A masculine man is different than an abusive man
The abusive men is the one that uses his strength and resources for his own benefit and in detriment of others well being.
The masculine man is the one that knows heβs capable of using his strength in a selfish way but chooses to use his potency to benefit others even if he has something to loose with it
For example the owner of a company could worry only about profits but chooses to be at service for people for a greater purpose
For example a husband that instead of demeaning his wife to make himself feel more powerful chooses to offer his best to her
A masculine man understand that he leads when he has the trust of others not when he subjugates and threatens them
One thing is having control, another is having respect
The abusive man rules through fear, the masculine man rules through admiration
We sometimes hear people saying that traditional gender roles breeds abusive men but this canβt be further from the truth. The truly abusive man is the one whoβs aggressive and impose his presence through fear is not a true representation of the βpatriarchyβ - that is a violent and uncontrolled man that doesnβt even deserve the presence of a woman in his life. A man that is violent with his family should and deserves to be in jail
Our civilization got to where it is being conducted by strong and mature men that took care of their women and took their kids to the world so their offspring could expand. This is the true βpatriarchyβ and there is nothing wrong with it.
Itβs just a man fulfilling his dutyβ¦ providing, protecting and leading his family.
That is the masculine man, a man that acts according to his essence
