hi miss!! I want your opinion on something, if that's okay. I'm a little morally anxious, so I'm hoping you can help a little??
But um, kinda big topics, so you can ignore this if you want but um..
DNIs kinda irritate me sometimes, not because they're bad or because i fall under any typical thing (besides padded agere, cus I see that sometimes), but because sometimes people are too vague or censor with symbols and numbers, then I can't read it?
i dont wanna make anyone uncomfortable, but sometimes its hard cus I cant understand them!! I can't read it when they replace the e's with 3 or a's with 4's, or s's with $. I wanna make sure everyone's okay, and I usually do, but I wanna be super sure and its hard to !!!
i want everyone to feel okay, but some people make it hard to read or follow, and it makes me upset !! and the petty part of me is like "do you want me to follow it or not?? cus you're making it hard to follow >:("
I've started blocking people who make it hard to read to be safe, cus I don't need to follow or be friends with someone bad enough if I can't even understand what they want from interactions !!! and i dunno if its mean, but it feels unfair to put things in hard to read and understand ways, and still expect them to be followed >:(
I can most definitely give you my opinion, I'll try to help as much as I can! I get that sort of morally anxious feeling a lot too, it definitely does help to get a 2nd view!!!
I've definitely seen what you mean about people censoring words in their DNIs sometimes.. I think they do it to avoid triggering people which is a kind intention but you're so right that it makes it difficult to actually follow their boundaries when you don't know what they are! It's important that DNIs are clear and readable, both for you and for the account that has that list so that they can get the interactions they want!!! It makes sense to be upset when you're making an effort to respect others, which not everyone does, but then you're stuck not knowing what exactly it says or if you are actually allowed to follow.. it sounds draining!
I like what you decided about not needing to follow someone bad enough to potentially go against their wishes or maybe have to deal with more censoring in the future, it's important to have that understanding and if they aren't making it easy for you then it can be a lot better to just move on!! The people who do take others that have difficulty reading certain things or need screen readers into account are lovely and I hope more people start to do that! You can always put the DNI list under a "continue reading" section to protect the others from potential triggers.. then everyone wins!
I think you're totally in the right for being upset at that, it does make navigating tumblr tricky and the DNI should be clear and readable in order to make sure it's followed as best as possible! I don't think you're wrong for blocking them either, blocking doesn't have to be only for the worst of the worst- if blocking makes you more comfortable then go for it, that's what it's truly for!! You can block people because their blog theme is too bright and hurts your eyes, because they use fonts you can't read, because they post so much under a certain tag and you want to hear from someone else for a change.. we often give it a negative connotation, but really it's just to make your experience better in a number of ways!
So.. the verdict! You are in the right for feeling that way, if someone is super serious about their DNI then they should make sure it's understandable to everyone to avoid misunderstandings, and blocking them isn't wrong either! Do what you need to feel comfortable, that's all that matters!!
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