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some digital stickers i made with blender a few years ago feel free to use them as a pfp or whatever you want lol (except for commercial use)

The first tweet reads: “It’s time to bring back sex-positive, free expressionist, pro-art socialism and stop siding with censorious puritans or people who unironically call things they don’t like ‘degenerate’ out of gut reflex.”

Below it, Svetlana replies: “If you are basing your opinions on fictional media out of your gut-feeling of ‘eww gross’ with absolutely zero effort to look into whether it actually has real consequences or listen to any contrary takes, you are no better than those who hate queer people on a similar ‘ick!’”

Anyway. If you struggle with negative self-talk I feel for you. It’s hellish, and it’s not something that can just be bludgeoned out of someone by telling them it sucks. We know! I’m not out of the weeds just yet by a long shot, but here’s some of the stuff that’s been helpful for me:

Fake it til it’s real: cliche, I know! but it really has helped for me, even though it makes me suuuuper uncomfortable at times. but literally tell yourself that you’re super charismatic and sexy and everyone loves you. or whatever version of that feels good for how you’d like to be seen. it’s gonna feel silly and untrue for a really long time, but it helps!

Reframe: I struggled to phrase this one, but what I mean basically is like… taking that notion of “hey negative self-talk sucks for the people around you too” and turning it into “wow, it is kind of mean to my friends to just assume they’re lying when they say they love me. I don’t want to be mean to my friends. I’m going to take the risk of trusting them”. Try not to go too far in the direction of “oh god I’m being mean to my friends” and stay on the path of “I want to and CAN do right by them”

Separate from it: I like to kind of act like my negative self talk is something of a different entity from me. Your mileage may vary on this one. I was a really mean really sad teenage girl once, and for me that kind of feels like the place the negative self talk comes from. So instead of being like “I guess I just hate myself and always will”, I can be like “I have this wounded inner child who is lashing out. I’m going to be gentle with her, but I’m also not going to listen to the things she tells me we are, because she is 16 and hasn’t experienced anything good yet.”

If the negative self talk you experience is very much something you feel detached from it is probably a headmate.

We have many headmates in our system that are mean, ruthless, and use our thoughts against us. Some of them are even physically abusive in headspace.

Yes, you can suffer from negative self talk and have these asshole headmates at the same time, that being said sometimes said headmates will be the reason it's (the natural negative self talk) there in the first place.

How to "get rid" of this headmate is not possible. If you're looking for a solution it's communication. It ties into OPs last bullet of separation, a little bit.

You need to understand that this potential headmate is spouting bullshit at you, or the entire system, because it's their job (more than likely if you're traumagenic). There's a high chance they don't even want to do this, but feel as if they have to.

That being said, not every persecutor (or those aligned) will be misguided. Some headmates are just assholes, and that's something you have to learn to cope with as if you would a real person, in our experience.

Ignore them.

🦑 ❝ SHYSQUiDGENDER ❞ — A squidgender subtype . A gender connected to being shy && squids ; being a shy squid , etc .

"Shysquidgender" - A squidgender subtype. A gender connected to being shy & squids; being a shy squid, etc.

Coined by me. /end PT]

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˚  · FAGTHiNG + FAGGOTHiNG。︵︵

くコ:彡 ・A gender related to being a fag(got) && a thing ; A fag(got)thing .

· ˚ FOXTHiNG。+ ARTiCFOXTHiNG。🦊

くコ:彡 ・A gender related to being A Fox && A Thing ; A foxthing . + A gender related to being An Artic fox && A Thing ; An articfoxthing .

· ˚ BATEARFOXTHiNG。+ FENNECFOXTHiNG。🦊

くコ:彡 ・A gender related to being A Bat-eared fox && A thing ; A beatearfoxthing . + A gender related to being A fennec fox && A thing ; A fennecfoxthing .

A gender related to being A Fox and A Thing; A foxthing. + A gender related to being An Artic fox and A Thing; An articfoxthing.

Batearfoxthing. + Fennecfoxthing.