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🌸If you do like my pick a pile readings so far do check the page out, I've got a future pick a pile, up there now!:

I'll be posting my readings there regularly, and I'd love to build a little community of people who enjoy pick-a-piles as much as I do. 💙 Readers and non-readers are both welcome!

This is a slightly heavier reading than usual! You may want to keep some tissues nearby because I certainly needed them while working through these piles. 🥹

As always, take what resonates and leave what doesn't. You may find yourself drawn to more than one pile, and that's completely okay.

Take your time. There is no rush.

I'll be honest, I was a little hesitant about doing this reading.But as someone who's been through things myself, I know what it's like to carry weight that doesn't belong to you. Sometimes we get so used to carrying it that we forget we were never supposed to hold it all alone in the first place.

So if you've chosen a pile today, I hope it brings you some comfort, clarity, or even just a reminder to be a little gentler with yourself.

And before I go, I'm sending you a virtual hug (if you're a hug person) and a high five (if you're not). 💙✨

Thank you for stopping by.🌻🌺

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👀PILE 1 - This pile feels like you've been carrying responsibility that was never fully yours to begin with.

I'm getting the sense of someone who learned very early on to be dependable, to keep things together, to be the strong one, the sensible one, the person who can handle it.

The problem is that people got comfortable with that. So comfortable, in fact, that some of their burdens slowly became yours.

For some of you, this looks like emotional labour.

Always checking on everyone else. Always being the one who remembers, plans, fixes, worries, or holds things together.

The message here is that you are allowed to put some of that down.

Not because you're weak. Not because you don't care. But because some things were never assigned to you in the first place.

There's a feeling of reclaiming your own energy.

Taking your hands off situations that other people need to take responsibility for themselves.

You can support people without carrying them.

🥹I'm sending you a virtual hug (if you're a hug person) and a virtual high five (if you're not a hug person). 🧡✨

🗝️PILE 2 - This pile feels connected to stress that you've learned to hide.

You may come across as cheerful, capable, easygoing, or "fine" even when you're carrying far more than people realise.

I'm seeing someone who has spent a lot of time trying to manage everyone's comfort while quietly ignoring their own discomfort.

For some of you, there may be a tendency to keep difficult feelings tucked away because you don't want to burden others or create problems. But all that does is leave you carrying those feelings alone.

The burden that doesn't belong to you may be the responsibility for keeping the peace, keeping everyone happy, or making sure nobody gets upset.

That's an impossible job!!

People are allowed to have their own reactions, their own emotions, and their own lessons.

You don't have to keep holding everything behind your back. Some of you are exhausted, and honestly, I think you've earned the right to admit that.

🥹I'm sending you a virtual hug (if you're a hug person) and a virtual high five (if you're not a hug person). 💜✨

🔮PILE 3 - This pile feels heavy.

For some of you, the thing you've been carrying isn't even something that started with you.

It feels like you witnessed things, absorbed things, or grew up around things that taught you to stay alert, read the room, anticipate problems, or become emotionally mature far too quickly.

I see a child who was paying attention to everything!

A child who noticed more than people realised.

A child who learned that safety depended on being aware of what was happening around them.

The burden here feels like hypervigilance*. (*Very aware)

Always scanning.

Always preparing.

Always expecting something to go wrong.

But you're not that child anymore.

You don't have to keep carrying responsibility for things that adults should have handled.

I feel emotional writing this one because it feels like some of you have spent years carrying survival habits and calling them personality traits.

You survived because of them...but surviving and living are not the same thing.🥲

🥹I'm sending you a virtual hug (if you're a hug person) and a virtual high five (if you're not a hug person). 💙✨

🔺PILE 4 - This pile feels like you've been carrying unprocessed sadness for a very long time. Not necessarily crying every day sadness.

More like a quiet grief that settled somewhere deep inside you and never really left.

I think some of you became very good at functioning while hurting.

People may see someone strong, resilient, independent, and capable, while completely missing the parts of you that needed comfort, reassurance, or support.

The burden here feels connected to emotional pain that you convinced yourself you should just get over by now.

But healing doesn't work like that.

👉What I'm hearing very clearly is: "You were never supposed to carry this alone."

For some of you, there are emotions you've buried so deeply that you've almost forgotten they're there.🩷

Yet they're still influencing how you see yourself, how you trust others, and what you believe you deserve.

This pile feels like a release.

Like opening a locked room and finally letting fresh air in. The beautiful thing is that once that room is opened, you may discover there was far less wrong with you than you thought, PILE 4!

You were simply carrying more than one person should have had to carry. 💚🌙🗝️

🥹I'm sending you a virtual hug (if you're a hug person) and a virtual high five (if you're not a hug person). 🩷✨

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Pick a pile: What Opinion Are You Absolutely Not Going To Listen To?

