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i am a TME intersex non-binary person! i am also a survivor of CSA from as young as i can remember until i was 13. all of my rapists, abusers, traffickers , etc were also TME. they were cis men and women. bc TME isn’t a cute way of saying “female” it encompasses 99% of the population. it also encompasses the vast majority of sexual abusers as most are cis men!

you are a vile piece of shit. you are a pro-rape transmisogynist. when you die the world will be a slightly better place. whoever gave you unrestricted internet access needs to take away your router ASAP

it is genuinely exhausting how people like you will type out a whole essay telling on yourself for having zero reading comprehension skills.

you seem to be assuming that acknowledging TMA abusers exist means someone is claiming TMA people are the only abusers on earth, and then you are making that bizarre assumption my problem when this blog has repeatedly stated the exact opposite. nobody said TME people don't abuse. TME encompasses 99% of the population, including cis men and cis women, and literally nobody is arguing that most sexual abusers aren't cis men.

i know TME isn't a "cute way of saying female, "it means transmisogyny exempt. TMA and TME are not replacements for "male" and "female", and having an ingroup and an outgroup is not a binary. you coming into my notes sending death threats and screaming about how I'm a "vile pro-rape piece of shit" just because this blog dares to exist for TME survivors of TMA abuse is embarrassing crybully behavior.

I think there's already like four parody blogs of this, why would i believe that this specific other one is you?

It doesn't even sound like you, i read through the archived posts on the tmvp archive blog (the blog was already gone by the time i woke up and learned about this). Not sure why the inherent assumption is that YOU'RE lying and not the other blog.

No one on lolcow even pretended to be you btw, this is so dumb. People really do not do their own research at all. Lolcow and kiwifarms are easily accessible through any web browser, it's so easy to check.

I am sorry about the hate you're receiving for something no one has even evidence of happening. I am all for criticizing people, but that's just ridiculous, you didn't even DO anything.

I support you publicly, I don't care, I don't think you deserve the amount of hate you're receiving at all. I hope you're doing alright <3

I first learned about trans people when I was 15 in grade 10 of highschool. I started playing around with gender expression and originally identified as genderfluid going by both a feminine and masculine version of the same name, and presenting as both a boy and a girl. I had a mildly popular Instagram account for cosplay and at the time a link in my bio where people could submit anonymous messages.

One day a trans man (trans med) told me to kill myself (specifically using the masculine version of my name) because what I was doing was so harmful to real trans people.

So I medically transitioned. Because I didn't feel like a girl so I must be a boy. The trans boys around me fed into the hatred of women and femininity. Made me feel like I couldn't dress feminine anymore because then I wouldn't be a 'man' and I'd just be making things harder for real trans men. I thought I was a trans man because I was told there was no in-between.

Eventually I met my now partner who is nonbinary and I stoped taking T because I realized that fit me so much better. I don't regret going on testosterone. I like my deeper voice, I like the bottom growth honestly it's pretty afferming. But I do wonder if I never got that message if I never would have started.

But I still presented masculine because the trans men I surrounded myself had made me feel like femininity was something 'wrong' or something to be ashamed of. While I understand it's likely steming from their own dysphoria it was still very negative towards anything remotely 'girly' even outside of their own identity. It was trans women, expressing their love for femininity in ways a cis woman would never do that made me feel comfortable enough to start doing makeup and dressing feminine again. Because while I don't identify as a woman I am feminine. And I'm so Greatful for the trans women who so deeply love themselves as they truly are which is in their femininity and womanhood. It made me see femininity in a positive light while still struggling with ones gender dysphoria.

Men do have privilege over women. And while I'm not saying at all that no trans woman has ever harmed a trans masculine individual, I want you to really think about why you chose specifically to target a group of extremely marginalized WOMEN as a man.

I'm deeply sorry you have been hurt. Truly I am I don't know what you have been put through to have this anger and pain in your heart and I can't pretend to, but this isn't the way to go about it.

Transmasc stories are important! Tell them! If the person who hurt you is a transfem individual that does not exempt them from the consequences but focus on the individual instead of framing all trans women as transmasc abusers and haters simply for being upset about how men put them down and how you are framing them in your project.

