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These tips are from a friend who gave me permission to share. Really helped my paranoid ass in my first US tour this year. She does not go over how to protect yourself from getting caught at the border, that’s a whole seperate topic.

Get on Safeoffice.com if you already arent. The blacklist section is not optional, it's a must have, especially for NYC. There are a lot of dangerous clients that target touring girls and SO is mandatory.

SO also has a great section for hotels that girls review as good or bad for working out of.

Screen everyone. Full screening, ID and verified employment. Be ruthless. Do not let anyone argue about your screening with you or bargain with you (ie: coffee dates in person, references only, P411 only). If they show any resistance, move on. You have so much more to lose in the USA than in Canada, your safety is not a joking matter here, you can get arrested, assaulted or killed. You have to be unforgiving with your safety bc clients will not be. The good clients will comply. There are lots of them. Legitimate clients understand the importance of screening in the US. It's not like Canada. You MUST know and be able to confirm without a doubt the identity of the person you're seeing.

If your tour doesnt go well or you are slow, don't let the desperation make you cut corners or get sloppy and risk seeing questionable clients. Cut your losses and move on. Your safety is not worth risking for any kind of money at all.

I haven’t made an advice post in forever but I think this is important considering how much hassle hotels can be at this point. Here are some things that I do to avoid suspicion when staying at a hotel.

1.) Become a rewards member at a few chains that you will frequent. You will start earning points/nights and as your status increases, the likelihood of them hassling you is much less. They want to keep good customers.

2.) If you have a LLC, open a business credit card or debit card and use it to check in. Always make the reservations under your “do business as” name. That way you just look like a business traveler.

3.) If I am staying at a hotel too close to my house, instead of using my driver’s license, I’ll check in with my passport and say I lost my license. There is no address and most employees won’t even take notice to the address on your reservation.

4.) When checking in, I wear a fake wedding band and I always wear business attire unless it is the weekend. Always carry luggage with you.

5.) Try to survey the entrances and exits. Find different ways to come and go if possible.

6.) Try not to call for extra things like towels. If you anticipate needing more, pack some in your suitcase. Calling for extra towels when there is only one guest seems fishy.

7.) Try to space out your clients if possible and leave the room during the day at least once or twice. It’s really strange to stay in the room all day so try to get out and about.

8.) If you check out early, just leave the key in the room. They will know you are gone.

9.) Don’t overtip the maid. I’ve heard of some providers ‘bribing’ for silence but honestly, it’s a red flag. Certain hotels offer rewards to staff who find escorts so you might be shooting yourself in the foot .

10.) Make sure you hide all your stuff in your suitcase if you leave and have housekeeping clean the room. I guess you could lock it in the safe but I have never had a problem just tucking it into the bottom of my suitcase.

No, the act itself of the woman messaging first does not put you, the woman, at a disadvantage.

I am assuming here that you are looking for something substantial with someone who you see potential in (e.g. not simply sex, or to be used for emotional and mental labor), but you are unsure of how precisely to approach.

I think it’s important to consider precisely what your character is and whether or not you’re portraying yourself with authenticity.

For instance, are you naturally extroverted or welcoming?

Is it your instinct to introduce yourself first in a social situation, or are you more inclined to wait for other people to approach you first... and if so, is that out of habit, anxiety, or are you genuinely inclined towards introversion?

Do you find yourself being limited by social expectations of how a woman “should” behave - or do you genuinely feel as though those rules apply to you?

Analyze yourself and see where you are holding yourself back out of social stigma and inhibition and what is your genuine nature. The more authentic and true to yourself you are, the better the outcome.

I find in many scenarios, making a first move may be a power move because it comes across as unexpected. It’s against the norm. Many women who are expressive and open with their thoughts and emotions thereby limit themselves because they hear rhetoric saying they need to portray themselves in a certain way. Whether this is in the field of sex work or not.

I would say, if you feel as though it is pertinent, go ahead and make a first move but don’t attach any significance to it. Be fully confident. Don’t attach any feelings or meaning to it. Just see how it goes, and if the response is positive and welcoming towards you - with genuine thought, see whether you can translate this into something more.

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Keeping regular clients is one of the most important things you can do as an escort. When I was making $30000 a month as an escort before I retired, $25000 of that was from regular clients and $5000 was from random clients calling and booking an hour here or there. If I never had repeat escort clients and I always depended on seeing new clients, I would have never been able to scale back from seeing 5 clients a day to only 1 a day. Having regular clients who you can depend on seeing makes your job so much easier.

