Living Beyond Expressions

Growth comes from better habits

Improve yours on a daily basis.

Commitment: Push yourself

When no one is watching.

Mindset

The ability to grow no matter the situation.

You won’t get everything right. Just start.

Working out is more than physical

It is power, self-love and therapy.

the long awaited tutorial is here! eventually I will be putting these on an etsy store for purchase for anyone who does not want to make their own packing harness (if enough people are interested), but they are so simple to make tbh

There are two styles I will be going over in this project. The Jockstrap Style and the Waistband Style.

Materials for both styles:

wide, stretchy elastic

scissors

needle

thread

sewing machine (optional)

non-stretchy fabric (optional)

method of measuring, like a tape measure

Steps below the cut

march 5, 2020

10 years

i’ve realized there’s no destination

only the process

days go by fast

patterns become clearer

choices are challenging

In my life, I’m often the only person of color in a room of trans people. I’ve noticed it is harder to find pictures and reviews of products (like packers, skin tone binders, or breastforms) in the non-white skin tones. I see fewer pictures of POC post-surgery, and fewer people of color documenting their changes on HRT. Selfies of trans people, binary or non-binary, tend to skew towards the white and AFAB side. Hopefully, this blog can provide a sense of community and inclusion for all trans people of color. 

This blog is a place where we can answer that question. Where are the trans people of color? We’re right here! We’re talking about how our day went, about our families, about coming out, about our pets, about our transitions, about our ups and downs. We are here. We exist. This is a new blog for TPOC (trans people of color) to submit selfies of themselves and other content!

Anyone and everyone is allowed to follow us, all support is welcome, but only TPOC can send selfies/content.

Lee says:

I really couldn’t tell you if getting bottom surgery would be a mistake for you because that’s something only you can figure out.

There are some trans guys who like the idea of having a penis because it’s often seen as a signifier of manhood, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they actually want the reality of having one.

It’s possible to want a penis yourself and still not be sexually attracted to/interested in them. There are definitely guys out there who are happy with their dick but would find interacting with another guy’s penis gross.

That means if you’re not viewing a packer as an extension of yourself or as a part of yourself, you may feel like it’s gross- but if you were to have your own penis from surgery that you do feel connected to, you might feel different about it.

There are some people who don’t like packing but get lower surgery and feel happy with their results. Similarly, there are some people who like hyper realistic packers but don’t want lower surgery. Packing and lower surgery are definitely different things so it’s okay and normal to prefer one over another, and be comfortable with only one of them.

If you’re done a lot of research about lower surgery and you’ve seen pictures of post-phallo or post-meta penises or seen them IRL, and you feel like that’s something that you want and that will make you happier- and you’re aware of the risks of the surgeries- then phallo or meta is probably right for you.

However, all this isn’t something you have to figure out right now! You need 2 WPATH letters from mental health professionals saying you’re ready to have surgery, so talking to a therapist about whether you’re ready for surgery can help you work though your feelings if you aren’t certain about your decision.

I’m getting ALT phalloplasty in May 2021 myself, and getting lower surgery is not an easy process. But for people who need it, it’s life changing.