(✨scroll down to the bottom to see overall message after you choose a pile.✨)

Hey guys! Here's today's reading! 😊✨

Pick the pile that calls out to you and your message will be in the comments below. 💜

Also, if my pick-a-piles aren't your thing, that's completely okay! Feel free to scroll on or block me. 😜 I enjoy making these, and plenty of lovely people seem to enjoy them too.

Thank you very much for inspiring today's pick-a-pile though!🩷 😂✨

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📌 Pile 1: "Yeah...I'm Still Doing It."

This pile feels like advice that sounds sensible on paper but completely misses the point. People might be telling you to sit still, calm down, wait your turn, be more realistic, lower your expectations, or stop making things harder for yourself.

The thing is...you're not ignoring them because you're stubborn. You're ignoring them because deep down you know their advice wasn't made for you.

There's a playful energy here.

You're not trying to cause problems. You're just not interested in doing everything by the book. I can see the sun card which makes me feel like the opinion you're ignoring comes from people who think they're protecting you, but in reality they may be projecting their own fears.

📻 Pile 2: "Stop Rushing Me."

The opinion you're absolutely not listening to is: "You should be further along by now."

Nope.

This pile feels like you've got your own rhythm and you're tired of people acting like life is a race. The funny thing is I don't even think you're moving slowly. I think you're moving at a pace that actually works for you.

Other people just keep comparing your timeline to theirs. There's also something about being underestimated here.

People see the snail and assume "slow. Meanwhile you're quietly getting where you need to go.

🧱 Pile 3: "I Didn't Ask."

This pile is blunt. 😂 Damn.

The opinion you're ignoring feels completely unsolicited.

Nobody asked.

Nobody requested it.

Nobody sent out a survey.

Yet somehow somebody appeared with a detailed explanation of what you should be doing. This pile feels like you're protecting your peace more than anything. You're learning that not every opinion deserves equal weight.

I keep seeing a brick wall and it is a little funny because the advice may as well be bouncing off the wall. (Boing!)😂

Not because you're closed-minded.

Because you've already made your decision.

👑 Pile 4: "That Sounds Like A You Problem."

I love this🩷😁

Because the opinion you're ignoring feels oddly specific.

Like somebody looked at your life and decided they knew exactly what was best for you. Meanwhile they're not the one who has to live it.

There's a strong theme of individuality here.

You don't want somebody else's version of success.

You don't want somebody else's personality.

You don't want somebody else's life plan.

YOU WANT YOURS.

Im seeing a lot of spots and Dalmatians!!!

This, dalmatian energy, it's making me think you're perfectly happy being the odd one out if it means staying authentic.

(Also, the song, Live More and Love More - Cat burns. 🎵🎶If there's something you wanna do, just do it. Don't let your head stop your heart from moving.🎶🎵 I'm hearing repeatedly, do check it out if you want!💙)

👉The overall message for all these piles is this:

💙Not every opinion deserves a seat at your table, lovely.

Sometimes people genuinely want to help. Sometimes they're sharing their own fears, preferences, or assumptions and presenting them as facts.

At the end of the day, you're the one who has to live your life, make your choices, and deal with the consequences of those choices, not the people watching from the sidelines.

Listen, reflect, stay open-minded, but don't feel obligated to accept every opinion that comes your way.

I've done these before elsewhere and thought it would be fun to bring one over to Tumblr. 🌿

The first 7 people to participate will receive a personalised "kick up the a$$" message based on the pile they choose.🌻

I'm mainly doing this because I'd love to interact a bit more with the spiritual/Tumblr community and get to know some of you lovely people. 💜

How to join:

🌿 Pick a pile.

🌿 comment below your choice (GAP or Compass).

🌿 I'll reply with the message I get for you.

A few things to note:

🌸 Every message will be different, so please don't compare yours to someone else's.

🌸 These are mini messages, so I won't be taking follow-up questions or doing additional clarification afterwards.

Hello everyone!!🌺🌻🌸

Pick a pile and the message would be in the comments! Have a wonderful day/evening!🌸

I was trying to be a little clever with the symbols. Each one is based on a common phrase. (Pretty happy about that😁)

👉🌺Do follow my patreon , if you're interested in seeing the extended version of this and many other extended pick a piles!! (Which I'll be posting soon!!🌻🌸)

🟢 Pile 1: "Lost Your Marbles"

I don't think you've lost your marbles. I think you've put them somewhere "safe" and now can't remember where that safe place is. 😂

This pile feels like someone who's overcomplicating things a little bit. You're rolling ideas around, turning them over, looking at them from every angle, creating diagrams, plans, backup plans for the plans... meanwhile the answer is sat there waiting for you.

There's also something about trying to make everything neat and perfect before taking action.

You keep smoothing things over, adjusting, tweaking.

At some point you've got to stop rearranging the furniture and actually walk through the door.

