tired enfp

ESFJ: that social butterfly bitch that doesn’t understand anything ever without asking twelve clarifying questions before you can explain shit, like i was gonna explain that obvious feature of your new iphone in four seconds chris, how about you chill and stop acting like IM the weird one

ISFJ: that boring nice bitch who has probably never had a unique individual thought in their life. they’re like, solely reactionary beings, the true wobbuffets of real life.

ESFP: that crazy bitch whose super weird but everybody likes because theyre just weird enough to be likable but never hangs out with you consistently because theyre too involved with theatre or ecstasy or some shit idk

ISFP: that sarcastic bitch whose somehow still obsessed with fandoms and superwholock and probably owns a horse back home or something

ENFJ: that starry eyed bitch who loves everybody and wants to save the world or some shit, idk, my eyes glazed over a quarter way through your monologue; besides, it all just pans out to you feeling bad about yourself because you can’t live up to the impossible standards you set for yourself anyways so am i really missing anything???

INFJ: that passive aggressive bitch whos always gotta remind you that they’re the most rare mbti type, and act all ethereal and distant and shit when we all know ur a dime a dozen on a college campus anyways

ENFP: that emotionally dead bitch who convinces everybody that theyre not because theyre so enthusiastic and tells you their whole life story the first time you meet them to cause shock and awe but also to get you lowkey emotionally attached

INFP: that sensitive bitch who wants to be a writer or an artist or something but is too obsessed with memes to get very far 

ESTJ: that polysci bitch who runs for class president when everybody knows damn well you don’t do any real anything on campus and the dean regards you with as much contempt as i do

ISTJ: that awkward bitch who knows they’re not that fun so they try really hard to put themselves out there and just makes it awkward and weird for the whole party

ESTP: that loud bitch who gotta be the center of attention all the time and everybody likes for some reason

ISTP: that angry bitch whose a wannabe sociopath and always telling you how much they hate people and want to murder people for, like, literally no reason like calm down edgelord tom.

ENTJ: that problematic bitch who starts shit right at the end of class because success and proving that they know shit is the only thing that makes them feel anything anymore

INTJ: that condescending sarcastic ass bitch that rolls their eyes whenever somebody raises their hand and is probably one dumb question away from bringing a gun to school

ENTP: that annoying bitch who starts arguments in class with everybody because they think its fun or wanna prove they know useless knowledge or logic or some shit idk stanley and idc just stop arguing with the professor its psych 101 and i want to go home

{ INTJ } 

I’m not sure - but so far all the ENFPs I met are healthy and even if they’re not, they know how to battle it? 

These are the types I knew personally that have depression:

- Three INFPs who are online friends.

- One INTP ex.

- One ENTP ex, one ENTP classmate and one ENTP korean rapper (Simon Dominic). 

This is what I found from Quora:

“So I’ve been looking at depression and which type I believe is most prone to it than others. It is said that the INFP is the most liable to have it, because they live on that line of wanting to live in a fantasy world where their ideals come true to living in the real world where what they want to happen never comes true.”   

Source: Quora

Read further to find, in the same link, What Each MBTI Type Is Likely To Get Depressed About.

Reason ENFP may be depressed (1):

“ENFPs often go through their depression in various stages, but this can be very difficult for them to overcome. These usually happy-go-lucky people, will begin disconnecting from the world around them. When a depressed ENFP goes too long without taking notice to their depressive state, they will begin to lash out at those around them. They are usually very considerate of the feelings of others, but when depressed they will unintentionally snap at the people closest to them. They might even seek out ways to tease people, but in a less playful way than they usually do. This can make the ENFP difficult to be around, especially for people who are more sensitive to the teasing. They will often find dark humor even more appealing when they are feeling depressed, and will be drawn to the darker side of their personality.

The most important thing for an ENFP who is feeling depressed- is simply to pay attention to their depression. Instead of trying to pretend that everything is okay, they need to express what they are feeling to others. Talking about it, and admitting what is going on- is the most important step for an ENFP. It might be difficult to open up about what they are experiencing, but it is the best solution for them in the long run.”

