Trans Spoonies

Nobody can feel what you’re feeling but you. Nobody knows the severity of what you would be putting yourself through if you were to “tough it out.”

If you do “tough it out,” the purpose for you doing the thing will most likely not be fulfilled anyway. You probably will not be mentally present or engaged. You probably will not have a good time or get much out of it. Etc.

If people really have such a problem with it, thats a huge red flag. Being transparent about your needs and boundaries is a great way to weed people like that out of your life.

If you have any kind of chronic illness or disability, remember that you probably have a very warped judgement of what is “reasonable” to endure in terms of pain, fatigue, burnout, etc.

You didn’t ask for this, you don’t deserve this, there is no reason you should have to bear the weight of it alone. I bet if someone else was in your position, you wouldn’t mind helping accommodate for them?

Low energy days are truly sacred, take them seriously. Please respect your body’s signals. “If you do not choose times to rest, your body will choose for you” or however the saying goes

It is so much pressure to have to deliberate what sacrifices are necessary for proper self care. Give yourself extra credit for having to deal with that stress on top of whatever is putting you in that position in the first place. Thats a lot at once

You are leading by example and showing others that you would never expect them to hurt or overextend themselves for your benefit. Putting yourself first always inspires other to do the same.

[ Link to survey ]

The 12th annual international gender census, collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other, is now open until 30th August 2025.

It’s short and easy, for most participants it takes 5 minutes or less.

After the survey is closed I’ll process the results and publish a spreadsheet of the data and a report summarising the main findings. Then anyone can use them for academic or business purposes, self-advocacy, tracking the popularity of language over time, and just feeling like we’re part of a huge and diverse community.

If you think you might have friends and followers who’d be interested, please do reblog this blog post, and share the survey URL by email or at AFK social groups or on other social networks. Every share is extremely helpful!

Survey URL: https://survey.gendercensus.com

The survey is open to anyone anywhere who speaks English and feels that the gender binary doesn’t fully describe their experience of themselves and their gender(s) or lack thereof.

If you can't wait for survey numbers, you can click here for a public spreadsheet of non-secret info with graphs as it comes in, updated manually a few times per day.

Thank you so much!

Today was really busy for me, it's just past midnight so we're into the final day, and I think tomorrow is going to be really busy for me as well - but I just wanted to jump in and say:

hi! 24 hours left!!!! time to do the gender census survey~

There's always a few people who post after the survey closes to say, "oh no, I missed it this year!" WELL now you have no excuse, go do it immediately!!!

[ Link to survey ]

The 12th annual international gender census, collecting information about the language we use to refer to ourselves and each other, is now open until 30th August 2025.

It’s short and easy, for most participants it takes 5 minutes or less.

After the survey is closed I’ll process the results and publish a spreadsheet of the data and a report summarising the main findings. Then anyone can use them for academic or business purposes, self-advocacy, tracking the popularity of language over time, and just feeling like we’re part of a huge and diverse community.

If you think you might have friends and followers who’d be interested, please do reblog this blog post, and share the survey URL by email or at AFK social groups or on other social networks. Every share is extremely helpful!

Survey URL: https://survey.gendercensus.com

The survey is open to anyone anywhere who speaks English and feels that the gender binary doesn’t fully describe their experience of themselves and their gender(s) or lack thereof.

If you can't wait for survey numbers, you can click here for a public spreadsheet of non-secret info with graphs as it comes in, updated manually a few times per day.

Thank you so much!

Shoutout to people who had to stop playing music and drawing because of arthritis.

Shoutout to people who loved to go hiking but can’t because of chronic fatigue.

We’re looking for mods (again) and this time our application will stay up as a permanent-ish thing so that people can apply on a rolling basis. This particular application also has some quiz questions based on what we need areas of expertise in, rather than solely asking about identities like in previous applications.

If you’ve applied in the past, please feel free to apply again!

We received over 80 applications last time and a lot of the vetting process has been refined since, so it will be easier for us to sort through the applications.

If you’re unfamiliar with ScriptLGBT:

We answer questions for writers, character creators, storytellers of all kinds on how to represent LGBT+ identities and experiences. This branches out into atypical relationship formats sometimes and even some specific subcultures and so on. 

As a mod, you would be expected to be able to answer questions on a regular basis. When the ask is open, we receive anywhere from 1-50 asks per day. We close the ask box based on how overwhelmed the mod team is feeling and have open communication with each other about these things. You definitely would not need to answer at that rate, as you would not be the only mod. Ideally, 1 a week is a good minimum to aim for.

We’re not yet sure how many new moderators we are taking on, and this will be determined based on the applications that come in. The mod position is a volunteer one, but mods are welcome to link voluntary payment methods in their bios and signatures of the asks they answer. Most of the benefit, however, is having a really supportive community of peers who have shared interests.

[Image: Posed Kermit and Pink Panther plushes playing by hanging upside down from a rope strung across a pond. Photographer: Alexas_Fotos]

Keep Cool This Summer - Warm Weather Tips & Resources Roundup

Y’all, summer is well on its way, and with it plenty of hot weather. Since a lot of spoonies are sensitive to the heat, we’ve put together a list of our best tips for surviving those sweltering temperatures.

We’ll keep this updated, so if you’re looking at a Tumblr reblog, be sure to click through to this link for the latest.

Enjoy, and stay cool!

(For our readers on the other side of the equator, here’s a link to this article’s cold-weather counterpart.)