jules 🐮🌿

Behind every massive crash out is the realization that you just got your period

i hope that in 2025 u get to take more walks, read more books, connect with more people whom u love and who love u, achieve ur goals (even if ur goals are having no goals and just living in the moment), exercise fun hobbies, move from a place of self-direction, and weave together a beguiling assortment of beautiful little moments. remember that no feeling lasts forever. love u

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but please don’t break promises you make to yourself just because it’s you the promise is being made to. You told yourself you’d go on a walk tomorrow morning? Do it. You said you’d get more consistent with your skincare routine? Make it happen. You promised yourself you would work on establishing boundaries regardless of who’s on the other side of them? Follow through with that. Don’t wake up the next day and go “well I don’t HAVE to do this” “it wouldn’t hurt to postpone this” “this isn’t a big deal” because it literally is. Every promise broken is another nail in the coffin of your self-actualization. It’s another major roadblock to developing healthy self-love and self-respect. Weigh promises you’ve made to yourself the same way you would weigh promises you’ve made to others.

I honestly tolerated such shitty behavior from other people before because it’s like. I didn’t respect myself enough to go through w things I want, so how can I expect other people to respect me enough to consider the way they treat me w care? And then it’s also so much easier to slip into the mentality of “they’re treating me horribly NOW but I’m sure they’ll do better in the future” “they’re not there yet but they will be” because that’s what you tell yourself when you don’t follow through w things. Other people’s subpar behavior towards you is acceptable because YOUR subpar behavior towards yourself is acceptable. I think this is what people mean when they say you have to love yourself in order to accept healthy love from other people. If you don’t think you’re worthy enough of following through w your own promises to yourself, why should you think that other people perceive you as worthy enough? It legitimately all starts w you.

this year will be wonderful. you will meet new people who will feel like sunlight. someone out there will be lucky enough to meet you. you will see breathtaking views. you will learn so much knowledge from your studies and gain so much wisdom. there will be bad days but you will heal and start again in the morning. you will discover what makes you happy. you will fill up journals with scribbles and messy drawings. you will feel low and make mistakes but they will help you become a stronger person. you will pick up new things that give your life meaning and you will pour your heart into it. you will find songs that speak to you more than anything else in the world. you will grow. this year is waiting for you and it’s beautiful.

acceptance has been a very good thing for my relationships. i accept people as they are and expect general consistency unless they are particularly tenacious or introspective. acceptance doesn’t mean that you like or even necessarily cooperate with someone but that you have made sense of them in some way as a person. people can be repetitive and predictable; i don’t expect change to come from nothingness.

Anything for my favorite person (me)

i’d say the best thing i have learned this year is to just let people be who they naturally are. no psychoanalyzing them, no overthinking my actions, no asking what i could possibly do to keep their presence in my life. i just bring my best self to the table and always move from a place of love and respect. how that person responds is ultimately up to them. if that causes them to exit my life, i just let it happen. i will never be in the business of changing people. people are only ever ready to change when they’ve made the conscious decision to. all i can do is check myself and be kind always.

Whatever is meant for you, will definitely arrive, in due time.

my daily habit of continuing on

Your SELF RESPECT gotta be stronger than your feelings.