Remember when both of their families used to hang out together at shows, and now they always seem to be separate? During the Ohio shows for Breach, they were clearly in different areas according to people's stories, and I even saw photos of Josh's family down on the floor while Tyler's family was up in the seats.
And remember when Tyler would sometimes bring his whole family along to shows in other cities? They all seemed really close back then. Even after Maddy and Zack had their first daughters, everyone still seemed to spend a lot of time together. Remember Tyler’s birthday tradition of going to that arcade/game place every year, and 2021 was the last time he did it. What happened to that tradition? he used to celebrate it with everyone. You could tell it was something personal and meaningful , and now he doesn’t celebrate it that way anymore.
And having kids isn’t really an excuse, because if that were the case, then nobody with children would ever be able to do anything anymore. Having kids definitely makes things more complicated, but it doesn’t mean your entire life suddenly stops. Anyway, there have pretty clearly been some shifts and distancing happening on multiple levels there.
But especially between Tyler and the family as a whole, and as a result, between Jenna and Maddy and Tatum too. Obviously they still see each other and get together sometimes, but before, you could actually see that the siblings were friends. They would hang out because they wanted to, not just because it was a holiday, a family obligation, or a special occasion.
Tyler used to write things that made it seem like he really wanted to be part of the family, and sometimes even carried guilt about certain things. He wrote My Blood for his family, but during the Clancy Tour he said that, while it was originally about family, now it feels more like it’s for us now. I don't know, it just feels like something shifted. Like nowadays he doesn't seem to put the same emphasis on that aspect of his life anymore, or at least not in the way he used to.
don't have much to add here, aside from, yknow, good for him. it can really be hard sometimes to take that distance from family, but when they suck, it's also important. and i'm glad tyler has finally managed to start pulling away, and i hope it helps him thrive.