Half Flowers, Half Flaws

you have to get to a point in your life where you stop apologizing for putting yourself first. your needs are important. your wants are important. never let anyone shame you into believing that the things you do for yourself are in vain, because it isn't. every time you pour into yourself, you're healing the parts of you that felt like all of the effort you've given was too much or not enough. i’m here to tell you that you've always been enough. putting yourself first is nothing to be ashamed of, okay? you can let go of the guilt that comes with choosing yourself. you're more free than you realize.

I think part of getting better is complete ego death. Like you’re not above setting a timer for 5 minutes and focusing on a task. You’re not above doing a very simple 3 minute workout to start. You’re not above reading for 10 minutes a day when you first get out of your reading slump, even if you used to read for hours. You’re not above starting slow and then building up to where you want to be/where you once were. What you are above is total inertia. Doing something really is better than doing nothing. Radically accept where you are, radically accept your limits, and go from there. Don’t let your ego get in the way.

if people want to leave your life let them.

accepting that you’re objectively weird & owning it is infinitely better than being constantly desperate to appear normal to people who don’t even matter to you

One of the most beautiful things you can be is yourself.

normalize not trying harder when someone makes you feel unwanted

normalise not proving your worth when someone can’t see it.

“this reminds me of you” ok kiss me then

you can still radiate light if you’re sad. you can still be kind and soft-hearted if you’re a bit cynical. you don’t need to be the happiest person to make someone else’s day better.

healthy relationships are created, not found

You don't have to force yourself to bounce back so quickly. I read something recently that said "when you come in from a rainstorm, you don't expect yourself to be dry and warm right away", and it really resonated with me. It's okay to take time to dry off and warm up. Take the time you need to process what happened to you.