listen, there’s literally no way around the fact that tumblr keeps f/f ships on a much shorter, much more heavily policed leash than it does het ships and m/m ships. in particular, people will list excuse after excuse as to why that female character can’t possibly be a lesbian, so to all the lesbian fangirls out there:
it’s okay to headcanon canonically straight characters as lesbians.
i’m serious. it doesn’t matter if they’re canonically in a relationship with a man. it doesn’t matter if other fans tell you that you have to hc them as bi or pan because ‘they’re into guys’. it doesn’t matter. if a character is canonically bi/pan/any other marginalized orientation, then definitely don’t erase that. if you want to headcanon a straight female character as bi or pan, that’s great too! bi/pan girls are amazing and your headcanons for them are wonderful. but i also know that one of the things that can be hardest to come to terms with about being a lesbian is not being into guys in a world that tries to build your self worth around your availability to men. anyone who claims that a female character can’t be a lesbian because they’ve been with a guy is completely invalidating the complicated feelings that compulsory heterosexuality can cause for wlw. you can headcanon her as a lesbian if you think she’s a lesbian, regardless of her canon dating history/relationship status. and anyone who says ‘you can’t headcanon them as a lesbian because i think they’re actually bi/pan/straight’ is being an asshole, since headcanons are personal and don’t affect canon anyway.
it’s okay to headcanon canonically straight characters as a lesbians.
your sexuality is valid and identifying with it in your faves is 100% okay.
i love you.
(and psa to anyone who harasses young lesbians on this hell site for doing this: you’re disgusting. grow the fuck up and leave lgbt minors alone with their awesome lesbian headcanons. they’re not hurting you.)
