Ever Stricter Bondage

I love not knowing where you have hidden the key Miss.

Esp on the weekend when we can go shopping together.

Dear Lover,

Dinner out. On the veranda of a beautiful hotel. My legs are freshly saturated with a new hibiscus oil I bought today.

Waiting for tomorrow night. Can’t come fast enough.

And be prepared. This key will be used.

I love you.

Xo

So you want to place your sub or slave into chastity? You’ve read and heard about all the wonderful benefits male chastity can bring to your relationship, and how it can improve YOUR sex life. What you are uncertain about is how to ‘manage’ your chaste male. When I say ‘manage’ I’m referring to how often he is released and permitted to orgasm.

If your goal is simply to add a little spice or kinky play to your relationship, it really doesn’t matter how long he is locked up for or how many orgasms he’s permitted.

If your goal is to actually improve your sex life and the quality of your overall relationship, then there’s ONLY one right answer. That answer is LESS IS BEST when it comes to orgasm frequency.

Let me explain why….Let’s say you allow your partner to orgasm on the first of the month then lock him up. It takes the average man about 12 days in chastity to peak, which means on the 12th of the month he is right where you want him. He is patient, attentive, sensitive to your needs and the needs of the relationship, and consumed with thoughts of you and your body. He is also highly trainable at this point and it’s easy to modify his unacceptable traits and behaviors.

Now let’s say that on the 15th of the month, you decide it’s time to give him another orgasm before locking him back up again. It will now take him another 12 days to reach his peak (27th of the month). That leaves you only 3 more days in the month to enjoy him at his peak.

So you had him peaking for 3 days between the 12th and 15th, and another 3 days between the 27th and 30th. He was the man you want and desire for 6 total days and for the remaining 21, he was that other guy. Doesn’t sound very appealing does it? When you think about it, this type of schedule resembles kinky play more than anything else.

Now imagine locking him up on the first of the month, and not allowing him to orgasm until the end of the month. Because he will peak by the 12, you now have the guy you want for the remaining 18 days. Again, you only have that guy you want for a little more than half of the month..and you only permitted him to orgasm ONE time.

For behavior modification and maximum benefit to the relationship, most of your chastity cycles NEED to be 6 weeks or more. In fact, 6 weeks is usually my minimum for permitting an orgasm. I will even take my sub up to 3 months at times. Of course he is never aware of when he will be permitted to orgasm, and dare not ask me as there are consequences for pleading and begging.