If you forced your child to fill the role of a dead or absent spouse

If you used your child as a sounding board for all of your emotional problems

If your child had to bear the burden of family financial difficulties

If you made your child deal with bullying, racism, homophobia, transphobia, or sexism at school/home

If you let your mental health problems negatively effect how you treated and cared for your child

If you sexually abused your child

If your child was sexually abused by someone else and you made them cover it up or continue to be around their abuser

if you abandoned your child

If you put your significant other over your child

If you prevented your child’s other parent from being in their life out of spite