A deeper look into the basics of life

-Improper lane changing: look first, turn single, check blind spot, sides and rear

-Do not change lanes in an intersection -Keep both hands on the wheel.

4 way stop -first person who arrives goes first -otherwise, whoever is to the right goes first

-Don't do any rolling stops at a stop sign, or pass the white line before you stop.

-Don't have the radio on during the test.

-if there is rain, snow or fog, drivers need to reduce speed.

How to make turns

Stop the vehicle completely after stop sign and look both ways. You make drive forward slightly to gain visibility. Signal before you take the turn.

Yielding What do you do when you come to an 4 way stop and other cars get there at the same time?   Turns vehicles yield to the ones going straight. The vehicle turning right has the right of way. say you both pull up to a parking lot and are turning into the same one. If they havea  lane between them and the direction they are turning, it means they are turning left. (this can be confusing because maybe they are turning to your right, but since they are on the more left side of the road to you, that means they are turning left from their vantage point)

If you are unsure, wave others on.

After 5 years of this problem I discovered one thing works better than asking, pleading or arguing ever will. Let them deal with the consequences of their own actions Sometimes there is nothing you can say or do to changes someone. Sometimes the only way to change people’s minds about something to let them suffer the consequences of their own actions.  But what do I mean by this?  Maybe In your eagerness to please others, you do everything for them, and in so doing, they are happy to be dependent on you, no matter how much you argue with them, they are content to be lazy and let you work for them.  Give then 2 weeks to see the result of their actions. without doing things for them.  I was living with a guy who wasn’t doing any of the house chores. No cooking, cleaning, nothing. For five years we fought and argued and bickered about this every day. Nothing ever changed. He still would not help, no matter how many times we talked. Finally I just got so frustrated with him, that I stopped doing any chores for him at all for about 2 weeks. I let the house be a mess, I didn’t cook for him, I stopped going to the grocery store as much so we often didn’t have food in the house.  To my astonishment, this seemed to do more than any of 5 years of arguing had done. Suddenly he started cooking meals for himself, and even me. occasionally he would go to the store and buy groceries, something he would never do before, no matter how much ask. He even became  better at not leaving trash about the house.

That’s when I discovered that letting people deal with  the consequence of their own actions, without your shielding them from their own mistakes, will do more more to change them than asking, demanding or pleading with them to change ever will. 

Don't forget their name -When they say your name, try to say it back to them to remember

Don't use filler words like "um", "uh" and "like"

Try not to interrupt others

Try not to avoid eye contact

Don't only talk about yourself

Don't complain too much - Try to view bad situations as learning opportunities

Try not to tell long stories

 Warm greetings in your communications.

Simple positive statements that warm up the tone of communications like, “So looking forward to meeting with you next week and hearing your feedback.”

Light use of humor.

A bit of non-work conversation at opening or closing of work communications.

adding warm opening and closing statements but keeping the substance of their message clear and direct.

Use a brief framing statement.

Examples include:“I’m going to express my opinion very directly; I’ll be as specific as possible.” (behavior phrase)

“I see this as a matter of honesty and integrity, so it’s important for me to be clear about where I stand.” (value phrase)

“I know it’s a risk for to speak this assertively, but I’m going to express my opinion very directly.” (inoculation phrase)

Understand the difference between arrogant and assertive.

Assertiveness is simply standing up for your own thoughts and needs; arrogance is aggressive.

Keep your communication assertive without hurting and belittling others, blaming or involving others. For example you can say:

“I prefer ___.”

“I don’t want to ___.”

“I feel ___ when ___.”

“ I need ___.”

Types of Comedy According to Contra Points

Contrast of Style and Substance Example: Gigi a very feminine trans-women goes to a sperm bank to donate sperm ~It's funny because she is telling this very masculine thing in a feminine body, feminine voice and feminine diction.

The Darkness ~Take your own worst feelings traumas and anxiety and twist them int a source of pleasure. ~Intentionally calling something by terms that are inaccurate as a source of humor. 

Jumps ~~~~~ Assemble ~jump to the side  up then bring heels together before land

Glissade, jump to the side and land with one foot before the other.

Changement(jumping and landing into a plie, switching which foot is in front each time.

Piqu(jumping onto one toe and ending in arabesque

saute- jump vertically,  straighten the feet so the toes are pointing down, while in air.

Pas De Chat- a run with two steps and then a jump before land in another step(4 steps total)

Saut De Chat- same but you make a huge leap with legs extended straight out

Turns ~~~~~

Promenade- a slow turn on one foot.

Pirouette (spring with leg in passe)

Chanine-a sort of spin walk pique- a turn starting from a tendu

Fouette- a spin with a kick then returning to pase

En Dehors-turning towards supporting leg

En Dedans- turning away form supporting leg

Full body ~~~~~~~~ Arabesque~ one arm out in front, one arm straight back, the opposite leg extended back

Chasse(while in turnout putting one foot forward and ending in a post similar to arabesc, but with both feet on the ground)

Port De Bras(grande plie with one arm extending out)

Adagio refers to slow movement, typically performed with the greatest amount of grace and fluidity than other movements of dance.

Walks ~~~~ Ballet walk- Pique Degage each feet with both arms extended straight out to the side

Bourrée- walk on toes, keeping legs tightly crossed with ankles squeezing together.  

Pas de Bourre -switch feet ankle to ankle

Legs and Feet ~~~~~~~~~~~

Pas de Bourree- 3 steps to switch feet, ending in a 5th position demi-plie

Attitude- leg out, knee can be slightly rotated out and leg slightly bent 

Croise(standing with one foot on tip toes and one flat on the ground)

Sous-Sus- stand on toes with ankles squeezing together.

Demi-Plie(small plie)

Develope( bringing knee up to the side, creating triangle, then extending that leg out straight)

Eleve(standing on tip toes and ending with flat feet

En Cloche(bring one leg forward then back (sort of like a backwards kick)

Battement Fondu (plie down, then up then extend one leg)

Rond De Jambe(bring one leg forward out straight then swoop it all the way around to the back

Passe(one leg up, leg bent, the toe pointing just below the knee of the other leg creating a triangle)

Tendu-stretching feet straight out, pointing the toe towards the ground

Degage-Tendu up in the air

Developpe- leg extending full up from pase

Grand Battmont, like developpe but leg is straight the whole way up

Arms/Upper Body ~~~~~~~~ flick-turn of the wrist and hands cambre(arm and body tilted side to side) 1st- create closed circle with hands in front of bell button or chest 2nd- both arms straight out 3rd- create a big broken circle to the left or right of hte body 4th- one arm up, one arm out straight 5th- goth arms up creating big circle above head

I was told to pursue the career I was good at, but is this actually good advice? Simulation games taught a different lesson. 

Simulating Human Society in Games

In a lot of simulation and resource management/ strategy video games you have a town/city/army or whatever. You assign people jobs based on what needs to be done. When the needs change you fire those people, give them new jobs based on what needs to be done. I have learned that in times of stress, even if you have already spent time and money training those people into certain jobs, it’s better to fire them and assign them new jobs than to let jobs that need to be done go undone. Sometimes failing to do this means your entire city starves to death or succumbs to invasion. The point i'm trying to make is, maybe real life is this way.

The Sunk-Cost fallacy