Life After IVF
After years of heartache and torment itâs hardly surprising that the infertility chip on your shoulder is still very much present and showing very little sign of letting up. You may have âbeatenâ infertility and have your perfect 2 point 4 children but it doesnât eliminate the pain that has been so deeply rooted within you for so long. After 6 years, or to put it into context 72 months of trying and failing it is not a feeling that simply goes away just because you now have your babies. The wounds may heal in time but you will always carry the scars. Just because you didnât instantly feel that indescribable love at first sight for your baby doesnât mean youâre a bad mum, itâs a lot to process for any new mum, itâs one of the biggest life changing events you will ever experience. Add into that the traumatic lead up to this moment you are bound to be experiencing an explosion of emotions from absolute joy to, an overwhelming sense of relief or complete fear of what you are meant to do with this vulnerable tiny little human. Just because that instant bond wasnât established when they were placed on your chest doesnât mean youâre any less of a mum then the next person and it doesnât mean that youâre not deserving, it just means it may take you a little longer to get there, itâs not a race so give yourself time. The truth is itâs taken you a bloody long time to reach this point so if it takes you a while to process it all then listen to your body, take a step back and breath. There may be days you feel like you cannot continue or you may yearn for your pre-baby days, just because your family are the result of fertility treatment doesnât mean that you arenât entitled to have these feelings. In fact just because you are where you are through fertility treatment doesnât mean that you have to enjoy every second of parenthood, you are allowed to have your bad days and not feel that you will judged or appear ungrateful. You may have had to go that extra mile but that doesnât mean you have to be super mum, it doesnât mean you are not entitled to whinge about your crying, needy baby. Youâre allowed shit days just like everyone else, if you want to sit and watch a marathon of Peaky Blinders with week old greasy hair, a vomit covered hoody surrounded by a mass of half drunk bottles then do it, as long as your baby is loved, fed and has a happy, healthy mum then whatâs the issue.













