Non Binary & Transitioning

Non-binary people can have dysphoria is a way that makes them transfeminine.

Non-binary people can have dysphoria in a way that makes them without a gender or as a mix of them.

And non-binary people can call themselves trans, but they don’t have to call themselves trans if they don’t want to.

Non-binary pronouns are valid.

Dysphoria isn’t something that only binary trans people deal with.

got some questions about ey/em pronouns on my ig so I made some lil info posts

use neopronouns. present feminine, masculine, androgynous, however you want. use "weird" identities to describe yourself. make up your own identity. you do you. you decide who you are, not the people in your life, not someone on the internet.

whatever makes you comfortable? that's you. it doesn't matter if that changes over time. doesn't matter if you go by new pronouns or a new name every day! it's still you.

(Bonus: it’s making old white men really really mad.)

“Our side concocted the ‘bathroom safety’ male predator argument as a way to avoid an uncomfortable battle over LGBT ideology, and still fire up people’s emotions.”

It means that these groups, these organizations, are so Hellbent on getting trans people outlawed, hurt, and killed, that they will openly lie and admit to lying to stir up emotions. They have no qualms with actively lying and distorting reality. 

They have no qualms about misleading people. Actively lying to people. 

They don’t care how immoral their actions may be, how much their rhetoric flies in the face of reality, as long as it reaches their end goal of the destruction of “transgender ideology.” 

MassResistance and all their ilk want us dead, and should never be trusted, not even for the most trivial of matters. They should be rejected, reviled, despised, because nothing they do is in service of anything but hatred and evil. 

And in case anyone actually doubts this, and wants to cry “fake news,” here’s MR’s actual article. Should it get deleted, here’s an archived version. Some choice bits under the cut, if you want to see how vile these people really are. 

In my life, I’m often the only person of color in a room of trans people. I’ve noticed it is harder to find pictures and reviews of products (like packers) in the non-white skin tones. I see fewer pictures of POC post-surgery, and fewer people of color documenting their changes on HRT. Selfies of trans people, binary or non-binary, tend to skew towards the white and AFAB side. Hopefully, this blog can provide a sense of community and inclusion for all trans people of color. 

This blog is a place where we can answer that question. Where are the trans people of color? We’re right here! We’re talking about how our day went, about our families, about coming out, about our pets, about our transitions, about our ups and downs. We are here. We exist. This is a new blog for TPOC (trans people of color) to submit selfies of themselves! Anyone and everyone is allowed to follow us, all support is welcome, but only TPOC can send selfies. 

Lee says:

I personally identify as genderqueer and not Autigender, but some Autistic people identify as Autigender because they feel that their autism created how they relate to their gender identity or that the two are intertwined enough that you can’t separate them. 

There is even a link between gender dysphoria and autism, although the research isn’t totally solid yet. I read in the WPATH-SOC that people on the spectrum are actually more likely to be trans or gender non conforming: “The prevalence of autism spectrum disorders seems to be higher in clinically referred, gender dysphoric children than in the general population (de Vries, Noens, Cohen-Kettenis, van Berckelaer-Onnes, & Doreleijers, 2010).”

I think it’s because a large part of gender identity and gender roles are socially constructed and we have issues picking up social cues, so we might not always notice the way others are performing their gender and then we don’t internalize it to apply it to ourselves, but that’s just my personal theory as an Autistic person myself. 

I think there’s also an overlap where a lot of Autistic people also have alexithymia, and if you have a hard time describing your feelings in general, it can also be difficult to recognize and describe your gender feelings.

I should point out that the intersection of autism and transness is one of my research interests - I wrote my undergraduate thesis on it, and I’m continuing to do more work on it in grad school! I can’t share my thesis, since it’ll be published eventually, but I can certainly share a few sources that would be of interest to you. :)

This is a bit long and a bit niche, so I’ll put it under a cut!

Here’s a transitioning starter pack for all my trans folk out there!

Your transition is up to you- we want to provide information on all your options so you can make an informed decision about what you want. If you find a resource useful, then use it! If you’re not interested in doing any of the things listed, then don’t!

Transfeminine resources:

Presentation:

Tucking

Chest area

Voice

Broad shoulders tips

Hair removal

Feminine walk

Curves

Waist training

Growing out your hair

Clothing

Makeup

Passing

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Estrogen & anti-androgens/testosterone blockers FAQ

The types of surgery available

Surgery: A guide for transfeminine people

Pumping (Silicone injections)

Facial Feminization Options

Breast Augmentation

Other:

Representation

Transfeminine period dysphoria

Yes, Transfeminine People Can Get Period Symptoms

Slipping into masculinity

Women’s restroom etiquette

Transfeminine people can breastfeed

Having sex or masturbating

Transmasculine resources:

Presentation:

Binding FAQ

Clothing

Facial hair

Masculine makeup

Getting short hair / Masculine long hair

If you can’t start T

Lowering your voice

Packing and standing to pee

Passing as male

Not shaving legs

Medical transitioning:

Not medically transitioning

Fertility

Puberty blockers

Testosterone FAQ

Top surgery

Facial masculinization surgery

Body masculinization surgery

Hysterectomy and oophorectomy

Bottom surgery (genital surgery)

Other:

Periods and related things

Help! I need to see a gyno

Pumping

Masturbation and sex

Using the men’s bathroom

Hudson’s FTM Guide

Height dysphoria

Hip dysphoria

More resources:

What gender am I? A brief intro to questioning

Trans 101 for trans people

What is the transgender umbrella?

