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be aware that you are in for a wild ride

don’t rush it

remember that you don’t have to stick to just one label

try to have fun with it

Feminizing Make-up Tutorial ft. New Brushes! | Stef Sanjati

A makeup tutorial aimed at transfeminine people who are looking to use makeup to alter their looks! While she talks about her own individual regime, Stef also talks about ways to tailor it to what you want, e.g. whether you’re looking for a dramatic look or not, how some parts differ between skin tones, etc.

1. Progesterone: not for everyone, but for many people it may increase sex drive and WILL make your boobs bigger. Also effects mood in ways that many find positive (but some find negative). Most doctors won’t prescribe this to you unless you ask. Most trans girls I know swear by it.

2. Injectible estrogen: is more effective than pill or patch form. Get on it if you can bear needles bc you will see more effects more quickly.

3. Estradiol Cypionate: There is currently a shortage of injectible estradiol valerate. There is no shortage of estradiol cypionate. Functionally they do the same shit.

Progesterone seems to be kinda hit and miss, or at least there’s a lot of ppl saying how great it is and others saying it’s terrible. I think doctors don’t prescribe it by default cos on increased risk of depression and counteracts Estrogen, can increase risk of blood clots and other stuff. On the plus side it’s supposed to help your boob growth and sex drive so… I guess swings and roundabouts?

Anyway here’s my bic info.

Quick Q, wondering if anyone has any experience with bicalutamide (commonly Casodex) as an AA rather than Spiro?

My initial research over the past ~4 hours or so leads me to believe that it’s practically a wonder drug, with few side effects (i.e. it’s not a diuretic so no constant peeing, no issues with potassium and hyperkalemia).

Supposedly it works well with quite a low dose too, and elevates the effect of estrogen because of it’s method of action. It’s usually used to treat prostate cancer and I don’t think it’s had much (if any) studies done as an AA for trans use specifically so I dunno if any doctor would prescribe it usually.

I’ve read various stuff about how it supposedly will massively reduce unwanted body hair growth (even permanently if you take it for long enough), doesn’t cause shrinkage or effect libido (may be plus or minus for you obvs!) and because of its long half life you only need to take a pill every 2-3 days.

Negative side effects, well I’ve heard that the 150mg dose has been pulled as a cancer treatment in Canada and the UK due to increase death rate. It apparently works by blocking androgen receptors but doesn’t reduce T production so there’s a lot of free T in your system (meaning measuring levels is useless), some of which can get converted to E and the rest you pee out. Note I may be wrong on any of this stuff. Sources:

https://www.reddit.com/r/transhealth/comments/3axahm/looking_for_primary_sources_on_bicalutamide/

https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/3u0l6x/anyone_here_using_casodex_bicalutamide_as_an/

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php?topic=159310.0

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php?topic=210339.0

http://gendersociety.com/forums/topic/4934/the-pharmacology-of-antiandrogen

I’ve read all those links but obvs it’s just the tip of the iceberg and there are contradictions abound. Some reckon it’s great and amazing and safe and some reckon it’s super risky (it IS very potent, that everyone agrees on!)

I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you! Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe. 

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Distractions;

Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts. 

-Draw something

-This website translates the time into colours.

-Create your own galaxy.

-Play flowing.

-Make a 3D line travel where ever you like. 

-Listen to music.

-Calm.

-Ocean mood, do nothing for two minutes.

Sleep issues; 

- 8 hour sleep music.

-Rainy mood. 

-Meditation.

-Coping with nightmares.

-How to cope with nightmares, 11 steps.

-Calm

-Foods that can affect your sleeping, both positive and negatively. 

 Uncomfortable with silence; 

-Rainy mood.

-10 hours of rain and thunder.

-3 hours of rain and thunder.

-Human heartbeat.

-Rainforest.

-Sound of rain on a tin roof.

-Autumn wind.

-Rain on a tent

-Traffic in the rain.

-Soft traffic. 

-Fan.

