Ace/aro/aspec Confessions

i'm aroace and i have a friend who constantly gets into relationships. whenever they get into a new relationship, i always feel bad because i honestly think that they should stay off the dating game for like.... a while. and while i know they'd agree with me, i can't just say it outright. i feel like my inexperience with love and romance makes me too blunt about it and all the nuances and i'll say things i don't mean. and i don't have the forethought to plan out my words, so i'm just kinda stuck watching them go through the ups and downs of their "love" life. it makes me wish that grabbing them by the shoulders and shaking some sense into them will get my point across. but i think subtly, they know how i feel. add another thing to the list of why i'm grateful i don't want any romantic/sexual relationships.

I can’t hold it anymore. I (aroace, ex mormon) know one of the stars of “My Husband’s Not Gay”. Not sharing names for privacy reasons but he still very much believes in what he’s doing.

im aroace and havent told anyone in my real life about it and i just overheard my dad tell my mom "we're all human and its human nature to have sexual attraction to either men or women, everyone experiences it" so. Yeah I dont think ill ever come out

Amatonormativity (as a A-Spec person) is a special type of HELL occupying the world - because it’s not only heavily normalized within media and society, but is also quite normalized within multiple parts of the Queer community as well.

i’ve realized over the course of the last few months that i might be demi and it’s been a lot to process. i’ve identified as just aroace for years and then i met someone this year who has changed my perception of a lot of things. i’m happy about this there’s just waves of overwhelm (not necessarily good or bad in nature) as i process.

One of my best friends is getting married, another is moving away, the third told me a few days ago that she thinks she is ready to date again after a horrible breakup she had a year ago and I helped set up her profile. And me well I'm just here. 26 years old and watching it all disappear. I'm so scared of being lonely. I hate this.

Sending this cuz I need to get it off my chest but idk if this is the place to do it

I know this one is darker but I kinda just need to put this. Somewhere.

allos putting some mf they picked up from the street over their friends they've known for years & then wondering why are their aspec (not exclusively) friends mad gotta be the biggest insolence ever.

me finally figuring out that i am, in fact, aroace but then this guy waltzes into my life and i??? like him??? like that????? hello??? i have never had a crush in my life what is this

I have absolutely no idea what people mean when they say they love someone but they don't like them. Like??? Literally how are you falling in love with someone you don't even like? Why are you spending enough time around someone you don't like that you develop love for them?

I'm aroace and recently bc of Halloween my closest friend and i did our usual thing of talking about what we should be next year. He suggested Jedediah and Octavius (i would be Octavius) and we both know those two are commonly shipped and literally went from talking about doing a duo costume to talking about how those two are 100% together. I know I'm probably overthinking it but im scared bc if he likes me like that i might lose him as a friend and i really don't want to lose him. (he does know im aroace btw)

i’ve identified as aroace for years and i still do but i am enamored by my roommate and think i romantically like them a little bit but it’s not fully romantic and i think it’s either alterous or queerplatonic. i just want to be close to them. i rarely get crushes and i’ve never had feelings to this degree. i’m glad that the fact that i’m realizing i’m more on the aroace spectrum than i thought isn’t freaking me out like it has a little in the past.

boyfriend stopped feeling sexual desire entirely when i got with him bc he knows i’m ace is this a W

A friend showed me a very nsfw AI character website and I entertained myself talking to a saucy character about my uni subjects. It was a hilarious way to study tbh

i thank god for making me ace because if i had a person to channel all of this horniness to, it would not be good

Hi so at this point I think I might just stop identifying as acespec bc I feel like none of it describes me. I am not allo but I'm not ace I'm not any of it. I will just continue along my merry life and if I find someone I like who I think is hot, and I'm brave enough to try, I'll try. It's whatever. Not a big deal.