For the ask meme: Olive? (I'm an INTP but my partner is an INTJ, so advice from either of you would be interesting.) Thanks!
INTP’s AnswerHmm so what should I say to young INTPs, this is like one of those things where you are supposed to be saying what you would want to have heard when you were young. I am gonna go the other way and tell you what you don’t want to hear but need to.
1. People are going to shy away from you because you probably have a book in your hand and a resting bitch face. It is okay. You can and will make friends if you want them.
2. Embrace whatever nerdy thing you like, if you try to hide the nerd you lose a lot of opportunities to meet people who love the same thing. You may feel like you have to fit in, you don’t you will be better off if you be yourself.
3. Read all the books, read them all, take in information while you don’t have too many obligations. When you get into college you will be forced to read books for classes and this will limit fun time reading. SO READ.
4. Surround yourself with people who are okay with you being quiet and you being wildly crazy when the mood hits. Surround yourself with people who understand you, even if they are not someone who makes you cooler. Find an INTP and INFJ because every INTP needs one of each, the INTJ will keep up with your sarcasm and sense of adventure and the INFJ will teach you about your feelings and be your pillar.
5. Watch Star Trek. No further explanation needed.
6. Don’t choose a major or career track because someone else thinks you should or because you are simply good at it. You need something that you like and that intellectually stimulates you, but you also have to be able to grow in the field and can’t pick something where you feel stuck.
7. Learn to turn off your computer and phone and go off the grid. Look at the world and not at a screen. Walk around with your head up so you can observe patterns.
Straight up home skillet you do you.
1. Learn to be in touch with your feelings. They are not a bad thing. Your feelers will help you navigate the real adult world. The soon you accept them, and learn to deal with them, the more successful you will be.
2. We can’t control peoplesperceptions of us–which is part of our desire for everything to be orderly. Whilethis might not be true for every INTJ, for me it became a huge motivating factorto prove “them” wrong. Who ever they are. I feel like this can dictate our actions without us being fully aware of it. I feel like my biggest issue in life was that I forgot what I wantedwhen I was younger (because I was so obsessed with maintaining who I felt people should see me).
3. Let your star shine! Seriously. I know that being in the spot light is uncomfortable, but its okay for people to know how smart, fun, and talented that you are. INTJ’s tend to do incredible thing’s and then sort of sweep it under the rug, like NBD, thats a thing everybody can do. If you do something amazing OWN up to it.
4. Stop letting you get in the way of you. Break your schedule. Let yourself be taken on adventures, and don’t always confine yourself to what you know. INTP takes me on adventures I would never go on myself. I have E’s that take me all sorts of places. Make time for you, make time to get you stuff done. But make time for other people, and sometimes…forget your schedule.
5. Always do things your way. INTJ’s tend to have their own way of doing things. If you feel that its the right way to do it for you, do it! Don’t follow the beaten path, we were never meant for that. Take advice, follow good advice but listen to your intuition, it will hardly leave you astray.
6. MAKE MISTAKES. Don’t be afraid to mess up. As much as we have our jesus complex, we need to learn that we are not perfect and mistakes can teach us a lot of things.
7. Lastly sarcasm will be your greatest and worst weapon. Learn to control it.
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