-Train.

-Simply noise.

-My noise.

-Rainy cafe.

Anxiety; 

-How to stop worrying. 

-Tips to manage anxiety and stress.

-The 10 best ever anxiety management techniques. 

-Self-help strategies for anxiety. 

-Helping a friend with anxiety. 

-All about worrying.

-8 myths about anxiety. 

Sad, angry and depressed/depression; 

-“I’m always sad”

-Feeling sad.

-Going through trauma.

-“I’m always angry”.

-Anger management. 

-All about anger.

-National helplines and websites.

-Self-help strategies for depression.

-Dealing with depression at work.

-Dealing with depression at school.

Isolation and loneliness; 

-Pets and mental health.

-All about loneliness. 

-“I feel so alone”

-10 more ideas to help with loneliness. 

-How to deal with loneliness.

 Self-harm;

-Alternatives to self-harm and distraction techniques.

-146 things to do besides self-harm.

-More alternatives to self-harm.

-Self-harm alternatives.

-How to take care of self-harm wounds/injuries.

-Getting rid of scars.  

Addiction; 

-How to help a friend with a drug addiction.

-What is addiction?

-All about alcohol and addiction.

-The facts about drug addiction.

 Eating disorders; 

-Helping a friend with an eating disorder.

-Eating disorder treatments. 

-Support services for eating disorders. 

-Self-help tips with eating disorders.

-Eating disorder recovery. 

-Recovering from an eating disorder. 

-100+ reasons to recover. 

-Understanding and managing eating disorders. 

 Dealing with self-hatred;  

-3 ways to ease self-loathing. 

-How to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.

-Self-hatred resources.

-10 step plan to deal with self-hate. 

 Suicidal; 

-International suicide hotlines (1)  (2)

-Preventing suicide. 

-Reasons to stay alive.

-Dealing with suicidal thoughts and feelings.

-Coping with suicidal ideation.  

 Schizophrenia;

-All about schizophrenia.  

-Helping a person with schizophrenia.  

-Understanding and dealing with schizophrenia.  

-Delusions and hallucinations.  

OCD;

-Managing your OCD at home. 

-Overcoming OCD.

-How to cope with OCD. 

-Strategies for dealing with the anxious moments. 

Borderline personality disorder; 

-Helping someone with BPD. 

-All about personality disorders.

-Treatment for BPD.

Abuse; 

-Healthy relationships VS abusive relationships. 

-Emotional abuse

-Overcoming sexual abuse. 

-Hotlines services. 

-5 ways to escape an abusive relationship. 

-Domestic violence support. 

-Signs of an abusive relationship. 

-What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship. 

-Surviving abuse. 

-What you can do if you’re sexual harassed. 

-Sexual assault support.

-What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused. 

 Bullying;

-How to stand up against bullying.

-How to protect yourself when it comes to cyber bullying.

-How to help stop people bullying you. 

 Loss and grief; 

-How to cope with a suicide of a loved one.

-Grieving for a stranger. 

-Common reactions to death. 

-Working through grief.

(Other loss and grief)

-Moving away from friends and family. 

-Coping with a breakup.

 Getting help; 

-Seeking help early. 

-All about psychological treatments. 

-Types of help.

-All about age and confidentiality. 

Things you need to remember; 

- Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.

-Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not. 

- This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this. 

-You are not alone. 

-You are enough. 

-You are important. 

-You are worth it. 

-You are strong. 

-You are not a failure, 

-Good people exist. 

-Reaching out shows strength. 

-Breathe. 

-Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you. 

-Give yourself credit. 

-Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones. 

-Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend. 

-Focus on the things you can change. 

-Let go of toxic people. 

-You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do. 

-Try not to beat yourself up. 

-Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next. 

-You are not a bother.

-Your existence is more than your appearance. 

-You are smart. 

-You are loved. 

-You are wanted. 

-You are needed. 

-Better days are coming. 

-Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright. 

-You have more potential than you think. 

- Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.

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