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1. borrowing misery from future

2. carrying grief of the past

Rumination is probably the most common type of OCD compulsion, but I rarely see anyone talking about it. I've talked to multiple people diagnosed with OCD who didn't even recognize it as a compulsion.

Basically, if you have OCD you have terrible intrusive thoughts. They can be about anything, but common themes are fear of being a bad person, fear of hurting someone, fear of contamination. etc.

Rumination is when you get stuck in a spiral. Rumination is when you spend hours catastrophizing, overthinking, analyzing, telling yourself it's going to be okay.

I'll say it again:

Rumination is a compulsion.

Rumination is a compulsion, and that means you have to stop doing it.

I did ERP (exposure response prevention) for my OCD with a therapist! For 9 months! And it did help, but the idea didn't really click until I found this website a couple years later.

And Oh My God. It made things make so much more sense, and I was able to pull myself out of an episode even though I wasn't in therapy or on meds at the time.

Genuinely if you have OCD, or even if you suspect you have OCD, I'm begging you to read some of these articles.

Like this was genuinely life changing for me.

Here are some of the ones that were most helpful to me:

Defining Rumination

How to Stop Ruminating

ERP Exercises for Compulsive Rumination

She has a truly ancient tiny dog whose pastimes include shitting on my driveway and picking fence fights with Fenris. Occasionally she will ask me to do his nails and he's actually wonderful for them so it takes like 3 minutes tops. She also will usually hand me whatever bill she has in her wallet for it- sometimes it's a 1, once it was a 50, usually it's like 5 bucks.

Now I have tried refusing her money and even gave the 50 back and wouldn't accept it. I then came home to the $50 bill taped to my back door the next day after work. So, you know, I'm kind of stuck accepting whatever she tries to give me because she WILL tape the money to my house somewhere otherwise.

(Once she gave one of her granddaughters a gift that required batteries and was distraught that it didn't come with any. Knocked on my door to ask if I had any. I haven't used my spare batteries in ages so I just gave her a whole pack. Refused to let her pay for them. Three days later a pack of batteries plus ten bucks was taped to my door. So this is not an uncommon occurance.)

Anyway this time she didn't have any money to pay because we're all fucking broke as shit on this block and she was really upset because his nails were starting to curl and once again I did them in like 3 minutes and when she apologized for not being able to pay me I just waved her off and told her not to worry about it.

I came home on Monday to my backyard being totally cleared of winter debris and the growing collection of winter dog shit as well as my fence repaired in two of the places that broke when the tree fell on it. I texted her adult son whose number I have and he confirmed he did it because he was happy that I helped his mom out with her dog. I tried to explain that it really does not take a lot to do the dog's nails but he similarly refused to hear it and said he'd be back in a few days to finish fixing the fence.

today's the brown shrike! you're likely familiar with its sister species, the loggerhead shrike, arguably the most famous of the family as it's the only one which resides in the contiguous U.S. today's representative ranges across a huge amount of Asia! with a large range, there's predictably geographic variation - birds that breed in Japan have bright rust-colored backs, those which inhabit China and the Philippines are a misty grey, the soft brown type species migrates between South Asia and Siberia, so on and so forth. rarely, an exceptionally adventurous individual finds their way to Europe or North America. the fellow getting his hand bit is from the U.S. west coast!

birds often travel back to the same wintering areas they've lived in year after year. its black mask fades to brown in its tropical winter homes, and females tend to have scallop markings on their chests far more often than males do. it prefers areas open to the sky that have at least a few trees and shrubs - it shares its family's characteristic behavior of skewering prey on thorns, sharp branches, or human fences for storage and impressing other shrikes. this is the source of the family's fame, being simultaneously a small unassuming songbird and ruthless predator. it usually takes insects, with the occasional small lizard or bird. they declare their territory by singing from the tops of their thorn bushes with closed beaks, and are often heard incorporating other songbirds' calls into their own song. (incidentally, some related shrikes use the family's mimicking ability to copy the calls of small songbirds, luring them into attacking distance. rude)

29 May 2026