Mama's Safe Space

Though I do feel loved by those who have wished me birthday wishes, especially my partners, I love them so much. Anyways <3

Some questions I have for you: Have you ever thought about your dream birthday day you’d like to have/happen someday? Do you like surprises? If you were a dessert, what would you be and why? What are some color combos you like/love? Do you have a favorite hero(it can be fictional or someone in real life (like a parent, friend, etc))? I don’t know if I or anyone asked you this but do you have a favorite book? I think that’s all for now hehehe sorry lots of questions. OH just remembered, speaking of birthdays, mind me asking what’s your birthday baba?

Have a great wonderful rest of your day/night!! Reminder you’re sooo soo loved by me and everyone here! Take care of yourself and take it easy! If something is hard or you’re struggling, it’s okay to ask for some help!

- 🐦‍⬛

Hello friend!!!

Happy belated birthday- I wish I saw this sooner!! I definitely know what you mean about it feeling like a regular day, but I hope you still take the time to treat yourself just because, you've earned it! And there's nothing wrong with treating yourself on just a random day either, we all need it sometimes!

I'm so glad your partners are making sure you feel loved, you deserve to feel cared for! I'm so glad you all found each other, they sound so sweet and so are you!

Ooo fun questions! I don't think I really have a dream birthday.. though I guess getting build a bears with my partner is on my bucket list, and they're so expensive that I could only really do it on a birthday as a fun excuse! I also love rollerskating so going to do that with our new friends would be so fun!! I do think I like surprises but it depends on what they are... like not telling me about a vacation until the day before is a lot but there are tons of other fun surprises! And jumping ahead to your last question, my birthday is February 26th!

Dessert is a hard one.. I love chocolate fondue but I'm not sure if that reflects much about who I am! Though I guess it's the best answer I can think of.. so yes, chocolate fondue because it's warm and comforting, like how I love doing same comfort routines and keeping things calm, but there's always new things to discover when you try different fruits so it's not closed off to adventure! I love exploring and learning new things! As for color combos I love love love primary colors!!! I'm not sure if I have a favorite hero- most shows I watch are mystery or comedy, not much superhero stuff! My mom recently rescued a wasp from inside the house and brought it outside.. I think I'll count that, I love bugs- even the spooky ones! I haven't had the time to read for a long while but AGGGTM and A Series of Unfortunate Events have always been some favorites!

Thank you for all the fun questions, I'd love to hear some of your answers too! Especially the dessert and favorite book ones, I really need to get back into reading!! I hope you treat yourself, even if it's just for the sake of mental health of not your birthday, you deserve it! Remember to get lots of rest and water!!!

Sending big love

-mama shark 🦈

mama :[ I weally want to try artfight, but I'm scared of being perceived! I'm also scareds of my art getten stolen :{

I've wanted to try artfight for 2-3 years at this point, but I'm still scared..maybes I can try next year when I feels more confident ?

-🦦🐾

Hello you! Thank you so much for the warning, I always appreciate it and I'm sure the guppies do too!!

I've been looking into artfight myself this year (though I'm not joining because I don't have many OCs and I'm limited to traditional for now), it looks so fun but I can understand where the nervousness comes from! There's a lot of different artists and a lot going on.. it's easy to feel overwhelmed or for your brain to focus on all the big what ifs!

It's a-okay to wait until you feel more comfortable to join in, but since you've already been putting it off for a few years it might be worth pushing yourself just that little bit to make sure you're ready instead of just hoping the fears will dissipate! When it comes to art theft I think it's important to remember that there are sooooo many artists using this game, and I doubt many of them are looking to steal art so the chances of a thief finding you among all the hundreds of thousands of account is slim- but that being said it never hurts to add a watermark! It's a good practice in general and helps calm your nerves because you can easily prove it's yours!!

As for the being percieved part, I really understand that one.. if you have any friends doing artfight it can help to focus your first attacks on them just to get used to how everything works and the idea of others seeing your art before going to attack new people.. but if you're not joining this year then I'd also recommend uploading some of your art (with a watermark!) to relaxed places like art subreddits, tumblr, or even an art channel in a discord server.. or, if we're talking baby steps, even just making a habit of showing friends your art in order to warm up to the idea! It's a scary thing to try and face, but people are generally super nice and supportive, sometimes it just takes putting yourself out there to see it

It's important to go at your own pace, but confidence doesn't just appear! Artfight looks like a really fun experience and I'd absolutely love to experience it alongside you next year, even if we both need to take little baby steps to get more comfortable first! You're not alone in these worries, I'm sure almost every artist that participates has gone through the same thing at the start

Sending huge hugs, stay creative!

-mama shark 🦈

-🐱💜

Hello little kitty!

I'm so glad to hear you're doing well, ninjago is so fun!! I've been meaning to watch it, I think I've seen the movie and I remember it being super silly and awesome!

