Vei Bodhi

By self obsessed, I don’t mean thinking you’re better than everyone else or making everything about you

I mean becoming deeply invested in your own life. Prioritizing your growth, your health, your goals, your peace, and your happiness. Building a life that excites you instead of constantly wondering what everyone else thinks

Ironically, the less you chase attention, the more magnetic you become. People are naturally drawn to someone who knows who they are, has purpose, and isn’t looking for validation from everyone around them

Some things you call “just who I am”are patterns you learned to survive. Alot of what feels natural to you was actually built in environments where you had to adapt, shrink, protect yourself

Here are a few examples

You thought you were “independent” but you struggle to rely on anyone because depending on others never felt safe

You thought you were “low maintenance” but you learned not to ask for much so you wouldn’t be a burden

You thought you were “chill” but you avoid conflict because speaking up once cost you something

You thought you were “an overthinker”but your mind is always scanning for what could go wrong so you can stay one step ahead

You thought you were “a people pleaser”but you learned that being liked was the safest way to stay accepted

You thought you were “emotionally strong” but you’re actually used to suppressing how you feel because no one ever held space for it

You thought you were “private”but opening up has never felt safe enough to try. None of these are flaws. They were intelligent adaptations that helped you navigate situations where you didn’t feel fully secure or supported