I'D RATHER KILL MYSELF THAN BE ANYONE ELSE.

no afab baby you don't have a "transfem headmate" words mean things

counterpoint this does happen with fictives quite frequently

counterpoint: still not what transfem means

yeah lets not do pluralphobia in our transfeminism

you know being an asshole to someone is not a great way to get them to listen to you.

lol. lmao even. tone police her after not listening the first two times, that tracks

there it is! "a feminist was too much of a bitch to me so that's why i'm bot a feminist" give a big round of applause folks we got there

i literally just said i agree with the movement but dislike the community but reading is hard ig :/

what you said was "i hesitate to fully commit to feminism because some feminists are assholes" but reading your own words is hard ig :/

i hesitate to fully commit to the transfeminism community because ive seen extremely widespread opinions on both plural people and mixed people that are fucking apalling.

i just don't know how else to explain to you that someone who is a girl in a body that was afab is cis, definitionally. whether she's a headmate or not, it doesn't matter. "transgender woman" isn't a gender, it's a relationship to womanhood that is based in a lived experience, one that someone afab does not have. do you argue about letting white people talk about being "racialized" because they're plural too? do you hesitate to commit to antiracism because some people are just too mean about white people's headmates? i can't stress enough again that i am a plural transfem. but the headmates i have who are men are, shock horror, not trans men. because our body was not afab, and regardless if whether you're a fictive or a factive or an introject or what, you only have the lived experience of the body you live in. that's how being alive works. this doesn't have to be so hard.

Someone assigned female at birth cannot have a "transfem headmate" anymore than a white person can have a"black headmate"

This would honestly be life changing for me. The idea came up because I feel so incapable of telling the people in my life when they do racist shit. And like furthermore, actually respond beyond just an I'm sorry. Like for the love of god actually internalize the shit the Black and Brown folks say to you.

does anyone else remember when shows from the like late 90s to the early 00s would say “dudette” to be more inclusive? that was kinda silly but it was so much better than this “dude is gender neutral” bullshit, and now people are even using “bro/brother” gender neutrally, like what the actual fuck!?

"queerest place on the internet" is accurate actually because even in irl queer spaces transfems are hunted down and smoked out and harassed and not let alone until they are forcibly removed

it's just that like. if I were writing a story, and somebody said, "I think that character in your story is a trans woman," and I didn't want them to think that. I would probably avoid a scene where I have someone hand that character a trans flag and call them princess. And I wouldn't change what pronouns I use for them, or have them tumble out of a closet at their introduction. Oh and I wouldn't have a scene where they get really excited about the idea of being a princess instead of a prince

millions of american soldiers die every year trying to rocket jump. thankfully their lives are worthless

it doesn't matter which country we're talking about here, if someone from any country in the world says "oh where i am from there is simply no racism", you not only shouldn't believe them, but you should actually never take them seriously about anything ever again.