut back because I had been asking for too much time off. When I came back from our trip to San Fransisco I was told they had hired someone in my place because it was evident that I didn’t “need” the job. I’ve also been experiencing some degree of loneliness the past few months. You have never before made it seem like it would be an issue if I had a “normal” boyfriend, but our arrangement precludes that possibility. I take no issue with your infidelity. In fact I have a lot of compassion for your situation. But for myself, I am not comfortable pursuing even casual relationships without being honest about my dating situation. Which means I do not date at all.

I haven’t discussed these things with you up until now because, quite simply, they are not your problems. They are consequences of decisions I’ve made. I didn’t want to make them “our” problems, because I think part of what makes our time together so incredible is the amount of freedom and acceptance that we give each other. However, had I better anticipated the personal and financial risks associated with being with your travel companion, I would have asked for a more generous gift structure. Make no mistake, you have given me so many experiences that I treasure deeply. But like any kind of “secret” relationship, no matter how passionate and loving, it comes with an aspect of burden.  

I can understand the insecurity you’re feeling but I feel unappreciated when you talk like this. I like to think you see some strength of character in me, as I see in you. I care deeply about you ——-. I’m not sure if what we need is better communication, to change the structure of our arrangement, or a combination of both. Tell me what you think you need. I hope we can work this out.

Love,

– 

🐍❤️

*I asked for $3K in compensation for losing my job and he obliged 

** I might be a literal genius