How do I choose a name?

How do I come out at work/school or to family/friends?

Dysphoria info and tips page

Mental health coping page

Being trans in school

Non-binary resources

Resources to send allies/friends

A page to send to parents/guardians

Convincing someone to respect name/pronouns 

Here is how to get hormones in the US

Here is how to get hormones in the UK

The NHS’s Guide For Young Trans People in England

Here’s a US resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker 

Here is a UK resource with info on changing legally changing your name and gender marker

What are the WPATH-SOC guidelines?

How to save money

How to buy a trans-related item online without parents knowing

I have to go swimming, what do I wear/do?

Trying to sleep when you have dysphoria

Airposts and traveling by plane

Gender neutral bathrooms

Getting insurance to cover your transition

Does transitioning help mental health?

Trans teen’s experiences with inpatient hospitalization

Trans identity isn’t a mental disorder

Vaping prevalence

Summer tips

Being religious and LGBT

Transgender Lives: Your Stories (to see trans adults) 

Gender neutral pronouns in Spanish

Gender Variance Around the World Over Time

A map of gender-diverse cultures

American LGBT history by the National Parks Service

Crisis help: Suicide and crisis hotlines

-healthy

-common

-normal

Questioning isn't:

To those who are against neopronouns, you’re acting against the evolution of a language and acting against something that’s been around for far longer than you’ve been alive.

To those who use neopronouns, your pronouns are not harmful. You do not deserve to be made to feel ashamed for your pronouns.

•Ey/Em/Eir (1975, created by Christine M. Elverson)

•E/Em/Es (1890, created by James Rogers)

•Per/Pers/Perself (1976, Used in a novel by Marge Piercy)

•Thon/Thos/Thonself (1858, Created by Charles Crozat Converse)

•Ve dates back to 1980

•Xe dates back to 1973

•In 1789, William Marshall confirmed the use of both“a” and “ou” as a replacement for he/she/they and even i.

•Co/Coself (1970, created by Mary Orovan)

•Ne (1850, appeared in print in 1884)

•En (1868, mentioned by Richard Grant White)

•Han/Hans/Hanself (1868)

•Un/Uns/One (1868)

•Se/Sis/Sim (1884)

•Hesh/Hiser/Himer (1879)

•Hi/Hes/Hem (1884)

•Le/Lis/Lim (1884)

•Hersh/Herm (1884)

•Ip/Ips (1884)

•Hae/Haes(Hais)/Haim (1884)

•Tha/Thare/Them(Thon) (1885)

•Zyhe/Zyhe’s/Zyhem (1885)

•Ir/Iro/Im (1888)

•De/Der/Dem (1888)

•Hor/Hors/Horself (1890)

•Ith/Iths (1890)

Sources for these as well as many others that I didn’t add due to the list getting too long can be found here.

An interesting note is that in the modern language a lot more people use neopronouns then you would expect!

•Yo is a majorly African American pronoun coined in 2004 and used by Middle School students In Baltimore, Maryland.

•Fae/Faer, coined in 2014, is used by 4.3% of participants in the 2019 Gender Census.

Plus a vast variety of newly coined pronouns that you will have seen commonly floating around!

about disability and transitioning

about religion and being trans

only documenting transfeminine or non-binary medical transition

for and by transfeminine/amab people

by people transitioning not in America

about transitioning written in non-English languages

about sexual orientation or sexuality but run by trans mod/s

blogs for and by trans adults

blogs about product reviews (especially breast forms and gaffs and such)

Send us an ask if you’re a trans-related resource blog, or if you know of a good trans related resource blog, and we might add the blog to the list!

We do not want…

main/personal blogs with some trans-related content

deleted or inactive blogs (send us an ask if one of the blogs on the list is inactive so we can decide if we want to remove it from our list)

blogs run by gatekeepers (truscum/transmeds/etc)

discourse blogs

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Our other trans resource blogs page lists all the blogs we’ve found so far and you can view it here.

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If you aren’t sure if a blog is already listed, or you want to see the blogs we’ve already categorized, check the page linked above!

you don’t have to find the perfect just right word for your experience, you don’t have to parse out what named gender you’re closest to on a spectrum, what subset of nonbinary most closely reflects your truth, weigh your masculinity against your femininity against your androgyny to see what the total comes out to, you don’t have to label your gender by its relation or opposition to the gender you were assigned

all those things are great for exploring your gender & if you can find a home in them more power to you

it may be extremely hard and painful, but it's possible. don't ever give up hope- What helped me most of all was a really good therapist (who helps you fight) and maybe you need one too. it took a long fucking time but I'm finally getting the treatment I need. it's even possible for unaligned people (like me) to get treated.... it can take a long time depending on your situation but it's not impossible.

don't give up. there is hope.