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وَكَفَىٰ بِٱللَّهِ وَلِيًّا And sufficient is Allah as an Ally

وَكَفَىٰ بِٱللَّهِ نَصِيرًا  And sufficient is Allah as a Helper

وَكَفَىٰ بِٱللَّهِ عَلِيمًا And sufficient is Allah as Knower

وَكَفَىٰ بِٱللَّهِ شَهِيدًا And sufficient is Allah as Witness

وَكَفَىٰ بِٱللَّهِ وَكِيلًا And sufficient is Allah as Disposer of affairs

“Strive in making Du'ā, for whoever increases in knocking at the door, then it will soon open up.”

She often said, “it’s not your appearance that you shall go to Allah with. Do not waste time looking in the mirror.’’

Years, later when I heard this hadith, I just recalled all that she said. 

Narrated by, Abu Huraira, the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ, said, “Verily, Allah does not look at your appearance or wealth, but rather he looks at your hearts and actions.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2564

We need to counteract superficial influences from our culture’s and the society we live in by placing value on what Allah values – the inner heart and character of an individual. As Allah says,

إِلَّا مَنْ أَتَى اللَّهَ بِقَلْبٍ سَلِيمٍ

Except him who brings to Allah a clean heart [clean from Shirk (polytheism) and Nifaq (hypocrisy)]. {Ash-Shu'araa, (The Poets)Ayah 89}

Compliment your daughters/sisters on their inner character frequently. Most importantly, Make dua for your daughters/sisters daily. It’s a very different world than the one that our parents raised us in and the temptations are becoming more overt and bold daily. Make dua fervently that she will have a heart that seeks to know Allah and to submit to his servitude.

“Allahumma inni as'alukal-huda wat- tuqa wal-‘afafa wal-ghina”

“(O Allah! I ask You for guidance, piety, chastity and self- sufficiency)”.

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وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّ اللهَ يَحُولُ بَيْنَ الْمَرْءِ وَقَلْبِهِ

And know that Allah intervenes between a man & His heart! Surat Al-‘Anfāl يَا مُقَلِّبَ الْقُلُوبِ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِى عَلَى دِينِكَ

Yaa Muqallibal Quloob Thabbit Qalbee ‘alaa Deenik. “Oh turner of the hearts (Allah, the Most High), keep our hearts firm on your religion”