Source: PersonalityGrowth 

Reason ENFP may be depressed (2): 

“A lack of purpose in their lives – ENFPs derive fulfillment through work in which they can have a voice and be creative. Furthermore, they desire a variety of challenges and new experiences to keep them interested. They want to feel like they are growing and working toward something substantial and meaningful but if their lives start to stagnate and the flow of fresh opportunities dries up, it can demoralize ENFP and make them feel lost and without direction.“

Source: Quora

Other common disorders for ENFP: 

“Either way, it seems as though ENFPs may have a higher likelihood of being diagnosed with ADD.Another common disorder that I’ve seen brought up by many ENFPs is Borderline Personality Disorder. You can find out more about Borderline Personality Disorder here. Considering a lot of the symptoms of BPD include intense emotions, shifting goals and vocational aspirations, and paranoia (a turbulent ENFP may be overusing their Ne in a negative way, and see endless negative possibilities), I can see where ENFPs may sometimes be more vulnerable to BPD. ENFPs have really strong emotions; they have a deep set of personal values that they will not cross. They want to be true to those values no matter what, and if those values are violated they can become intensely distraught or angry.”

Source: PsychologyJunkie 

(Oh, right - I have one ENFP friend who has ADD.)

Advice from an ENFP:

My advice would be:

“1. Look at life from a different angle. Look for the angle that would suit you best and help you go forward.

2. Take action to fight against your own depression. I’ve lost so many friends to depression because of their lack of fight in their selves. Don’t be a victim to this.

3. If you’re ever feeling sucidal because of depression then always remind yourself who or what do you live for. Think about your loved ones, your hopes and dreams. Leaving them would be devastating.

4. Always seek help. Be around the people who love and care for you. If you don’t have anyone then seek professional help.”

Source: Reddit 

Positive Traits:

Fun loving & lotsof fun to be around

Free-spirited

Deeply caring and concerned for others

Very perceptive and insightful about people’s thoughts and motives – gifted at understanding others

Friendly and open – people are drawn to them

Warmheartedand genuinely kind

Typically possess a great sense of humor

Generally very funny

Supportive and encouraging

Good communicators

Extremely motivational and inspirational

Tend to bring out the best in others

Affectionate and affirming

Lively, dramatic, energetic, enthusiastic

Their passion and enthusiasm are contagious

Optimistic

Typically loyal and dedicated

Driven to help others and meet needs

Always looking for the “perfect relationship”

View life as a special gift and strive to make the most of it

Broad range of skills, talents – good at almost anything that interests them

Often have ability to “talk their way out of anything”

Usually possess strong, consistent values that they adhere strictly to

Need to feel that they are living their lives as their true selves and in accordance with what they feel is right

Continually striving to achieve inner peace

Emotionally excitable

Often intense individuals

Value and need alone time to sort things out in their minds

Possess strong people skills – genuinely interested in others

Place great importance on their personal relationships

Flexible and easygoing

Strong ability to intuitively perceive truths about people and situations

Live in a world of exciting possibilities

Are basically happy people

Alert and sensitive – constantly scanning their environments

Strong need to be independent – they resist being controlled or labeled

Have no desire to control others and dislike the idea of doing so

Charming

Risk-takers

Generally well-liked

Negative Traits:

Tend to occasionally make serious errors in judgment – when they apply their less developed judgment to their highly develop intuitions, they may jump to the wrong conclusion

Can, at times, be overly anxious and worrisome

Tend to get bored easily

Can be impulsive

Prone to hold onto bad relationships for far too long

Their enthusiasm may cause them to be unrealistic

Not good with or interested in dealing with mundane daily tasks such as paying bills, cleaning, etc.

Strongly dislike conflict and criticism

May not pay enough attention to their own needs

Continual search for the “perfect relationship” may cause them to change partners frequently

May (falsely) come off as directionless wanderers to onlookers

Tendency to not follow through on projects, usually because they get excited about a new project and abandon the first for the second – this may become a problematic cycle

May be overly concerned with being liked

Not good with detailed-related tasks

ENFP: Idk, my plan was to just cry until it solved itself.

