I gave someone passing/looking older tips earlier whoās pre-T, so I figured Iād share them here too on the off chance itād help someone. Especially since Iāve noticed a lot of passing guides never really mention the use of make up, and I think a lot of trans men also donāt realize make up can be used to help you pass. Ā
1. This is my number one tip to both ftmās and mtfās, DO SOMETHING ABOUT YOUR EYEBROWS. Eyebrows seriously can make all the difference. Eyebrows literally are the difference between me passing and not passing. Since this is directed at Ftmās though: Darken your eyebrows with mascara. Be gentle though, because it can make you lose eyebrow hair. Preferably use a brush thatās thick with a lot of bristles works best in my case. Go for dark brown instead of black. Sometimes black ends up looking odd, but donāt be afraid to experiment.Ā
Ā 2. Darken your chin hairs with mascara. Even afab people have a small amount of soft and light facial hair. If you donāt have much existing facial hair, I find black with a small brush like this works best: [Link] If you have facial hair, a dark brown with something like the yellow one or one second from the right works best in my experience: [Link]. Go slow and try to not touch the skin too much. Takes some practice, but if you do the very bottom of your chin and maybe even along your jaw itāll help people read you as older/male. Donāt overdo it, because it will look fake if you overdo it. Itās good for creating just enough facial hair to tip you over to male, but donāt expect a beard. Ā
3. Cut/shave your hairline into a move square or subtle M shape. Look up pictures of male v female hairlines to see what youāre going for. Styling your hair in a way that makes this more noticeable will help too. This is good for guys who canāt cut their hair or donāt want to. You may want to go to a barber shop for a male haircut as well. If you donāt go to a barber shop, and maybe even if you do, make sure to really stress you really, truly do want a male haircut, because sometimes hair stylists will think,Ā āThey really donāt want a guy haircut, Iāll give them a short female cut.āĀ
Ā 4. Shave your face. Even if you donāt have facial hair, getting rid of the soft, light hairs actually helps somewhat. Your face will feel weird and rubbery in the shower, but thatās normal.
Ā 5. This takes a bit more effort, but you could try masculine contouring. Itāll help make your face more masc. I always recommend trying this to people who are unsure about their dysphoria and trans status. GoogleĀ āmasculine contouringā for guides, especially for your face shape.Ā
Ā 6. If youāre short, look into shoe lifts. Theyāre like $10 on Amazon. They range from .5"-3". You can also do things like training yourself to have better posture and getting shoes with higher platforms to help too ofc. The downside to shoe lifts is they can be bad for your back, especially if you have existing back pain or problems. Be responsible and use common sense with them. Donāt wear them for extended periods, moderation, start slow to see how your body takes them, give yourself breaks, stretch, get good rest, and just take care of yourself.
Ā 7. Drink plenty of water. Making sure you arenāt retaining water helps thin your face out, which Iāve found helps a lot. I recommend a ketogenic diet for really cutting the water retention and helping with weight loss (which also helps with passing), but you can also look into other natural ways to relieve water retention. Do NOT use water pills unless you are suffering from excessive water retention. Ā (Some are also just expensive caffeine pills as well.)
8. If you canāt afford or canāt access and binder, buying control tights, cutting off the legs, and making a hole for your head makes a great DIY binder. It works best for people with smaller chests as it wonāt flatten you out like a binder does.Ā
9. A lot of guys donāt realize that your voice isnāt all just T. I think thatās the reason theĀ āFtMās sound like little peopleā type stereotypes exist. You have to adapt to your new voice. You will want to speak from a lower point in your throat and put more emphasis on your voice from your chest if possible. It requires practice. It helps if you hum and gradually lower the pitch of the hum. Once itās as low as you can comfortably get it, speak. Play with it. Itāll help you figure out how to talk and from where. These tips can help if youāre pre-T as well. It might not make you sound male, but it can make you sound androgynous or less feminine.Ā
10. Slightly furrowing your brow can help give the appearance of a brow ridge and smaller eyes, a male sex characteristic.Ā
11. Males have smaller upper lips and slightly paler lips. You can google for guides on how to achieve a smaller lip look with make up.Ā
Iāll edit this if I think of anything else.