Neo

Like, it was like: "yes, that certain identity sounds like it could be correct, but I am really not sure. It's just my best guess at the moment, but I'm thinking about it too much right now to have a clear picture of it" with a sprincle of "I dont want to have to think about it anymore, but can't stop thinking about it until i have an answer" and a "how can I ever be sure :("

And now, about 2 years later I'm preeeetty sure I was right all along. But I couldn't have found that security back then without the time that passed.

But still, I never stopped that approach! Yes, I can confidently say that I am aroace now, but I still have this "unless proven otherwise" safetynet, which allows me to be unsure?

(The same thing also kinda worked for me being enby, btw)