INTJ: …

I also have an “ENFP Males I’ve Met” post. I just decided to split ENFPs into two posts because I noticed some distinct differences between the two genders. http://the-anomalous-infj.tumblr.com/post/142998214873/enfp-males-ive-met-by-an-infj 

What I noticed and observed about them: 

They talk. A lot. I admire how they can talk about anything out of thin air–just to fill the awkward silence (or just for the very sake of talking). However, sometimes they just won’t stop talking. They tend to talk about a lot of different things at once, that even they forget why they were talking in the first place. It’s so amusing. (They’ll keep talking even though no one’s actively listening or paying attention to them). 

If they aren’t talking, there is definitely something wrong. Sure they have their calm and quiet moments, (since they are known for getting drained quite easily for extroverts), but if their silence is accompanied with an emotionless face and cold vibes (totally different from their usual cheery disposition)–then that means they are not in the mood. This side of them will make you miss their loudness (or noisiness). 

One ironic thing I observed about the two ENFP females I know are that they are not morning people. You would think that their sunny attitude would match the morning sun–but no. They are the moodiest and most negative people in the morning. It is just not the right time for them to shine (yet).   

They are rarely on time. Pretty much a continuation on why they aren’t morning people. This is why an early class schedule (or them having to get ready for something early) makes things worse. Both of the ENFP females I know are constantly late to class (and would blame other things for it–such as traffic and other people). They don’t like admitting that they could have gotten out of bed earlier–and not have purposely ignored their alarm (or anyone who attempted waking them up). 

However, if they are going out to see their friends or if they’re going to camp–or some other place where extroverts thrive in– then they will wake up even before the sun rises. Basically, if they’re motivated and excited, they will give their full-on effort. 

They aren’t the most organized females. They prepare their things last-minute, misplace things in their own room, study right before taking their tests–yes, they live dangerously. But for some reason…they still manage to remain unstressed–which is why the same cycle goes on and on. 

When they are in the mood, they are the most energetic, hyper, random, and upbeat people ever. They can easily brighten people’s day. Or well, overwhelm people with their happiness. 

They are super inspiring people. They stand up for what they believe in–even if deep down they’d actually prefer peace and unity with everyone. They are the type of people who are constantly torn between doing what they want and what is right.

I know that the both ENFP females I’ve met had tough childhoods. They were bullied badly for being different, had bad experiences with so-called “friends”, and were judged at a young age. They were pretty much misunderstood. 

Growing up, they learned to embrace their uniqueness– and that’s why they are so good at being no one else but themselves. (I truly admire this about them–they are strong-willed people who know that the ones who don’t accept them aren’t worth their time). 

They dress quirky and don’t mind looking weird or dorky. They are full of surprises. They don’t give a care about what’s “in or “out.” They will wear mismatched socks and a ‘ton of different patterns at the same time and feel like gold. 

They make the corniest jokes (or memorize them) and have a whole portion of pick-up lines and memes in their brain. 

They are so caring and cuddly and clingy. Even to people they had just met. Their actions are as expressive as their mouths.    

They love helping people. They know exactly how it feels to be down, and they wouldn’t dare let others feel the same way. 

They have several groups of friends, yet they still don’t exactly know who their true friends are. They are always on a quest on finding true friendship.

They do get quiet, when they end up in a place where they feel surrounded and outnumbered by people who judge/have judged them. They feel threatened and are unable to hide it–at times. 

They are emotional people. They cry after watching sad movies, happy movies, bad movies, good movies–or after finishing their favorite book. And they will always end up crying–even after reading/watching a really good book/movie a thousand times. 

There are times when they would just isolate themselves– After all, outgoing people also have the urge to just laze around and be couch potatoes too. Reading books and manga, or watching Buzzfeed videos (or just random videos that don’t make sense)–are activities that they like to do during alone time (is what I noticed, at least).