You're so kind for asking about me! I've been doing alright, lots and lots of studying.. I had one exam today and it went alright, my grade dropped by 2 percent but it's still good so I can't complain- just happy to be done! I have 2 left and 4 days to prepare.. but I'm taking a break tomorrow to visit some family and their kitty cats so that's exciting!

I hope you have an amazing timezone, remember to take care of yourself!!

-mama shark 🦈

ladybuggies for good luck for mama! 🐞✨️🩷🐞✨️🩷🐞✨️🩷🐞✨️🩷🐞✨️🩷🐞✨️🩷

you gots this!!! 🌟🌟🌟

~Magnet

Hello Magnet!!!

You're so sweet, thank you so much! I have 2 more but they're the spooky ones.. I'll definitely make sure to rest between studying! I took my cat outside a few days ago as a break and I've really wanted to do it again, she seemed so excited hehe

So many ladybuggies.. I'm sure that's just the luck I need! Thank you!!!

Sending warm thoughts and high fives your way, stay kind!!!

-mama shark 🦈

💜🐾

Hello there!!!

Thank you so much, I have 2 to go! They're the hardest ones yet but I think we'll manage okay!!

Sending big love, thank you for your kindness!

-mama shark 🦈

Is 🌞🐶 fweee?

-🌞🐶 (maybe)

Hello Puppy!!!

Using a signoff is a great idea! I'm super excited to hear from you more, that one is all yours now!

Big love!

-mama shark 🦈

I got lots of stuff to remember an other people aren’t bringing as much but they’re gonna be soooo grateful for me when I have all the stuff they need that they didn’t think rhey needed. Gonna make fun of my big bag of trakl mix till it changed to “hey tigerrrr can I have some trail mix O~O” >:)

Oki ily!! Gonna try to sleep nini I’ll send another ask sahin how it went ^-^

-🐯

Hello little tiger!

Ooooo celebrating pride sounds so exciting!! Having to drive can be a lot, I'm glad to hear you wont have to worry about that! 5 hours isn't much sleep, I hope you can get lots of rest on the way there to start the celebrating off right! I'm so proud of you for being so organized.. it's always so good to be prepared, I love taking safety pins with me everywhere! Super underrated tool hehe, and goldfish and trail mix sounds so yummy! It's so nice of your friend to make you a tiger tail!!!! The "do not pet" belt sounds like it would go really well with that.. as much as I'd love to give scratches to big cats sometimes! The umbrella is perfect for pride too- especially if you need a break from the sun! Being in a car with a new person can be spooky, but if they're your friend's partner then I think they'll be nice! And you have your other friend to talk with too!!

You can never be too prepared, it's really reassuring when you're on the road for a few hours! I bet your friends will appreciate it hehe, good thing you have enough trail mix to share hehe! You sound like a great friend and an amazing person to go on a trip with!!

I'm so excited to hear how your trip went!!! Hopefully I'll have asks back up soon so I can hear all about it! I hope your friend's partner is super fun to be around and that you all have an amazing time together!

-mama shark 🦈

He told me my interests were "conservative coded" because I like country music and fishing and im religious. An i dont understand why thats a bad thing. I dont like guns and I dont like fighting or hurting people and I want everyone to be safe and cared for everywhere!! I dont want anyone to have to struggle or be in danger or anything. I dont know why he would say that to me. He said I dont come across as conservative and I dont look conservative but my interests are and I dont know why he would comment on that but he said I have "the taste of someone who wears red hats" (direct quote if you get what he means)

Im sorry mama I keep sayin heavy thinfs. An i hope this isnt too political. It hurt my feelings a lot an i dont know why he would say that to me. If this is too political that's okay you can ignore it an i wont be offended or upset mama I understand. I wanna make sure all tbe guppies feel safe here

-🐅🐾

Hello little tiger

I'm sorry to hear your brother hurt you, that does sound like a mean thing to be told.. you're allowed to like whatever makes you happy, and I know mean things like that can sometimes make you feel insecure about your interests. None of those are bad things at all, in fact they sound really peaceful to me, and they have no correlation at all to any political stance- nor should any activity outside of politics! Like what you like and be who you are. It sounds like your brother was connecting your interests and values to a political stereotype, and that can be really hurtful and uncomfortable when it's a label we don't identify with. Plenty of people like country, fishing, are religious or all three.. yes some of those people can be conservative but many can also be liberal, anything that falls in between or even no category at all. Interests are not a political membership! I like what you said about wanting everyone to be safe and cared for- that shows your values more than anything.

It's possible that he just meant it to be teasing, but you're allowed to feel hurt by it. When people say "you seem like the type of person who.." it often feels like they're telling us who to be rather than listening to us for who we are. Humans (and tigers) are not just stereotypes, you're your own person and you can be whoever you want. Your interests do not dictate who you are, that's found in how you treat others and what choices you make, and I can already tell you're a brave tiger with a lot of love to give.

You're allowed to talk about heavy things, those deserve to be heard just as much as the positive and light ones! I'm so sorry that you feel so hurt, I hope your brother can come to realize what impact that had on you.. you deserve to feel loved and seen for who you really are, not lumped in a stereotype for something you're not.

