Advice Needed (TW: domestic abuse, drugs)
I need advice on behalf of a friend/coworker (seriously, this is not one of those âI have a âfriendâ but itâs actually about me posts, it literally is about my coworker). Sheâs been in a relationship with an abusive guy for three years. This weekend, she discovered heâs been hiding and potentially distributing illegal drug in her house. She has finally decided she wants him out because sheâs scared the police will find out and she will get arrested/lose her professional license since the drugs are in *her* house. When she confronted him, he held a gun to her head.
She says sheâs called the police on him twice for beating her/destroying her personal property in the past and they havenât done anything (she lives in a very backwoods area). She says it wouldnât be worth it to change her locks because heâs beaten her door down twice already. She refuses to call a domestic abuse hotline because sheâs worried her husband (who she is separated from but still married to) will find out and use it as fodder for her not to be able to see her kids anymore. She refuses to flee and go somewhere he canât find her because sheâs worried heâll destroy her house and kill all her farm animals and pets.
So sheâs in a definite bind. Sheâs as stubborn as a bucket of fucking rocks but sheâs a genuinely fantastic person and has really helped me in my career and I care about her and want to help if I can. Iâm not going to get involved to a point where Iâm in any danger, of course, but if there are other resources I can recommend she check out, I would love to give them to her. So if anyone has any ideas, please let me know. Thanks. <3


















