So... Now What?

Calm Harm can be tailored to your needs and will provide strategies to help you get past those crucial moments of wanting to harm.

It’s also totally FREE.

1. Become aware of how and when you tearing yourself down.

2. Now that you can catch yourself doing it. Offer counters to the negative self talk. A really useful thing I read was to talk to yourself almost the way you would child. Gentle and patient. Even when they fuck up.

3. Take time to celebrate your small accomplishments. You’ve been attacking yourself for every little mistake. Apply that same fervor to the positive things in your life. Did the dishes even though you didn’t want to? Fuck yeah! Got up and took shower? YES!!! You are taking positive steps to feeling better. Celebrate it.

4. Make lists of things you’re good at/ like about yourself. The first time I did this the only two things in my list we’re that I liked my hair and I had good friends. It was start.

5. Don’t beat yourself up if you screw up steps 1-4. It’s counter productive. When I catch myself calling my self stupid for some mistake or other my response now is,“We don’t talk to ourselves like that anymore. What’s something constructive that could actually help solve the problem.”

Most of the time that seems to work. Not always. But more and more Everytime.

Sophie

Convinced she’s fated to be a failure by pervasive societal messages

Depressed and anxious to the point that leaving the house terrifies her

Constant excuses to not talk to people

Wears one color and it is grey (like her soul)

“I’m eighteen but I’m ninety at heart”

RAGE

Has to get away from her home so she moves into a terrifying moving castle bc it’s free and at this point why not

*everything’s on fire* “This is fine”

I KNOW EXACTLY HOW THE WORLD WORKS o wait shit fuck

Feelings? What are those? I only know cleaning.

Howl

Fancy degree that he has to move to another world to use

Loves his blood family but just… can’t be around them 

“Why don’t you have a real job”

Cannot handle responsibility

Is responsible for things anyway

“Howl we have no money” “I’m going to buy a skull”

Embodiment of Do It For The Aesthetic ™

also “treat yo self” 

Just Can’t anymore and has a meltdown over his hair (aka everything else in his life)

“Oh no I care for all these people why”

Overcharges rich people and undercharges poor people bc the system sucks

Last night on earth? Time to get wasted.

“I don’t care” he says caringly, while caring deeply.

Michael

Anxious bab

What is happening why this plz help

Stresses out over his homework only to find out the papers had gotten mixed up and he was doing the wrong thing

“I guess this now” :/

Better at adulting than the actual adults

Loves his gf so much and is so openly happy about it

A bit useless in a crisis

Tries so hard, gets so far

Found family is the best family

Calcifer

“I’m being exploited!”

Complains about everything

Bored. Just. So bored. Give him attention.

Used to be literal star but things went wrong and now he’s living in a fireplace

Eats everything and anything. 

“Guys I have arms be impressed by my arms”

Creates a castle for the Aesthetic that also looks like it’s about to fall apart and frightens people.

Womanist Musings: Processes of Feminization: Becoming Myself (via biyuti)

On. Point.

(via quelola)