I think I perfectly know what youâre talking about, so let me tell you some trivia.
When someone acts very defensive about something, in Italy we say that they have âla coda di pagliaâ (which can be translated as âthey have a straw tailâ). This saying comes from an old tale of a fox, whose tail was cut off by a trap. The animal was so ashamed, that its friends decided to give it a straw tail, so beautiful that anyone could never have suspected it was fake.
But one day a rooster let this secret slip away and once the peasants knew about the straw tail of the fox, they lit fires near the chicken coops, so that the fox could no longer steal their chickens anymore: straw catches fire very easily and so the fox was forced to stay away.
From this story comes the expression âhaving a straw tailâ, which means fearing any kind of criticism for a behavior they are well aware of. If you have a straw tail, if you have bad behavior or did something wrong, you know it. And so, you act defensive to hide it.
Thomas is doing exactly that. Heâs getting very defensive over simple questions, heâs making childish excuses in a desperate attempt to show how good he is, but all heâs doing is showing us he knows heâs in the wrong.
So here are the tweets you (probably) wanted me to talk about and yes, I will talk about them both (special thanks to @transfemloganââ who posted them on Tumblr first).
Those are both very recent tweets, but letâs start with the first one dated October 2022:
Okay, letâs recap everything Thomas did wrong here.
1) That person was not pressuring nor threatening him. They asked a simple, genuine question and they did it very politely and very calmly. This wasnât an angry fan. And yet, Thomas went in full passive-aggressive mode, as if that person was insulting him. This is the best example of what âhaving a straw tailâ means.
2) âKeeping people postedâ means giving real updates, not a vague âworking on the scriptâ written months ago. It means telling people how much has been written, if heâs close to the end or not, how long he thinks it will take to reach the end, what his plans are, even if heâs just working on the actual script or not because heâs doing other stuff. Those are updates.
3) âUpdating to the extent that I feel comfortable doingâ is just a more convoluted way to say âI do not have any real update, so I am giving you crumbs, because this is all I haveâ. But heâs hiding it behind the excuse of âIâm taking care of myselfâ, which couldâve worked years ago, but after three years itâs not so convincing anymore.
4)Â Pressuring someone to deliver content is not healthy nor productive, but if someone is clearly doing nothing, some pressure makes the work done. As a writer, I learned long ago that, if I want things to get done, I have to do them. I wonât enjoy the whole process and there will be times I donât really want to do it, but itâs the only way to do stuff. You canât wait forever for the inspiration to come because, flash news, it wonât magically fall from the sky.
And sure, taking care of yourself is important too, but using your well being as an excuse to always postpone is just laziness.
5) Since Mr. Sanders is thirty-three years old and not five, I think he is old enough to accept someone asking him what is going on with the season finale and not overreact like he did. I could understand if he was a teen, but when youâre 33 youâre old enough to deal with something as simple as a question.
Oh and since Iâm here talking about this post and since Mr. Sanders didnât do it, I would like to formally apologize to the person who wrote that question. You did nothing wrong, dear. Your question was valid and polite and I am sure that another, more mature person wouldâve given you the proper reply you deserved.
And if any of you is curious, would you like to know what the real answer to that question was? âThe season finale is not here at all, because I am barely working on the script. And I am barely working on the script, because I donât know how to handle it. And I donât know how to handle it, because I am not a writer - but I want to write it anywayâ. Hereâs your answer, youâre welcome.
Believe me, I hope to be proven wrong, but this is what I got from Thomasâ over-the-top reaction. And if any of you think I am too hard on him, then sorry again, but it pisses me off to see a grown-ass man whining like a child because someone just asked him something he doesnât want to talk about.
And here is the second tweet, dated December 2022:
Not only this is another textbook example of what âhaving a guilty conscienceâ means, but Mr. Sandersâ reply is - if possible - even more childish: I work very very hard! See how hard I work? I am right and you are wrong! And If you keep saying these bad things, I will tell mom.
In addition to that, he wasnât even clever enough to turn the topic away from him. That person said that his supporters got nothing in turn and are more excited than him? He couldâve said that this was offensive towards his supporters, because if they are trusting him itâs not because heâs forcing them to do it, but because they like what heâs doing and want him to create these things heâs passionate about. But nope, he was too butthurt and he clearly knew that person was right, so he overreacted like a child.
This also proves that, sadly, he doesnât believe his supporters are following him out of trust or because they like everything heâs doing. Heâs probably very aware that the reason most people are following him is Sanders Sides - and that puts him in a difficult situation.
Why? Because heâs not able to handle the series. And heâs aware of it: he knows heâs taking too long with the script, he knows there are no real updates, he knows he has nothing to give. And yet, this series is his main income: there are people, merch, contracts. He canât just drop or cancel it.
And so he keeps everything as vague as possible. If everything is vague, people will still trust him, they will think heâs working on the series and patiently wait for the next episode.
This can work with kids. But when kids grow up or teens grow tired, they start to rightfully ask questions. And if you donât have answers, you end up replying like this - thus involuntarily showing how aware you are of your situation.
And now, letâs take Sanders Sides out for a moment, because this isnât about the series, but about him.
This behavior is very, very disrespectful. Adults should be an example for younger people, they should be someone the next generation will look at and take inspiration from, to grow into even better adults. We canât pretend kids are better than us, if we are not the first to show them how to be better.
Thomas isnât just an adult, but a public figure, so heâs not just an example for his friends or relatives: heâs an example for a lot of people. He should show them what a proper, mature, adult reply is. What he did instead was attacking with a lot of passive-aggressiveness an innocent fan who just asked a question and a more sarcastic one, who just poked him.
Do you know what he couldâve done instead? Not reply at all. Or just grow a pair and reply like an adult. He couldâve thanked the first fan and said that, unfortunately, there are no real updates on Sanders Sides for now, because heâs working on other stuff - and added that he hopes they will like this stuff too. While to the second person, he couldâve said that people are following him for more than just Sanders Sides and that heâs sorry that person thinks he did nothing, because he worked on different things. Was it so hard to do?
This is not a good way to handle criticism. And I hope he will grow up a little: all he did now was showing us how long his straw tail is and how easily it catches fire.