cheesecake enthusiast

i liked the grimes-musk relationship because it unearthed a truth that many are uncomfortable with: lefty tumblr girls who don't read and libertarian reddit guys who also don't read are made for each other

what on earth is it that possesses thin people to go onto any post where a fat person is being vulnerable/discussing insecurities and feelings of undesirability/having a VERY serious discussion about eating disorders/etc. etc. and open up the replies to go "wow this is so real and beautiful. can relate on the opposite end because i've always been skinny. always been really skinny and small and thin so i relate except the opposite, on account of because i'm small (unlike you) so it's the same thing i think. i tried soooo hard to gain weight but the pounds just don't wanna stick! lol. people tell me 'eat a burger!' which hurts, because i like being small and skinny and petite and little and i think it's so beautiful that i'm thin. just thought a different perspective might be helpful live laugh love xo"

like idk how to communicate to this kind of person that what sucks about fatphobia is not so much "people say mean stuff sometimes" as it is not having any positive role models; never receiving any affirmation for physical achievements that's not tied to the idea of you losing weight; being conditioned to believe that your body size and shape are not just in need of change, but a marker of fundamental bad-ness; being often unable to convince healthcare providers to treat you for disordered eating; being unable to seek treatment for non-weight related illnesses without being largely ignored; employment discrimination; housing discrimination; education discrimination; greater standards for gender performance; uncertainty that literally any venue or business will accommodate your body type; difficulty finding clothing and significantly higher prices when you do; public harassment up to and including being stalked, filmed, doxxed, and assaulted; being made to feel actively unsafe in many public spaces and (ime) especially at gyms; being kept as a sexual "secret" for others, and the staggering level of abuse which that arrangement subjects people to; higher rates of intimate and sexual abuse coupled with difficulty in reporting and being believed; et cetera. different magnitudes

trying to teach myself emotional regulation after a lifetime of being taught (mostly through violence) that the only mature way to handle my emotions is to not feel them at all is i'll admit a little hysterical. every day i have to hold my own hand and go now are you going to be a big boy and acknowledge your feelings? it's okay if you don't acknowledge all of them but i need you to at least try alright? if you finish acknowledging your feelings we can go out for ice cream shakes later, how does that sound?

the dichotomy between the "immigrant" (someone from the global south who moves to the north) and the "expat" (someone from the global north who moves to the south) makes me feel fucking crazy. a white person who moves to asia is an expat but an asian who moves to the west is an immigrant. & how those terms are politicized and assigned class statuses, like the word "immigrant" tends to imply a blue collar worker (even if that isn't the case) while "expat" implies a white collar worker. the associations with "expat neighbourhoods" in asian countries is very very different from those of "immigrant neighbourhoods" in western nations. also how "immigrants" who dont assimilate are seen as "failing" and bad, lower class, a burden on society, etc. whereas "expats" not assimilating into local culture is expected and viewed as a sign of their higher status. the double standards are so insane

i don't know how many times i can say to europeans in the notes "these words have political connotations associated with race, class, and national origin outside of the most literal linguistic definitions and i am specifically talking about how these are used in the (southeast) asian context but this also applies in varying ways around the world because racism and classism are global phenomenons" before they stop replying to this post with 'uhm actually as a german who moved to chile i consider myself an immigrant this must be an english-ism or americanism, it's linguistically incorrect' because i'm going to start getting mean for real soon

To be clear, the creator of that fangame is legitimately a lawyer.

enamored lately with an asmr channel i stumbled upon on youtube that’s literally just a sweet korean lady pretending to give her enormous ragdoll cat (who she pretends is a famous and wealthy cat actress) extravagant spa treatments that are wildly, wildly overpriced (because the cat is rich)

Professionalism is performance art. It’s like security theatre, humility theatre, eagerness theatre, humanitarian theatre etc all wrapped into one.

Faking neutrality….that’s killing me rn. I want to run my mouth so bad.

I feel like there's two levels of chronically online. There's like, the variety where you recognize obscure memes and stupid drama and post constantly but have some sort of tether to reality and have friends in the real world and read the news from time to time, and then there's the kind where you genuinely don't realize that your political position or feelings about popular media are not just non-mainstream but actively fringe and that it's not emotional labor to pick people up from the airport.