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So some fanartist drew a “sexy” (read: booby) version of a (cartoon) character who is traditionally very non-sexualised. Fans of the character got mad about it because it’s kind of groundbreaking how that character is written and portrayed and this art totally ignores the entire point of the character. They demanded the art be deleted. In response to that other people said, well what the fanartist did may be distateful but they have every right to draw what they’re into. The two sides fight for days and each starts a harassment campaign and even report their “opponents’” accounts.

So far so typical. But things eventually come to a head and they decide that this will be settled by votes - not through a poll. Through donations to a children’s education charity via each side’s portal. Whoever can get the highest amount of donation wins.

The number of people I've had to witness talking to myself and others about how transhet people aren't valid, unsafe, how we're traitors to our queer peers, how we don't belong at pride, how we shouldn't have pride because "ew straights".

It's really fucking exhausting. And I'm not even straight! My husband is, and he feels the same way, so I know I'm not alone here. I've heard this from several people now. I hate it. I hate how I and others are seen as lesser just because we're attracted to, married to, or dating people of different genders than us.

You can't help that you're gay. Transhet people can't help that they're heterosexual. Why is this so fucking hard for people to understand? What the fuck do you think happens to the gays and lesbians who transition and are now straight trans women and trans men? You sure as fuck accepted them then, why not now?

And that's not even including aspec heterosexuals, but that's not my community so I won't speak on that.

I've said this a few times now, but I'll say it again: the trans community and wider queer community has a heterophobia problem.