Is this ableism

I think the only way I can apologize for it is to read and show an exact excerpt from my diagnosis papers.

*ahem*

Everything else, though...

Women can be sexist to men. Given the first one, I was surprised by this. Usually the “you can’t be racist to white people” and the “you can’t be sexist to men” narratives go hand in hand.

Not completely inaccurate, but you can be classist when you’re “hitting upwards”.

Heterosexism doesn’t affect the “TQ” portion of your acronym, at least not remotely directly.

Because it erases and invalidates the trans people don’t feel dysphoric.

There are trans people who don’t feel uncomfortable with their assigned gender, but feel that another gender - the gender they ID with, the gender that they are - is a better fit.

There are trans people who don’t feel uncomfortable with their body the way that it is, and thus choose not to change it. And there are also those who are okay with their body the way that is it, but want to change it because they feel that they would be more comfortable with it if it was different.

There are trans people who are okay with being seen as and refered to as their assigned gender, but who feel that they’d be more comfortable being seen as or refered to as another gender - the gender that they ID with, the gender that they are.

Some would say that is dysphoria, but it’s not okay to force that onto someone. If those people don’t define themselves as dysphoric, if they don’t think of themselves as experiencing dysphoria, it is not okay to try to force them to call themselves dysphoric.

It is not okay to say “oh, but you’re really dysphoric, even if you don’t want to call it that”.

It’s not okay to push labels onto other people against their will.

Not to mention that there are trans people who have neurodivergences that literally prevent them from feeling dysphoria. Consider how common alexithymia is among Autistic people, for example. Then recognise that at the same time, Autistic people are statistically far more likely to be trans than allistic (non-autistic) people. And then, finally, most importantly, recognise the ableism in telling neurodivergent people that their genders and their transness is not real just because they don’t experience their feelings and emotions the same way you do.

Then there’s also the trans people who used to be dysphoric, but who have transitioned to the point where they no longer feel dysphoric. It’s not okay to tell those people that their transness is no longer valid. (And don’t start with the “oh, but I meant you have to be dysphoric or you have to have been dysphoric in the past!” because that is not what you said. That is never what you people say. You say “have to be dysphoric”. Always.)

And there are probably many, many more examples that could be given for why the “you have to be dysphoric to be trans” argument is bad. Because trans people are so, so, so vastly varied, there is going to be things and points of view that I have not been able to think of or remember to put in this post.

u wanna fukin go?

1. Can’t invalidate a group that’s, by definition, invalid.

2. That is what we in the know call “special snowflake syndrome” - “oh, I’m assigned X at birth, but Y just sounds so much more special~”

3. First half doesn’t prove anything, second half sounds a lot like dysphoria, but with conflicting wording.

4. Dysphoria, being medical, isn’t a matter of “defining” or “identifying” as such. While I admit it’s not a perfect analogy, you don’t “identify” as having, say, scoliosis. You just have it. Dysphoria is more vague than things like scoliosis, but it’s by no means nebulous.

5. Yes, it is. Denying the truth is bad.

6. If the label is defined as a medical thing, then yes it is.

7. Alexithymia makes it more difficult to process, recognize, and regulate emotions: not impossible.

8. “Never” is a strong word - it’s generally accepted that the qualifier is “had dysphoria, even if it isn’t active due to transitioning or other such things”. Saying “you need dysphoria” is just a lot quicker.

9. You didn’t really give anything good against it. Just a lot of bullshitting, lying, and a “no, but yes”.

10. Technically, it’s distress and unease that may be coupled with depression and anxiety. Distress and unease are not inherently suffering and misery, although not usually much fun. The intensity varies from person to person, so some people do experience suffering and misery.

tl;dr: you’re speaking out of your ass and you know it.

How is it not also steeped in racism?

My guesses?

1. hhur bhlur privilege plus power

How is it not also steeped in racism?

no chance of falling down it

While I personally don’t see their lines as disrespectful, I see how they could be seen as such, with much potential for perceived disrespect showing up in what was emphasized, and that they, well, called him out.

I just love how this is an actual name for a diagnosis.

This is…this is beautiful…

…Are you serious?

Did you really try to fact-check a cripple to determine if something was ableist or not?

I just love how this is an actual name for a diagnosis.

This is…this is beautiful…