Sincerely a TME nonbinary individual

thank you for sharing your story. i am genuinely glad that you found clarity in your identity, that you found comfort and healing through the beauty of trans womanhood, and that you are now in a place where you can embrace your femininity safely. the medical and social coercion you faced from transmeds and misogynistic trans men was real, it was toxic, and you did not deserve to go through that.

but i need you to look at how completely you just flattened my identity, the identity of the submitters, and the structure of this blog to make your point.

you signed this "sincerely a TME nonbinary individual," yet in the exact same breath, you called me a "man" and told me i am "targeting marginalized women as a man." i have stated repeatedly that i am a transneutral and intersex person. i am not a man. many of the survivors submitting here are non-binary, agender, or transneutral. when you reduce an entire group of non-TMA survivors down to "men," you are using the exact same misgendering and patriarchal flattening that you claim to oppose. you are erasing our actual genders to fit us into a rigid "men vs. women" binary dynamic that does not accurately reflect intra-community harm.

you ask why this blog focuses on the specific dynamic of TMA-on-non-TMA harm instead of just focusing on the individual. the answer is in your own ask. when an individual trans man abuses someone, the community recognizes it as abuse. but when a TMA individual abuses a non-TMA individual, the conversation is immediately derailed by structural discourse. the abuser is shielded by the collective panic over societal transmisogyny, and the victim is told that focusing on the "individual" perpetrator is a threat to all trans women.

i am not targeting trans women. i am not framing all trans women as abusers. i am creating a space for the survivors of individual abusers who happen to be TMA, because those survivors are completely silenced by the exact rhetoric you are using right now.

back in the mid 2010s, when i was 17 years old right as i was graduating high school, i met a transfem through the plural/soulbonding community. we hit it off, and she was super supportive financially, buying me games on steam and sending me money to help me save up to money out of my parents' house, which i desperately needed. we spent hours on discord every day, im talking over 8 hours, and eventually started planning for me to move in with her.

she was incredibly controlling even just online. i had to learn her system's "lore" and basically act as her long-distance caretaker despite the fact that she was an adult in her 20s with a job. when i finally realized how toxic and draining this was for me, i told her i couldn't be friends anymore. she immediately resorted to threatening to kill herself to keep me hostage. i blocked her, but this friendship left a permanent mark on me.

throughout the whole thing, she was obsessively weird about men. she'd go on rants about how they should all be forcibly castrated. when i mentioned wanting to go on HRT, she practically had a mental breakdown, accusing me of "wanting to ruin my perfect female body!" she was constantly possessive and creepy toward any pre- or early-transition trans men and mascs, calling testosterone "poison" and blaming it for violence. i later realized she was deeply entrenched in radfem rhetoric, despite being a trans woman, and frequently reblogged from baeddels. she was a self-identified lesbian supremacist who literally coerced me into identifying as a nonbinary lesbian for over a year because my identity as a trans gay man (at the time) was so terrible to her. she wanted the "lite" version since she couldn't detransition me fully.

but under patriarchy the defining trait always comes down to reproductive capacity. lowkey its impregnators vs the incubator class. reproduction is the literal means of producing life, and if a group controls that they control the entire species. that is the literal foundation of how people get subjugated.

the thing people completely miss though is that this happens regardless of your actual identity or capacity, because it’s frequently based on perception. patriarchy just assumes default fertility based on what it thinks you are. that is exactly why misogyny can impact trans women, and why any "male privilege" for TME trans people is completely fragile, conditional, or honestly straight up nonexistent. the exact second the system perceives you as part of the incubator class, the trap just snaps shut on you anyway and they don't care how you identify

oppression doesn’t happen because testosterone inherently makes people violent monsters. testosterone just provides physical reinforcement over the natural vulnerability of being someone who can be impregnated. if enough people in power surround and subjugate you, your personal strength or hormones do not matter at all if you can be forcibly entered, violated, and forced to carry that violation for months or years.... the incubator class is systemically alienated from the very life they produce.

no i just was threatened by my religious right-wing family with conversion therapy and ran away from home and started testosterone and got top surgery and scheduled a hysterectomy for a dramatic backstory adn the love of the game. for tumblr likes.

"as someone who's faked blogs in the past" okay so you are literally projecting your own history of dishonest internet theater onto me and expecting everyone to treat your arm-chair detective cosplay as expert forensic proof !!!!!!!

the passive-aggressive "kindness" routine in this ask is so transparent. you wrap up a demand for a survivor blog to shut down and disappear in polite concern-trolling language, but at the end of the day, you're still just telling survivors to sit down and shut up because a dedicated troll created a sockpuppet blog to smear us.

breaking down a 10-to-20-minute gap in posting timestamps like you're sherlock holmes solving a murder mystery is beyond unhinged. newsflash: people log off, step away from thier computer, get drink of water, or take twenty minutes to collect thier thoughts when thier inbox is actively being flooded with crazy accusations. turning basic, normal human delay into "proof of a criminal conspiracy" just shows how utterly desperate you are to find a gotcha.

if trolls can force a survivor space to shut down and "start fresh" simply by fabricating a fake alt account, posting UNHINGED rants, taking quick screenshots, and instantly deleting it, then literally ANY abuser or hostile anon has total veto power over victim disclosures. tthat's handing abusers a step-by-step manual on how to silence people!