Raven, we need a little more time.

was abused ( emotionally, verbally, and physically ) by his father 

was kind’ve neglected by his mother, prior to kind’ve creating a bond with her 

and then she was murdered by his arch-enemy

was manipulated and basically forced to trigger his werewolf curse with zero help from the people he cared about 

he would have had mason but mason was murdered #thanksdamon

when he found a pack he thought could help mentor him, they manipulated him further into hurting his friends 

which he was very clearly not comfortable with and highly conflicted with but he didn’t know what else to do because it’s not like there are as many werewolf mentors around as there are vampire ones

finally came into his own as a werewolf, found happiness with a girl he loved more than anything, and then was forced to turn into a monster and was sired to the devil himself

then forced to hurt the only person who he’d ever really loved and who had ever really loved him and in the process kind alienated his friends 

was also, again, manipulated by this person who he ( at one point ) saw as a savior and a mentor

broke eVERY BONE IN HIS BODY  H U N D R E D S  OF TIMES OVER because he didn’t want to hurt anyone anymore

every bone in his body.

multiple times over.

every. bone. in. his. body. MULTIPLE TIMES.

devoted himself to protecting other werewolves from the threat of klaus’ sire bond, made himself a pack, became a true alpha

guess what they got murdered too, whoda thunk

meanwhile, he gets hate bc ????? he gets in the way of ships, but i digress. 

really fucking loves matt donovan

TOOK A BULLET FOR HIS FRIENDS SO THEY WOULDN’T BECOME TARGETED BY A GROUP OF STAKE-HAPPY HUNTERS. in public. in front of many people.

was turned back into a human, was probably finally happy to have the chance at living a normal life again

then had to trigger his werewolf curse again so that he wouldnt die

did i mention he had to trigger it by killing someone he loved? no. yeah.

took care of elena when she was in her coma, constantly kept her on the move so damon couldn’t hurt her

got murdered by damon for shock value

and was very confident that it would mean the end of everything damon loved and it would be something people couldn’t forgive

lol

is in the afterlife looking over matt and being really fucking proud of his best friend and everything that he’s achieved. like tyler’s eternal peace IS LITERALLY BEING PROUD OF HIS BEST FRIEND LIVING HIS BEST LIFE i’m gonna cry about that for a little bit ok

was a really shitty character who did truly terrible things ( it’s heavily implied that he abused vicki in season one, he’s terrible to literally EVERYONE, used drugs and alcohol, beat people up, bullied people ) and he somehow turned around to be a really caring, protective, dynamic and strong character