They don’t admit it when they need help. They do show it though. They keep complaining–yet when you offer help to them, they just give that “It’s okay” phrase. But well, they are strong enough to get through it on their own. 

They can almost talk to anyone and everyone–as most extroverts can. But what makes them different is that they even have the ability to be completely civil around people who clearly dislike them.

Despite being such a people-person, they rant a lot about the human race. Check their Twitter or just pay attention to what they’re saying.

Their presence has a big impact. You will feel their mood, whether you want to or not. 

The ENFP females I know are much more friend-oriented than family-oriented. Well–it’s because they get to choose their friends. And that’s completely understandable. 

Making fun of them (such as the way they do things, wear things, or the way they talk) is a big no-no. They are sensitive people beneath their confident and lively exterior. They need as much light as they give us.

How adorkable he is.

The way he understands my sarcasms and replies back with sarcasms.

How softhearted he is.

How he makes socializing seems so easy.

How talking to him is more enjoyable than having my alone time.

How he respects my need for solitude.

How he doesn’t question my weird interests.

How smart he is.

How he’s open to new ideas.

How he’s down with whatever I want to do.

How he’s not scared to approach me.

How he knows exactly the way to calm me down.

How he has big dreams and interesting ones.

His creative date ideas.

How he doesn’t mind working on this blog even though he has no idea what MBTI is.

The way he’s okay with me being in charge.

ISFJ: hey ENFP, have you ever tried marijuana?

ENFP: nope, but I totally would

ISFJ: knew it

INFP: HIT ME WITH THE GOOD SHIT

ENFP: where did you come from? You weren’t in the group for… dunno, at least 3 or 4 days

ISFJ: blunts are her batsignal lol

ENFP: lol but honestly you wouldn’t know the difference if i hit the blunt or didn’t would ya

“People underestimating my intelligence because I come off as too fun, upbeat, and silly to be taken seriously.”

“Consistent internalization of feelings to prevent conflict, or keep from bothering others.”

“I love the weird things about people: how they laugh, the way they light up when they talk about things they love, their odd ticks, just the simple things that make them unique.”

“I’m almost never serious, and I’m always too serious. Too deep, too shallow. Too sensitive, too cold. Simply a collection of paradoxes. Faithful and detached. Committed and relaxed. Loving everyone and yet no one. A sociable loner. Gentle and tough. Passionate and platonic. In short, predictable in my unpredictability.”

“Half of my feelings are just doubts about the other half of my feelings.”

“Aggressively cares about you but doesn’t want to clingy about it…”

“Desiring to be alone… but like, with people nearby. Like we don’t have to talk, or even acknowledge each other, but I want you to be near.”

“In almost every situation trying to constantly be aware of everyone’s feelings and how I can best act for their sake, and being upset if others don’t do the same for me, and being more upset that that upsets me.”

“Interesting conversations are a necessity, I want to feel like you’re expanding my mind. Capture my attention.”

“Constantly contradicting myself because I genuinely see multiple sides to most situations.”

“We are used to taking care of ourselves and being the fixer so when we find ourselves on the opposite end of things it can be disorienting. Sometimes we need to be taken care of…but we’ll never ask you to do it. This is where you’ll need to be the observant one, just step in and don’t let us fight you on it — because we will try to. Take care of us and when it’s our turn to do the same we’ll be there in a second.”

“One of the difficulties of being an ENFP is that people think you’re happy all the time. I guess that’s true – it is better to appear in a positive mood than a negative mood, for the most part. Yet it also has a hidden downside.The hidden downside is that many ENFPs suffer from mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder, but other people rarely pick up on it. Another problem is, ENFPs might start to think that people only like them when they are happy and jovial.”

I couldn’t find the last quote word for word, but it described how many people assume we wear our hearts on our sleeves because we appear to be open and expressive people. You think you may know us based on the some things we share, but it only scratches the surface. I have shown small parts of my heart and mind to people, but far from all. I only show you what I want you to see. In rare moments, I’ll overshare and immediately regret it. I share different parts of myself to different people so that no one quite knows all of me.