100 Naughty Monkey

Written by Mistress Ivey,

Because it can be so much fun! That’s why…

I have written several books and heaven knows how many blog posts about how and why you should tease your man. But it seems like everything is about him, when in fact, the reason for becoming a Mistress is to have someone cater to your own needs, wants and desires. After all, isn’t that what this is all supposed to be about?

If taking control and setting up an FLR is supposed to be all about the woman’s needs and desires, why do I spend so much time talking about what she should be doing for him? Isn’t it obvious? I can think of only one reason… To keep him sexually aroused so that he will want to do everything he can for her.

But if she has to work this hard at it, isn’t that sort of self defeating? If by that you mean that she should have to do nothing and he should do everything, then it won’t work. Both partners must get something out of the relationship, and in order to do that, both must put something into the relationship. Tit for tat (pun intended). The great part about it is, the woman, you, should be getting a great deal more than you are putting into it. How is that fair? I didn’t say it was…

Here is how it really works… You are in charge! In charge of him. In charge of everything. You get a servant (sub, slave, whatever) to do all those things you don’t want to do. To get that, you have to keep him sexually aroused and focused on you. That’s it. The big bonus for you is the feelings that only come from having that much power and control at your fingertips.

Let’s face it, Ladies, don’t you get a little charge every time you give him an order and he complies? Especially if you have just ordered him to do something humiliating that he would never do without you “making” him do it? Then there is the powerful feelings when you ruin or completely deny him the orgasm he has been begging for for the last two months! The look on his face when his ejaculate dribbles out of his cock after a long tease session is priceless. The fact that he hasn’t had an orgasm in two or even three months just adds to the joy.

Yes, you spend some time keeping him horny by teasing his cock, telling him what to do, making sure he is doing everything you want, and then, of course, having to punish him when he doesn’t. But, there again, there is that feeling of power and control. Isn’t it wonderful?

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I’m starting to see more and more women walking around the office, stores, bars, restaurants, even the beach, with keys like this around their ankle or necklace. I give them a knowing grin as my own key dangles between my cleavage. Sometimes they are alone quietly enjoying themselves. Other times with friends, but more frequently then not they have their husband or boyfriend in tow. He’s usually walking a step behind her, listening to her, being attentive, carrying her bags, etc.. All the things you’ve read when you read about the benefits of male chastity. An astute observer will recognize the dynamic in play as more and more women are discovering the benefits of male chastity. You can see through her body language and her expressions that she exudes confidence and power. The experience for him is likely very humbling and degrading, but this is all part of learning his role and thriving in a Female Led Relationship.

I always wonder how many people understand the meaning and symbolism of the chastity key on display? How many others get it? While male chastity is rapidly growing in acceptance it is not yet mainstream. I believe male chastity to be the cornerstone of a Female Led Relationship. Through the power of the internet, social media, and various forums dedicated to this trending lifestyle, the practice of chastising males has grown exponentially in the last decade, as more and more women embrace matriarchy and enjoy the benefits of leading their men. There is no reason to think the growth of FLR’s won’t continue to spread and in the very new future, male chastity and the FLR’s will be the new normal of the “Modern Marriage”

With all that said, I encourage all women to research the benefits and strongly consider locking his cock and enjoying the harmony that accompany a Female Led Relationship. If you’ve already taken this step, wear the key to his cock proudly and confidently. Being a keyholder is a wonderful thing and others should know of the benefits it could provide them. Show off his obedience to your friends or other women you interact with on a daily basis. If is up to those of us that “get it” to promote this growing lifestyle.

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