One of the easiest ways to turn a client from a one timer to a a regular client is by asking when you’re going to see them again. Tell them how much you enjoyed your time with them and let them know you’re dying to see them again. You’ll be surprised by how many clients actually ended up booking you again and again from just saying that. If I didn’t tell a client that (because I forgot) it was almost 50/50 on whether they would call me or not. If I told them something like

“Wow, I really loved our time together. When can we see each other again?”

They’d reply “Ummm, I’m not sure.. I’ll have to check”

“Of course, sorry I didn’t mean to put you on the spot… I just got a little excited! Would it be okay if I emailed you?”

If they agreed, I’d shoot them an email almost immediately from my blackberry saying how amazing they are and that I can’t wait for the next time. I’d keep in touch via email and it was almost 99% of them that I’d end up seeing again, and then again and again. Sure, it was aggressive on my part, but this is a business. If you can’t be a little pushy in order to get your foot in the door then you’re in the wrong business. There’s 1000s of escorts working in every city and if you offer a good service but can’t make the effort to keep in touch with clients then they will simply move on. But if you make that extra effort to keep in touch with them on a personal level it will extend your ROI on your advertising dollars.

It’s important to say though that if you’re disinterested in the conversation, in bed you’re lazy and unenthusiastic and then you try and keep in touch afterwards it’s not going to help you out. You need to make as strong of a connection with them as you can in your time together and then follow it up.

There are a lot of other ways to turn clients into regulars, but I think it’s just a lot of common sense. If someone books for an hour, stay for an hour and 15 minutes or an hour and a half. Don’t watch the clock. Be on time, every time. Make sure you’re always fresh. Cater to fantasies, wear school girl uniforms, bring handcuffs and a blindfold, remember your clients birthdays and special dates. All of this stuff builds up a relationship between you and your clients and the strong they feel your relationship with them is, the more likely they are to give you gifts, take you on trips, book you for 5 hours instead of 1 hour, etc.

The biggest problem you’re going to run into is your clients asking to see you off the clock. I would have two different responses to this.

One response was for clients whom I felt weren’t that wealthy and were looking for financial relief from our relationship.. I would simply tell them that I’m a very busy girl and I can’t afford to take time off the clock. I will clear my schedule for them any time because I prefer to spend time with them over any of my other clients, but I just can’t afford to make time for any man that’s off the clock cause I’m losing money twice. They usually get the idea.

My other response is if I feel they’re just looking for a deeper connection but they’re very wealthy. In that case I tell them I have the same types of feelings towards them and I’d like to see them off the clock as well, but I’d need to make sure that I’m being taken care of. If they agree I would ask them to take care of my monthly bills and let them know that you have other long time clients whom you cannot stop seeing, maybe at some point in the future but not now. So essentially if they’re willing to give me 5k a month, I’ll see them off the clock one or two times a week. I find this to be very mutually beneficial and if you can get 3-4 clients in this type of arrangement you’ll end up making a lot more than if you only stayed on the clock.

Delete all your old abandoned profiles with this website. You don’t want a Myspace account from middle school coming back to haunt you

Delete all your old email addresses, especially if you have used them connected to old accounts, mailing lists, or public records

Op Out of all the major people-search engines. You can use this article for help on how to do some of them. White Pages, True People Search, Spokeo, Instant Checkmate

Go through the privacy settings of all your social media. Don’t have your full name in the general description info that everyone can see. Make sure all your accounts are set to private. If you can, don’t have a clear photo of yourself as the public photo. For example, my facebook is a picture of me looking at a piece of art and you can’t see my face. There are tons of classy ways to do so it doesn’t look unnatural. My Instagram photo is just a photo of my bitmoji.

Remove the EXIF data (Exchangeable Image File Format) from every photo on your sugar profiles and any future photos that you send him. This is important because he can easily find out exactly where a photo was taken.

Google, Yahoo, and Bing yourself from the incognito version of your browser so you can see what everyone else does. You might have forgotten your old Pinterest or youtube channel from five years ago.

(Bonus) Set up some fake info for your Sugar Daddy to find. I have a fake Facebook with a name that’s super close to my fake sugar name and some photos of me that I don’t have posted anywhere else. I also have a fake Instagram. Last, I have a fake LinkedIn that I log into when I’m screening a POT. If you find him, he’ll see your fake profile visited him and think that he’s got your name now.   

Good Luck Guys. 

Elle Stanger