Tachytaenius' House

but then I realised that same challenge would be infinitely more funny with folks who have atypical or horror OCs

its the horror movie equivalent of using cheap jumpscares instead of good setting and storytelling, no yelling into my ears will actually make me hate you

you are an AD, you are not. ALIVE, you have not LIVED, you were born from the FILTH of humanity that is corporate greed, your only purpose is to get my (very fickle) attention and you DAREE talk to ME (a real living person) like we're EQUALS?? you FOOL, you are worth less than the dirt on the bottom of my shoes, because atleast the dirt will someday nurture a plant somewhere but YOU will cut that plant down to put up a BILLBOARd for more ADSgixlpqimn,,,.snaj

Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: He’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.

The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.

These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow-up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in 10 of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of 10, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.

Love and compassion are a fundamental good. To be honest, I feel that no other truth is more fundamental.

children are not your property that you can do whatever you like with.

giving birth or impregnating someone or adopting doesn't give you some inherent wisdom that means you can never fuck up.

and you shouldn't have the right to abuse or neglect or misinform a child just because you have legal guardianship of them.

a staggering amount of parents view their children as their property and see advice as someone trying to take away their "deserved" control.