Sending huge hugs, don't let anyone tell you who you are or who to be 💙

-mama shark 🦈

thoughts won't stop talking to me, even when I don't want them there. They follow me all day and make my tummy hurt with worry.

I keep worrying about my teachers and caregivers. My bwain says things like, "They're mad at chu," or, "Chu being too much." It makes me really scared. W-what if they don't want me around anymore? What if they only take care of me because they have to? What if they secretly don't like me? Those thoughts make me feel really sad and scared.

One of my biggest fears is being too much. What if me asks for too many cuddles? What if me needs too much comfort? What if me cries too much or talks too much? Sometimes me worries that everyone will get tired of me because me needs extra care and love. Me don't wanna be a burden. Me just wanna feel safe.

Me also get really scared of being left behind. What if my caregivers don't wanna be my caregivers anymore? What if me messed up and didn't know? What if everyone leaves because me isn't good enough? Those thoughts make me feel really small, like a tiny kid lost in a big world.

Sometimes me just want someone to tell me that me isn't too much. That me is wanted. That me is safe. That needing comfort doesn't make people stop caring. My bwain says scary things, but scary thoughts aren't always true, even when they feel really real.

me sowwy me little rn me know me nu good 99.9% of the time...

Hello dear friend!

I'm sorry to hear your thoughts are being so loud, it can feel like a lot when they keep telling us those scary things, even if we know deep down that they aren't true..

It's important to remember that those thoughts are all huge "ifs".. that means they're worries and fears, but it doesn't make them true. Sometimes when we care about people we can get extra scared of losing them, but that just means you love your teachers and caregivers and they mean a lot to you. Anxiety can make our thoughts really loud but that doesn't equal proof.

Needing comfort does not make you a burden, every person needs care and reassurance sometimes! The fact that you go to them for it let's them know that you trust them. Every person cries, worries, talks too much (pretending there's such a thing), gets clingy, gets scared, or has hard days- but none of those things make you unworthy of care and support, it just makes you human. You deserve to feel safe and loved.

Let's stop and imagine for a minute- one of your friends is really sad and scared thinking that they were too much and came to you for comfort.. how would you feel? Would you think they were annoying and want to leave? Would you think that because they're not always happy or make small mistakes now and again that they're not good enough? or would you stay and try your hardest to support someone you love? And it's okay to ask your cgs for that little extra comfort when you need it or the reassurance that you aren't too much, we all get in our own heads sometimes!

You don't need to apologize for being small, that's your brain's way of trying to keep you safe against all those big thoughts.. take a big deep breath, you are not alone. You deserve love and support. You can ask for that comfort if you need it. You are loved.

Sending huge hugs, remember that you matter

-mama shark 🦈

It’s soooo hot here! I’m dyingggggggg

Do you have any fun ideas for activities to do in the summer time?

Xoxoxo!

-keke🧸

Hello Keke!!!

It is super lot- summer if definitely here!! Make sure to stay hydrated and keep yourself cool.. popsicles are a must!

Fun summer activities... let's see! Playing with chalk outside is one of my favorite things, and going to the park to play on the swings! The thought sounds scary but people generally don't mind as long as you make sure the kiddos get a turn! You can also do scavenger hunts outside, I think there are some guides you can find online that tell you to look for things such as "4 pinecones, 1 cool rock, 5 different leaves.. etc.!" July 10th is also teddy bear picnic day where you can take your fuzzy friend and some snacks outside! I've been wanting to celebrate that ever since I found out about it but I keep missing it due to holidays.. you can also see if there are any free events going on near you with places like public libraries, they sometimes host fun things! Places like zoos or lakes or going berry picking are also great!!! But if you need something indoors then I love love love making blanket forts to hide out in.. you can watch movies in them or draw, and it's great when you make them in the cool part of your house to make sure you don't overheat but stay comfy!

This list by OFT also has many great ideas- it's hard to spend the summer bored once you have a look through it, I hope this helps! 101 Age Regression Activities - Age Regression Series https://share.google/iY9BxrDdF3VuDiFqP

Sending cool summer wishes!

-mama shark 🦈

Hello there!!!

Welcome to our little aquarium, I'm so glad you decided to say hi!!! I know it can be spooky sometimes so it really means a lot to me!

Going out to eat is really nice! I hope whatever food you had was super yummy!!! Playong outside is great but wasps can be pretty scary.. I love insects but even they spook me out a bit! It's good to listen to yourself and go back inside when you need too!! Watching your favorite show is a great way to relax after all of that.. I haven't seen Steven Universe but I've heard really good things and the art is so pretty! Maybe this is my sign to start watching it finally.. I have heard some of the songs and they're also great!

Thank you so much for sharing, that sounds like a really nice day (even if interrupted by meanie wasps)!! I hope I get to hear from you again, I love being able to make new friends!

Big love!

-mama shark 🦈