A Little Bone Head

You don't realize how much you'll crave the feeling of their arm against yours while laying in bed, fingers gently tangled in theirs, until they aren't around anymore.

Suddenly being without those sensations can leave an almost painful feeling of loneliness in your chest. The emotion will be felt physically.

We are social animals. Lack of contact can cause real physical and mental changes in you.

A good partner shouldn't explode on you for wanting to talk, but try to be understanding if it happens. If you haven't been communicating, you won't know if your S/O is feeling some tension as well.

Try to avoid blaming them for anything. Using 'you' in statements about how you're feeling when talking to the person causing those feelings, can result in a defensive response and make it harder to keep the things you want to get out clear and understandable. When someone feels defensive, its easier to misunderstand what someone else is saying.

Not everything needs to be covered in a single talk either. Take breaks, and try to keep the discussion on a single topic. Bringing up too much too quickly can lead to confusion.

What do I do? It feels wrong not to do anything sexy today. Am I overthinking this?

Valentines doesn't need to be sexy.

Be intimate in otherways. Enjoy a show or movie you've been putting off for awhile, together. Talk about something thats been on your mind. Ask questions on things you've always been curious about but never actually discussed. Share some secrets with one another!

If physical intimacy is the way to go, write up a sexy time I.O.U. Make it a coupon they can exchange for 1 sexy time, but make sure the rules to use it are clear, as consent is always sexy!

If I want to treat my husband to a nice holiday, but we’re both broke, and both work today; what’s the best way to show my appreciation on this special day?

For context my husband is gay and catholic, so he actually has more of a connection with the “Saint” part of saint Valentine’s Day.

Thanks! 💀 ❤️

Hmm... a fun date for two happy fellas with a connection to the church and Saint Valentine?

Try using some honey from a local beekeeper to sweeten up the bedroom situation. Getting married in secret was pretty popular with Valentine, if thats an option. Maybe the officiate will accept payment in that honey?