Your missing piece isn't intelligence. It's trust.

Trusting yourself enough to stop endlessly preparing and just have a go.

☕ Pile 2 : "I Haven't Had My Coffee Yet"

This pile feels like someone who is functioning... technically. 😂

You know when your laptop is on 3% battery and somehow still running? That's the vibe I'm getting.

I think you've been overlooking how tired you actually are. Not necessarily physically, though maybe that too, but mentally. You're trying to solve problems from a place of exhaustion and then wondering why everything feels harder than it should.

The symbols feel very grounded and simple. Which is funny because I think what you've been missing is the obvious solution.

Rest.

Not a big life reset.

Not moving to a mountain. 

Not deleting all your social media.

A nap might genuinely solve 30% of your current problems.

Sometimes the spiritual message is literally "go sit down.", love! 😂

🔩 Pile 3: "Got A Screw Loose"

I love this pile.

Because the energy is basically:

"I know exactly what I'm doing."

Narrator: They did not know exactly what they were doing.🤣🤣

You've got a lot going on in your head right now. Ideas, conversations, responsibilities, random thoughts from 2017 suddenly making a comeback at 2am.

I keep seeing overflowing tissue paper, this to me feels like your brain trying to process twenty tabs at once.

What you've been missing is that not everything requires your immediate attention.

Some things can wait.

SOME PROBLEMS ARE NOT YOUR PROBLEMS.

Some emails do not need a five-paragraph response.

And some people will survive if you don't personally hold the universe together for five minutes.

Take one thing off your plate before your plate becomes a frisbee.

(IM NOT INVOLVED IF YOU DECIDE TO DO THAT / IT HAPPENS.😂😁)

💡 Pile 4: "The Lights Are On But Nobody's Home"

This pile is hilarious to me because I don't think you're absent-minded.

I think you're already mentally living three weeks in the future.😂 (Hey twin!)

Your body is here.

Your mind is in October.

You're halfway through one conversation while thinking about another, planning something else, remembering a third thing and wondering whether you locked the front door.

The funny thing is that the answer you've been looking for feels much closer than you're acting like it is.

There's a sense of rushing off after something, searching the horizon, trying to find the next thing, while completely missing what's already around you.

You don't need to sprint up the hill.

Pause for a second.

Look around.

There's a decent chance the thing you've been asking for has already started showing up and you've been too busy looking ahead to notice it.😂✨

I wanted to do a more lighter reading and hopefully it makes you smile or laugh also thank you to everyone for liking my previous pick a pile!!!🩷🩷

Much appreciated!🩷🌸

💠Also "why are you like this?" basically is What quirky habit, unhinged trait, or funny personality makes you... well... you? It's often said like when someone does something cringe, weird, slightly unhinged (in a funny way) or silly.

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🐟 Pile 1: You have a talent for making things way more complicated than they need to be. 😭 You'll invent a brand new solution instead of using the obvious one, then somehow end up with the same result anyway. You also have a habit of repeating yourself when you're excited about something.😂 (I love this! I'm the exact same way😂🩷)

If you've told the same story five times this week, no you haven't. (Yes you have.) You can be so focused on one thing that you completely miss what's happening right beside you. The funny thing is you usually don't realise until much later.

🐄 Pile 2: You question everything. Absolutely everything. Someone tells you a story and your head immediately tilts like, "Hmm... but why though?" 😂 You also seem to approach life with a weird mix of caution and recklessness. You'll overthink sending a text, then randomly agree to something that sounds like chaos just because it looks fun. You give off sensible vibes, but every now and then your impulsive side clocks in for a shift!😂🤣

😵‍💫Pile 3: You drift. Not physically (well... maybe physically too), but mentally. You'll walk into a room and immediately forget why you're there. Someone could be talking to you and suddenly you're following a completely different train of thought. You also have a habit of just... going with the flow. Sometimes this works out great. Other times you realise halfway through something and think, "Hold on, who approved this?"

Apparently it was you. 😭😵‍💫

🌳 Pile 4: Every time people think they've figured you out, you reinvent yourself. You'll be completely invested in one thing, then out of nowhere you'll move on to a brand new chapter. 😭 There's also a lot of hype energy here. When you're excited about something, everyone knows. You don't just like things, when you find something you love, everyone around you is going to hear about it! 😂

Your enthusiasm is contagious.☀️🩷

Pile 5: You want connection, but on your own very specific terms. 😭 You'll reach out, but not too much. You'll participate, but from a safe distance. It's giving "I want attention but don't perceive me." You also have a surprisingly good sense of balance when life gets chaotic. Even when you're standing on one leg trying to keep everything together, you somehow manage it.

The fact you're functioning at all sometimes deserves an award!!🎉👏

Pile 6: You collect experiences the same way some people collect Pokémon cards, postcards or Pop toys! You see something interesting and immediately want to know more. New food? New place? New hobby? New drama that has absolutely nothing to do with you? You're on it.😂 (Which I love!)

