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you all need to unpack your bioessentialism, but we also need a better theory of gender than "it's just dressup." I will pick my words carefully here, but the word "gender" itself refers to so many different phenomena that have been lumped together, and we need to un-lump them

a lot of people lately seem to be going heavy on the "performance" use of the word, ignoring (intentionally or otherwise) social classing, intrinsic gender, and subconscious sex. this seems to have led to a lot of "progressive" people treating trans women like men "amabs" who wear womanhood as a costume, and nobody understands why that's wrong because they also think gender is just a performance

see also "why can't you just be a femboy/feminine man/etc"

Sick list of symptoms bro. Now try humanizing your behavior instead of pathologizing it.

people will literally say this and then not actually believe you when you say you're abnormally upset by something unless you disclose your mental disability to clarify it.

yeah i'm sorry i convulsed and snapped when you and your friend spoke to me at the same time, i actually have- wait, mentioning my sensory issues would be pathologizing my behavior, uh yea i just hate the sound of your voice i guess. let me jump in this hole real quick

this isn't analogous to apologizing because you ran someone's foot over with your wheelchair, it's turning to that wheelchair user and telling them to apologize for making their feet so big and heavy

there is nothing compassionate about telling disabled people to forever concede that their behaviors are indistinguishable from a neurotypical person who simply sucks and is wrong all the time

i'd rather every single person on earth have free, reliable, easily accessible, and judgment free access to hrt, even if they regret taking it later, than have one single trans person kill themselves because they can't access or afford or are prevented from taking hrt!!!! i'll forcefem a thousands cismen before i let one trans girl die!!!!

Legitimately good example of how thorough you need to be to protect private information

Similar situation, except when we say we suggest something, our wife starts giggling, and we have to be like. "It's not forcefem, we gave you your shot like an hour ago" lol

I am happy when I cry for it is proof I am healthier now than I was before estrogen

also can’t get over that guy who said he WOULD just identify as a straight trans man but he doesn’t like straight women/thinks straight dating is “icky” so he identifies as a lesbian so he can date lesbians. how am i supposed to react to a guy saying that with his whole chest. what am i supposed to say to that

just saying if a trans woman did anything like this she would be called a predator or some sort of faker. remember how yall reacted to bi lesbians.

rb to relieve the back pain of the person u reblogged this from

This stupid exchange between friends has become a cultural icon.