If you were a man what would you do to achieve the ends that you currently desire for the radical feminism movement?
· Buy sex critical, gender critical, and radical feminist research books, zines, and anthologies. Examples: The Untameable Shrews art-activist zine, books by Gail Dines, Julie Bindel, Abigail Bray, Rachel Moran, and more.
· Set up a local or regional consciousness raising and direct action group with a radical feminist angle on issues such as 1) sex trade abolition/anti-pornstitution, 2) gender abolition/defense of female spaces, 3) religion critical/deconversion support group,
· Set up a porn critical/anti-porn support, education, outreach men’s group against porn consumption and porn/sex addiction.
· Start a men’s parenting group about how to disrupt the masculine socialization of their sons which produces male sexual entitlement, male sexual sadism, and male violence. Including sessions on how to address/confront their son’s pornography consumption and to raise sons with a healthy, pro-feminist, porn critical/anti-porn viewpoint on sexuality.
· Be a consistent donor and funder for female-feminist organizations, such as feminist self-defense organizations Warrior Sisters and Women Fight Back/ West Coast Women self-defence and empowerment fund.
· Don’t have any penetrative sexual relations with women. No PIV or sexual intercourse. No penile penetration at all. Help close the “orgasm gap” with sensual kissing and touching and oral sex for women.
· If a female-feminist org or collective permits male participation, be quiet, polite, and patient and do everything to participate in set-up, food prep, postering, and clean-up.
· Prioritize women in the workspace. Prioritize QUALIFIED and EXPERIENCED female job candidates over qualified/experienced males.
· Be quiet when women are talking, maintain eye contact, don’t interrupt us when we’re communicating.
· Movements and communities can’t maintain themselves off of good wishes, kind words, and belief agreement alone. Rhetoric only goes so far. Feminists need financial and material support.
· Women deserve to be financially compensated for putting up with 4,000+ years of patriarchal male bullshit. Funding feminism is a part of that.
· Join a leftist or left-leaning group that has clear pro-feminist principles, preferably rad-leaning or radical feminist.
· Show up. Attend group meetings and talks. Complete assigned group readings. Attend the discussion groups.
· Don’t buy women in prostitution.
· Don’t go to strip clubs.
· Remember and ACCEPT THE FACT that women are not toys for men. Women are not men’s property. Women are not sexual commodities or sex objects. Say it, say it to other men. Repeat.
· If your current peer group or social circle isn’t radfem-friendly, let them go and start anew.
· Don’t tolerate male peers making kitchen jokes, rape jokes, anti-feminist jokes, or any other kind of sexist jokes or comments. Cut them off or get up and walk away. Make it known that you aren’t the kind of person who tolerates disrespect of women.
· Gotta’ daughter? Sign her up for boxing, kickboxing, MMA, wrestling, and/or a fighting form of some kind! TEACH YOUR DAUGHTERS HOW TO FIGHT. TEACH YOUR SONS NOT TO ASSAULT.· · If you’re in a pro-gun area, teach your daughters how to shoot!
· If you aren’t a parent yet and have plans to, seriously consider not breeding boys. Or maybe consider an anti-natalist approach entirely.
· Reject heterosexist/heteropatriarchal religions. Leave it behind. Leave the church or the temple, move on. De-convert.
· Try to help male peers who’ve been indoctrinated by heteropatriarchal religions to de-convert. Help them wake up & move on[to pro-feminism].
· Stop fetishizing lesbians.
· Stop fetishizing lesbians.
· Stop fetishizing lesbian and bisexual women. Stop watching so-called “lesbian porn” which is made for a fetishizing male audience and features mostly bi/het women.
· Reject queer theory. Queer theory is anti-feminist, anti-female, and anti-lesbian. Queer theory results in the male colonization of feminism = the destruction of feminism, and is about the colonizing of female spaces and lesbianism. Queer theory is identity politics over reality and rationality.
· Reject “gender non-binary” identities. You’re male, accept you’re male, it’s a biological reality, an objective reality, a material reality, and you need to learn to live with it, not try to “identify” out of it by colonizing womanhood (which is misogynistic) or taking on some special snowflake identity (which is delusional).
· Support and promote women in STEM, law, medicine, finance.
· Don’t underestimate female intelligence.
· Support and promote girl’s education and female literacy.
· Talk less, listen [to women] more.
· DON’T EXPECT WOMEN TO BE BEAUTIFUL [for you]!
· Get rid of your sexist beauty standards.
· Don’t get off on femininity, get over it.
· Get over masculinity. Get over the male ego.
· No man should expect a woman to take his last name in marriage. Say No to Patrilineage.
· When in a relationship with a woman:
· No woman “owes” her male partner offspring. Accept that fact!
· BE UNAPOLOGETICALLY FOR ABORTION RIGHTS AND BIRTH CONTROL. SUPPORT IT BEING FREE AND/OR VERY LOW COST.·
DO YOUR PART IN THE HOUSE! Clean up after yourself. Wash your own dishes, do your own laundry, pack your own lunch, make your own dinner. Know how to cook and clean and don’t expect the women in your life to baby you and be your domestic servants.
· If you’re a man who is self-aware enough to realize you’re toxic, possessive, entitled, pornsick, abusive, and/or have a temper or anger management problem, you’re officially on sex strike and on reproductive strike! Don’t have relationships with women, don’t have sex with women, don’t have children. You’re a safety hazard and a health risk and need to STAY OUT OF WOMEN’S LIVES before you ruin them or ruin them further! Back off and leave women and women with their children alone so they can thrive without a man dragging them down.
· The only kind of male violence I can support is pro-feminist vigilantism: knock off a number of male abusers, male rapists, pimps, prostitution buyers who pay to sexually exploit and sexually abuse women, and the pornsick among us.
· Support the implementation of the Nordic model that holds men accountable and penalizes pimps and ‘sex’ buyers of women in prostitution.
· · Find a sponsorship agency or foundation you trust and sponsor a girl through it. My family has been sponsoring poor Third World girls and GIRLS ONLY for many years, funding their education, food provisions, and other basic necessities. Do it.
