V's room

Ugh, see, I really do love the mechslpo genre but I just can’t get into the idea of being fully broken- because all of my enjoyment comes from the attempts to break me.

not to sound preachy but i’ve never seen anybody rebut “make a terf angry” with “make a trans woman feel better” and… that’s kind of tumblr’s attitude towards trans women summed up as concise as possible. more people should strive to be the second thing because the first is performative and lazy… thank u discourser-of-kruphix…

And also

You know, something I've noticed that like, I think is a good barometer for the societal view of trans women at large that I haven't seen mentioned recently? How socially acceptable it is to "headcanon" away a trans woman's identity. And, how doing the opposite subjects you to a flood of harassment. Like, yeah you will occasionally see it on other parts of the queer spectrum, but it's so prevalent with trans women compared to the rest that it's hard to ignore. It probably links in with the "it's okay to be a gnc boy" bullshit, but, I see it a lot. And, I always see this... Faux-positivity bullshit its wrapped in, you know? "It's okay to headcanon whatever you want! It's valid to have headcanons!" Things like that. But, you know what? You don't see it near as often with other crucial parts of a character, or in some cases, a real person's identity. Or, at least, it isn't seen as taboo or it isn't called out as often. (Colorism is a notable exception, here, see to a user like storyweavingspider if you want to educate yourself more on that.) It's always okay to "headcanon" the trans woman as a genderfuck, it's always okay to "headcanon" a trans woman as trans masc, it's always okay to to "headcanon" a trans woman as not trans at all. And, you'll even have authors and creators follows this sort of mindset. But, it's never okay to "headcanon" a character as a trans woman. It's never okay to identify a character as being a trans woman, or coded as and written like a trans woman. Creators will twist themselves in to fucking knots and jump to the occasion to "correct" that idea. Fans will contort themselves in incredible feats of mental gymnastics to come up with any any all excuses as to why that's impossible. And, you see it constantly. It's not uncommon, not any less common than seeing a trans woman who was active on this site suddenly evaporate out of the blue. Like that double standard is always there and always looming. Better quite literally anything than a trans woman seems to be the general vibe these days. And, it just makes me so much more tired.

laying with her in bed, her "sleeping". as i sigh heavily from frustration i was holding up all day and try to quietly stand up, she goes "where are you going?"