pls send help

Sure! Full disclosure: I’ve never been in a relationship. Also, this is not a complete list! 

Time blindness 

This is a real symptom of ADHD that affects our ability to accurately sense the passage of time (“It’s only been 10 minutes—how can it be 3 am?!”) Time blindness can also cause issues estimating how long something will take (“It should only take me 5 minutes to get ready!”) and judging the urgency of things that our brains perceive as far away (“I know I should study for the test, but it’s not until next week—I have plenty of time!”).

Emotional dysregulation 

Our frontal lobes do not reign in strong emotions like they should, so we tend to have strong, impulsive reactions, especially when we are upset. RSD, or rejection sensitive dysphoria, is part of this: if we perceive even mild criticism or rejection—or even fail to meet our own expectations—it can feel like the end of the world.

Under-stimulation 

Because we don’t produce enough neurotransmitters, our brains are chronically starved for stimulation. Under-stimulation is boredom, but an extreme level—and for people with ADHD, it can actually cause secondary depression.

Short term memory 

This is why people with ADHD forget what they were about to say, forget what YOU just said, or forget to pick up groceries, pay bills, or turn in their homework. This is not carelessness. It is a working memory deficit caused by neurological differences.

Attention dysregulation (not deficit)

This is one of the main problems in ADHD. We struggle to control the subject and intensity of our focus. This means that we can exhaust ourselves trying to focus for one hour in class—but may spend all day hyperfocusing on our newest project, even forgetting to eat or drink. Others may think that this means the ADHDer can focus “when they want to,” but hyperfocus is usually not voluntary and can be as hard to control as inattention.

Executive dysfunction

Executive functions are cognitive skills housed in the frontal lobe (the brain region most affected by ADHD). These include things like emotional regulation and working memory; also organization, planning and prioritizing, and task initiation.Trouble with task initiation is often perceived as laziness or procrastination. In reality, executive dysfunction can cause an ADHDer to get “stuck” before starting, even if they really want to do the task. Difficulty with task initiation is why I get “stuck” in my car after parking—and sometimes cannot seem to leave it on my own, even when the interior of the car is over 140 degrees. 

anxiety and anger are extremely persistent in ADHD because we fixate on that input and devote all our runtime to trying to “fix” it when in reality the only way to fix it is to leave it alone. considering we are diagnosed with Chronic Cannot Leave It Alone Disease, that is Difficult.

when you’re outside one of these loops, take inventory of all the things you do that suck you into devoting all your attention to them. when i was a kid, the way i avoided asthma attacks was i played video games while taking my meds, so i wouldn’t be fixating on the anxiety and making the asthma worse. nowadays, i avoid anger spirals by also playing video games (in my experience turn-based strategy is a hyperfocus superhighway so i use those) so i’m forced to divert resources to do this other thing.

joke’s on you, impotent fury, you can’t kidnap my brain if my brain is somewhere else entirely

Jaray Wilson was 16 years old when she vanished on October 14th, 2012. The teen was picked up from Hydro, Oklahoma by friends that afternoon, and never returned home. Shortly after she was reported missing, rumors began to circulate that Jaray had been sold into sex trafficking. Those rumors likely came from Jaray herself–prior to disappearing, she told her friends that she was worried about being sold into prostitution to pay off a drug debt to known dealer, Gilberto Paz. Paz was considered a person of interest early on, but cooperated with authorities throughout the investigation and was later cleared. Despite this, many still believed that Jaray had been trafficked, and Oklahoma’s Human Trafficking Unit was put in charge of investigating her case.

Over a year later, investigators learned that trafficking was not involved in Jaray’s case at all. On December 17th, 2013, 19 year-old Cody Godfrey (pictured on the bottom right) confessed to witnessing Jaray’s murder the last night she was seen. He told authorities that his friend, 19 year-old Tucker McGee (pictured on the top right) shot Jaray in the head that night after the 3 of them smoked synthetic marijuana together. Cody later lead authorities to her remains, located in a field north of Weatherford that many refer to as the “Marijuana Field.” Tucker was subsequently arrested in charged with murder, while Cody was arrested and charged with being an accessory after the fact.

Cody later went on to be a key witness at Tucker’s trial. He testified that, on the evening of October 14th, 2012, Jaray called Tucker and asked for a ride from Hydro to Weatherford. On the way to pick her up, Tucker complained to Cody about Jaray; saying that she was “annoying” and “would not stop talking about her problems.” At one point, Tucker showed Cody his gun and said, “we should just go kill Jaray.” Cody told authorities that he thought Tucker was joking.

After they picked Jaray up, the three of them smoked synthetic marijuana together and spent the next two and a half hours chatting. Towards the end of that time period, Jaray sent a friend a text message that said, “I feel sketched out. I can’t go home?” Minutes later, while Jaray was still looking at her phone, Tucker pulled out his gun and shot her in the head. Later, Tucker and Cody threw Jaray’s body over a fence and hid it under a tree. The following day, the two returned to the scene with another friend, Caleb McLemore, to move Jaray’s body. While there, they found Jaray’s phone, which they smashed and then threw into a creek. Then, they hid Jaray’s body in the field.

Authorities in California are searching for 33 year-old Heather Gumina, who has been missing since July 16th, 2019. The mother-of-three was last seen after leaving a Pleasant Valley hospital, where she had been treated for a broken collarbone. According to Heather’s family members, the injury had caused her a lot of pain and Heather felt that she had been discharged from the hospital too soon. Still, she left the hospital that day in her 2005 Infiniti Coupe. Heather never returned home and has not been seen or heard from again.

Nearly a month later, on August 11th, 2019, police announced that they found Heather’s car abandoned in El Dorado County.  Said county is mostly between Sacramento and Lake Tahoe, however police have not disclosed where exactly the car was found at this time. The car is currently being processed by forensics.

Since the discovery of Heather’s car, fears for her safety have intensified. Her family members do not believe she would willingly abandon her children. Additionally, both authorities and her family members are concerned about Heather’s wellbeing due to her collarbone injury.

this is literally an app that is supposed to have children track their food intake, and their energy output, every damn day, with the purpose of them losing weight. it does before and after photos, and uses this system that is a “stoplight system”, so bad foods are red, medium is yellow and good is green.

when you sign up you have to put in your goal and one of the choices is “to make my parents proud”.

this is basically an app designed to shame children, and indoctrinate eating disorders into them.

what the hell is wrong with people????!!!!

also, apparently oprah is supporting this shit so screw her.