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Most interesting thing about this post is people tagging it as like ‘straight people version of yaoi size dynamics’ like. Let’s all stop and think for a second where the “penetrative sexual partner is large, dominant, and masculine; the penetrated sexual partner is small, submissive, and feminine” thing (and the presumption of these roles being a necessity and immutable) might also come from.

And now it's "more tall bottoms!" "let the tiny girl PEG the man" let us instead continue this thought exercise and examine why we presume that a sexual relationship must be defined around a penetrator/penetrated dynamic, or that there must by necessity be "A top" or "A bottom" and that these roles cannot be fluid, or that penetrative sex is a necessity in a relationship to begin with, or that penetration is an act of dominance and humiliation and by extension it's a Subversive Feminist Win for the Bigger and/or Masculine party to receive, or that these misogynistic-homophobic ideals can be meaningfully addressed by simply Reversing the dynamic. My final message........goodbye..........

i don’t know how to explain to you people that no matter what a country’s government is like i do not and will not support the US indiscriminately bombing that country’s civilians and i don’t know why that’s a controversial take tbh

“oh iran is a dictatorship!” “oh palestine is homophobic!” i don’t care like literally i don’t care that’s not a problem to be solved by other countries blowing innocent people up

there’s absolutely something to be said about ‘booktok’ books being largely wattpad quality written erotica i’m certainly not reading them however having seen a guy on tiktok make a video like ‘all the women in your life are READING PORN’ about a book he picked up and read in his FEMALE FRIEND’S HOUSE in a tone of scandalised horror and disgust i actually don’t think men should be making those criticisms. he said he picked it up expecting a romance and was horrified it was GOONER SHIT he said specifically like ‘who are you getting your pussy wet FOR??’ in a tone of revulsion. idk man im not sure shes the weird one. i kind of wish you were dead

"a lot of books that are successful on booktok are not very good" and "people can read what they want and we need to stop being so fucking weird about women enjoying erotica" are both correct statements

i have a post where i mentioned "don't marry a man who won't do dishes" and someone added "dont marry ANYONE who won't do dishes!!!!" and like. hey. do you think there is a historical cultural context for why, specifically, men who refuse to do housework and expect a wife to also act as a live-in maid for him are more of a problem than the reverse.

on tumblr, it's more important to remind everybody that women who refuse to do housework are immoral

on tumblr, feminism is the orchestration of women’s labor towards making society kinder to men

people get real weird as soon as the trans man they're talking about has a cock instead of a 'boypussy' huh lmao

yall need to realize that some (a lot of!) trans man have cocks! cocks indistinguishable from cis male cocks! trans man =/= boypussy

"yeah i love trans men omg i love boypussy!!!" ok do you love trans men when they are indistinguishable from cis men? when they have no vaginas, and cocks and balls?

remember the like tiny sliver of time when there was a real push to just say "people who have a uterus" or "people with testicles" or whatever when that was what you meant, and then faux-progressives who were willing to cave to terfism to avoid saying icky anatomy words ruined it with "AFAB-bodied"

literally just say dick when you mean dick. feeling uncomfortable with body parts and getting all euphemistic about it is conservatism by default.

Through the magic of specifying, for instance, "if you have a cock and balls then you may sometimes struggle with accidentally squeezing them in painful ways when sitting down" you also account for someone who got rid of her cock and balls surgically. Because get this. She No Longer Has That Anatomy. She is now outside the group defined as "people with cocks and balls".

On the other hand, instead of trying to contrive some anatomical grouping when what you really want to say is "trans women and cis men" without owning up to how awkward it is that you're making that particular grouping of identities, through the magic of introspection, you can think about why you're so desperate to do that!

kids of color, you’re allowed to get a bitey when a white friend does something racist. literally 0 percent of people of color are obligated to be nice and palatable for white people. holding your tongue in the name of kindness doesn’t really do much in regards to stuff like this because white people are going to see you calling out their own racism as unkind anyways. white people, if a person of color comes off as aggressive while calling you out for racism, just fucking listen to them. they’re not coming from nowhere, and believe it or not: they know more about racism than you do! shocker, i know. just thickskin it, because it’s really not about you.

white ppl can rb but keep your damn mouths shut

Watching queer people debate the law in the uk about arresting people over fiction the uk government doesn’t like as if the next step in censoring ‘obscene’ things isn’t to define queer people as ‘obscene’

Tbhhhh I don’t think governments should be able to control what fiction people consume/publish or what roleplay people do. It’s pretend it’s playing . It’s stuff you do in private . If no actual abuse is involved the police have no business in what you jerk off to or what porn people make.