You also have a tendency to go from zero to one hundred very quickly. One minute you're relaxed, the next you're acting like the main character in an action scene. The good news is life is rarely boring around you. The bad news is life is rarely boring around you. 😭✨

(I kept hearing the line: "seize him, c*t his throat." - Game of thrones.)

Pile 1 - Plant in a wooden vase

Pile 2 - Clear Quartz Crystal Tower

Pile 3 - Raven's Claw

Pile 4 - England National Football Crest

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☘️Pile 1: What's quietly developing within you is a stronger sense of self-worth and discernment. You're beginning to recognise the difference between what genuinely nourishes you and what only looks appealing on the surface.

There may be habits, situations, or even people that once felt exciting or meaningful but no longer hold the same value they used to. Instead of forcing yourself to keep finding beauty in something that has already run its course, you're learning to acknowledge when it's time to let go.

This growth is helping you become more honest with yourself about what you truly want and deserve. While it may not feel dramatic, you're shedding old attachments and making space for something more authentic to take root. ✨🍄

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💪 Pile 2: Something within you is becoming stronger and more self-assured, even if you don't fully see it yet. You're gradually stepping into a greater sense of authority over your own life, trusting your judgment more and relying less on outside validation.

There is also growth around long-term progress. What you're building may feel slow at times, but each small step is creating a solid foundation for something meaningful. You're learning that lasting success isn't usually one big leap, it's many steady choices made over time.

You may also be gathering more opportunities, skills, or resources than you realise. Things are beginning to accumulate in your favour behind the scenes. Keep going. What is growing in the dark is your confidence, your stability, and your ability to create something that lasts. ✨🍄

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🌸 Pile 3: What's quietly developing within you is a healthier relationship with your own needs and priorities. For a long time, you may have been carrying responsibilities, worries, or expectations that didn't all belong to you. Now, you're slowly learning that it's okay to make space for yourself too.

You're becoming more protective of your energy and more selective about what you take with you moving forward. Not everything deserves a place in your mind, your schedule, or your heart.

At the same time, a quieter kind of growth is taking place. Beneath the surface, you're creating room for new ideas, fresh perspectives, and personal growth. It may not look dramatic from the outside, but you're becoming more grounded, more confident in your choices, and more connected to what truly matters to you. ✨🍄🌿

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🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 Pile 4: Ayyy, the England national football team crest showed up!!!😁

What's quietly developing within you is resilience and confidence after disappointment. Something may not have gone exactly how you hoped, or perhaps you've had moments where you've doubted yourself after a setback. But instead of staying stuck there, you're learning how to get back up and keep moving.

There's also a growing appreciation for your own achievements. You may be too quick to brush off your wins or focus on what's still missing, but you're gradually beginning to recognise how far you've already come.

🌻✨🌸🌹Pick a flower in my garden and scroll down to see your message! 🏵️💐🌺🌻

**Remember to take what resonates.

Pile 1 - Your voice matters, and so do the dreams you've been quietly working towards. Keep expressing yourself, trust your ideas, and remember that progress doesn't have to be rushed. You're moving forward more steadily than you realise, and each small step is helping you get where you're meant to be.💙

Pile 2 - You are capable of so much more than you give yourself credit for. Keep moving forward, even if the progress feels small right now, every step is building your confidence and momentum.🚶🚶‍♀️🚶‍♂️There is something naturally captivating about you, so don't dim your light or shrink yourself to make others comfortable. Trust yourself, keep going, and remember: you're stronger, more magnetic, and more resilient than you realise!!!! 🤍✨ (Listen to: These Boots Are Made for Walkin' by Nancy Sinatra. 👢✨)

Pile 3 - Not everything needs to be revealed all at once. Trust that you're uncovering exactly what you need, when you need it. Things are coming together more smoothly than they may appear, and even the smallest spark of clarity can light the way forward. Be gentle with yourself, you're closer to understanding and alignment than you think. ✨

🔥Pile 4: Growth isn't always obvious while it's happening. Even if things feel slow, you're developing stronger roots and becoming more resilient with every experience. What nourishes and heals you is helping you move forward, even if the results aren't visible yet. Keep trusting the process, lovely, you're growing into something beautiful. ✨🌱

💜Pile 5 - You don't have to do everything on your own. It's okay to lean on the people who care about you and to ask for support when you need it. At the same time, don't forget the strength and wisdom that already lives within you. Keep believing in yourself and following what feels true to your heart , you're being guided toward brighter days, one step at a time. ✨🤍

This is my first pick a pile, I was inspired by the pick a piles on here by you amazing readers, thank you for your time!!✨🌟

I'm actually REALLY EXCITED to be doing this...um..yeah☺️😁✨

If it resonates, do let me know!💙