seven rings in hand

Look guys, I understand he creeped you out a little by asking for these kinds of rps but honestly, I just don’t think he understands.

If you can’t tell, english isn’t his first language and I once had him on skype once and I had to explain to him several times that I wasn’t actually Sonic the hedgehog, I just roleplayed as him.

You guys are continuously harassing him and continuously putting him on the spot, and one of you even admitted to doing this just because you thought it was fun to watch him suffer. That's...vindictive. And wrong. And it's a serious issue you need to look into if you have that sort of mentality.

Yes, it's healthy to want to block out people who are making you uncomfortable from your life. While it's rude to do so without explanation, you can. (And Silvy has been given a hard time about this which is silly because she's allowed to get rid of people in her life if she simply doesn't want to associate with them. She doesn't need a good reason.) But to go as far as to pursue that person, go into their blog, and harass them, readd them repeatedly on Skype just to annoy them, and constantly bother them is unhealthy. It's beyond the point of being rude, it's downright malicious and it can make people very intimidated of you.

[sigh]

All right. Let’s get down to business.

Apparently there’s been some misinterpretation as to what’s going on and multiple people have said the same thing (or at least, according to this one person) so I’m going to lay it down thick on everyone.

No, Shadow was not encouraging or dismissing cheating.

I guess I didn’t write it that well, so let me elaborate: Shadow did not see what he was doing as cheating because of something that happened earlier on. You wouldn’t get this context if you haven’t been following the blog for long enough, but it’s been said time and time again that kissing, even on the lips, could be considered platonic — hell, even Sonic and Shadow themselves were saying their kisses at the time were platonic kisses, and that’s exactly how Shadow viewed the ones that he was giving to other people. Shadow doesn’t realize it, but he took this subconsciously, and as a result hasn’t seen the actual problem with kissing other people, and hasn’t seen how that could be viewed.

Now when Sonic questioned about it, he honestly answered that he didn’t like kissing people. He wasn’t kissing them for the sake of kissing them or starting a relationship; he was doing it to rile the other person up. Now the reason why he saw this as acceptable behavior is because other people did it to him already. He was not doing it because he found kissing Sonic unsatisfactory, or even because he wanted to go and kiss other people at all. It was because he was teasing them in what he saw was a friendly way because of how others reacted to them. It’s like taking an embarrassing photograph of your friend and then showing it to your other friend for the sake of getting them annoyed with you. He explained it, and also kissed Sonic two different ways in order to elaborate and prove that the intention wasn’t to cheat on him.

Even after that, though, he even said he would stop if it was still hurting Sonic. In other words, if it still appeared as cheating to Sonic and he really wanted to reserve the kissing just for the two of them, he would restrict it to them. This is not only accepting it could be viewed as cheating, but also admitting that it was wrong of him to assume that Sonic would see it the way he did, and that he would still be comfortable with that kind of platonic kissing with other people. He discouraged cheating, not encouraged it. 

As for how Sonic reacted, he reacted in the way he did because of multiple people telling him how unhealthy their relationship was, and he took the blame on himself as for why it was unhealthy when in reality it was that way because of how they would overreact at things and get into petty fights about things that didn’t need to be fought about.

They can say no.

Exactly! Go for it!

But you see, them saying no is the worth thing that can happen. And that scares me. You see, I’m afraid of rejection. Why did you say no? Am I no good? Is my Muse not that interesting? I know they have all the right in the world to not RP with me, but I get all these anxieties when someone says no. And even when people try to comfort me and tell me it’s not my fault, there’s always this nagging voice in my head that tells me it’s all my fault, I’m boring, I suck, et cetera. And every time I see them on my dash afterwards, I’ll just be reminded of the time I couldn’t be good enough.

So just unfollow them, then.

I want to. But I don’t want to. Every time I see them come up on my dash, I’m reminded of when I asked them for a RP and they declined. For whatever reason, they didn’t want to RP with me. I respect their decision, but it still hurts. I don’t want to unfollow them. If I was interested enough in them to ask for a thread, then that means I like them. I don’t want to unfollow them, because I still enjoy reading through their threads with other people, and unfollowing would just make it seem like I’m throwing a temper tantrum. I end up sitting on the sidelines trying to gather up the courage to someday ask again.

Why not just go and talk to them about it if it bugs you so much?

This is the kind of thing that encourages people to swallow down their feelings and force themselves to RP with you, because they don't want you to feel this way. It opens up a lose-lose situation in which you're RPing with someone who doesn't actually want to RP with you, and then it causes problems in the long run of miscommunication and huuuuge upsets that you really, really don't want.

Listen, these kinds of anxiety issues are the kind that you really need to work on and it's not up to your possible RP partner to work you through them. This isn't something that's just problematic for RPing. It'd be problematic for about anything you'd do -- whether it be getting a job or something along those lines, because you hold yourself back with thoughts like, "Well, I shouldn't try to get a job because they might just deny me and if they deny me I'll have all these bad thoughts." Instead of placing the blame (which yes, you are) on the other person, you need to place it on yourself for the fact that you beat yourself up over other people's decisions. Your friends are right; it often isn't your fault, and even if it was there's nothing gained by ripping yourself a new one and reminding yourself of how much of a supposed "failure" you are (which, by the way, you aren't).

So like

I’ve already talked to a few other people about this but I was wondering

Have any of you guys ever come across the error where you can access the tumblr login page, but even when you enter the correct credentials it gives you an error that says “There was a problem logging in - Please try again later”?

I only encounter this error when I’m using my college’s IP address. I really doubt that a college would block tumblr, but even if they did it wouldn’t make any sense because I can see the login page. I haven’t been able to log in to Aiden’s or my personal account at school for a month now.

Other people around the internet have been having this problem, so it isn’t just my school. I can only log in from home now.

Before I contact tech support, I just wanted to know if any of you guys had encountered this or had experience with it. I’m just afraid of getting locked out permanently; that would ruin a lot of things.

i know i’ve been a major cranky butt but i think a lot of that was hormones ahhh