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If you feel you don’t really respect yourself then take a quick look at the list below and try to makes some changes in your daily life.

1. Ask yourself: “What does it mean to respect someone?” We have different ideas about the qualities and traits that are worthy of recognition and respect. For example, it could include being honest and reliable, being the kind of person who will listen and be there, or being understanding and trustworthy. Now ask if you have some of these qualities and traits. If so, you deserve to give yourself respect.

2. Treat yourself with kindness and proper respect. Stop and think about the kinds of things you say about yourself (“I’m ugly; I’m a failure; I hate myself; There’s no point in trying as I’m bound to fail”). You’d never say those kinds of things to someone else you loved – so why are you insulting and putting yourself down? Stop treating yourself badly – and start showing respect.

3. When others disrespect you, stand up for yourself. When people are rude, or expect too much of you, don’t feel you have to take it – or there’s nothing you can do. Believe you deserve better and stand up for yourself.

4. Take care of you mental and physical health. Respect that you have limits and can’t do everything. Sometimes you need a break or some time on your own. Also, if you love who you are then you will treat your body well. Don’t treat it like a garbage can and or exercise!

📺 Project Vulva ⎮ Jessica Bird

College’s ‘Project Vulva’ Attacked For ‘Transphobia’

The Daily Caller ⎮ Blake Neff

Students at Scripps College in Claremont, California, held a “Project Vulva” event recently to fight the “taboo” on showing women’s genitals in society, only to find themselves under attack for allegedly engaging in “transmisogyny.”

The event was held Oct. 29 at a coffeehouse near the all-women college, and invited participants to come and decorate cupcakes so they resembled vulvas.

“Why is it that, generally, society is so comfortable with the image of the penis and vulvas are considered taboo?,” the event’s Facebook page provocatively asks. “In middle school people would scribble penis pictures on the desks in the classroom. There is always that kid who passes out at the party and someone draws a dick on his face. So where the vulvas at??? What even IS a vulva (often confused with the vagina)? What problems can lack of knowledge lead to?”

But the premise of the event rapidly drew criticism from transgender activists, who complained that the event demeaned the experience of women who were born in men’s bodies. (RELATED: UCLA Paper Apologizes For Saying Women Menstruate)

“Society is not comfortable with the image of a penis on a woman,” Claremont resident Ariel Aliá said in a post attacking the event. “This event feels extremely transmisogynistic and to say penises are universally accepted as non-taboo is transmisogynistic.” Aliá’s post provoked an extended debate over just how offensive the event was.

“[T]his entire event is so incredibly violent to trans women specifically. I’m so disgusted,” said Facebook user Kasie Butler, who later described the word “transgendered” itself as “highly offensive.”

“The wording of this event excludes trans women, and further normalizes transmisogyny and violence against trans women,” added Simone Rae Charles-Isosceles, who dismissed the whole affair as a “garbage, cis, white event.”

The backlash occurred even though organizers tried to cover their bases by saying they were not assuming a simple “binary concept of gender.”

“Not all women have vulvas, and not all vulvas belong to women,” the Facebook page said.

The outrage grew strong enough that an apology was issued by The Motley Coffeehouse, which hosted the event and describes itself as an “intersectional, political, and feminist business.” The coffeehouse said it was working hard to atone for its error and overcome its “herstory” (rather than “history”) of privilege.

“The Motley wants to validate and support the critiques that have been voiced concerning Project Vulva,” the coffeehouse’s statement said. “We are deeply sorry for the hurt experienced by the trans community both in the space of the Motley and on the Scripps campus in general. Being a privileged and exclusive space has long been imbedded in our herstory, and though we have tried and are trying to become an inclusive space where everyone can feel safe and accepted, we recognize that we have failed.”

To rectify the situation, Motley announced that the event would feature “a space … devoted to interrogating the symbol of the vulva – what does it mean to you? Is it a symbol of strength? A reminder of being labeled as an ‘other’ that is oppressive?”

“We hope that providing the opportunity for written reflections about the vulva (which will be kept in our sitting room after the event) will help foster further dialogue and widen our perceptions of feminism to be more intersectional and inclusive,” the statement said.

At least one person said the apology wasn’t enough though.

“I’m surprised that with the feedback this event has received, it hasn’t been canceled,” said commenter Jay Marks. “Whether or not cisgender people view this as an act of violence towards trans women is irrelevant. Multiple trans women have expressed that this event is an act of violence towards them, and it’s extremely concerning to me that while they are being acknowledged, they are not being listened to.”

Nevertheless, the event went forward, and afterwards, organizer Jess Bird uploaded a video on YouTube showcasing her efforts to raise awareness about the vulva:

📺 Project Vulva ⎮ Jessica Bird 

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science education and sex education have been hampered so much in this fucking “first world” country, there is so much disrespect for women, reproductive rights are under attack, girls and women are being taught that their vulvas are “ugly” and need surgical reshaping to fit pornographic ideals, women’s issues are routinely trivialized or dismissed in health care, lesbians are demonized for same-sex attraction and lack of attraction to Almighty Penis, popular teen mags won’t even include diagrams that show the fucking clitoris, we’ve also got teenaged social justice warriors running around whose self-hatred for their female bodies and female bodies in general (”anatomical nightmare” anyone?) is at least partly the result of this unchecked normalized denigration of female bodies in our society.

but no, the real problem here is dickhavers feeling attacked. BAWW. these people are so fucking selfish and nasty, and the way this shit is coddled is a dead giveaway that everyone does in fact think of transwomen are male. because only males get this kneejerk, total deference. this is 100% patriarchy in action.