TheAgeofSims

When one of your parents gets sick and dies just 3 months after his diagnosis, just a few days shy of his 73rd birthday, that's the kind of thing that can hurt a person to the point they're mad at the world.

I'm that person -- I lost my dad in July 2022 without even getting to tell him everything that I wanted to tell him because I had no time to even understand or think what was happening.

And I couldn't even help him because he was dying of stage 4 stomach cancer that had spread to his lymph nodes so no amount of praying or hoping could do a damn thing for him.

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I really don't need to make a post like this because, but I just feel like I guess maybe I should? I'm not too sure.

I'm just tired. I'm tired of having stretched myself into other areas of the Sims community to the point I saw just how crazy it all. No matter where anyone goes in any online space now, it's full of people just saying the most awful shit to each other and such entitlement.

I was talking to a friend earlier about how I'm just exhausted with being positive (trying* to be positive) when all I'm surrounded by is people being negative.

I understand times are tough and the world is really struggling now, but I just can't do it anymore because other people's negativity has started to drain me.

I also almost want to return to where I started. Where I'm just in one spot for Sims or no spots -- I haven't decided yet.

I started blogging in 2017, but I spent far more years not blogging Sims at all, since I've been playing it since the year 2000.

I'm just tired of the emptiness I feel when I think about The Sims. Not because I don't enjoy it, but just the people that surround the community.

I've started to change the way I post even on here. I've made it so I'm blocking anyone from reblogging my posts after I've grown tired of people reblogging my cats or my dogs, but never reblogging my sim people.

I've spent YEARS reblogging people's posts across all Sims games, may they be pets or actual Sims. I've done it because I know since my blog is a side blog and I don't want to crowd up my dash with Sims related content, it was my way of saying hey -- I see you/you're being seen.

I can't honestly say that I've felt the same way and the sad part about that is, I never complain. I never get into arguments with other simmers. I never have a real heated opinion about anything that involves this game because I understand so many sides to every argument other simmmers can and will, obessively… talk about.

That's why I know that how I feel, is felt with honesty. I've done 'everything' to be welcoming because that's the kind of person I am even in real life, but I've been met with the complete opposite.

It's the right thing to do and fore sure, everyone's got their own moral compass -- but I shouldn't be made to feel bad because I'm doing my best as well as giving my best.

I know this community is not accepting. It never has been accepting through decades worth of this franchise exisiting -- but to know that I've given and I've tried to have others see things on the brighter side, only to be ignored… well that doesn't feel too good as an actual human being.

Maybe people get caught up in this game to the extent that they care more about their pixel people rather than actual humans, and that's something I can't understand or support because there is no exchange for human contact and human emotion.

I have offered help when asked. I've offered help even when not asked. I've offered an insight into my stories with diverse characters, and then I've been forgotten about once people get from me what they want/need.

I've been made fun of by simmers who have an issue with me being a big fan of my favorite actor for reasons I still wonder about today because why make fun of someone for that?

I've been told by simmers that they love William or that they love Gloria -- but it can never be the 'both' of them, not even together, but who they are as individuals. And I mention them because the both of them are my longest played and written about characters.

My posts have been reblogged by white simmers more than black simmers and to say that doesn't bother me would be a lie -- because the possibility of being ignored by white people is a common knowledge to people of color, but when other people of color ignore you, it hurts even more because it's not exactly expected.

I'm sorry that me being biracial isn't good enough to be a storyteller in the Sims community, but I'm also not sorry either because it just means that I'm able to think entirely outside of the box and I know I live my life, in real life, the same exact way.

I don't know if people just think because I'm silly all the time or that I'm always laughing, that I'm not a serious person -- but I am. I take a lot of things seriously.

I also am a reserved person, but not to the point that I don't understand human contact and I don't understand how to have a good conversation.

I recently made a post and tagged several simmers in the post. I even was tagged in another post by someone on my main blog, that prompted me to tag other simmers because I didn't know of enough people on my main account, and not one simmer answered it.

I understand that there was no obligation, but I had the thought to tag certain people. Specific people -- not just random simmers, or popular simmers.

Having a 'thought' to tag someone means 'thinking of someone', but that's something I now understand means nothing to people anymore.

I have done nothing to have people treat me this way and that's why it hurts. To mind my business and carry on in good fatih, only to have people invade my space with questions, teasing comments, and unfinished conversations.

I'm not sure what's happened to people and their ability to hold a meaningful conversation, and I'm not interested in knowing either because once you hit a certain age, you are supposed to know how to properly communicate with another human being even over the internet.

You don't just walk away from the conversation like you never spoke to each other in the first place -- or you do, but it's not right.

We live in a world now where people argue that there are a million different ways of being right and that'a bullshit. There is such a thing as tact and respect for yourself and for others.

Maybe I'm too honest and I'm too real, but that's who I am even offline. If people want to mock me, make fun of me, tease me, or think that I'm incapable of having hurt feelings -- sorry, but I'm still a human being.

Where I am right now is that I no longer want to be tagged in posts. As I mentioned before, I am changing how I post so that people can not interact with my posts by reblogging them.

I also may start blogging more than Sims here like I did on and off years back, in hopes that it makes more simmers 'unfollow' me since they won't just be seeing Sims content.

I also am thinking of reworking my tagging system so that I'm not tagging the game anymore.

Sometimes I remind myself or I ask myself -- what will the point of your 'simblr' be then? And I don't know. I can never answer it outside me just knowing that I don't want to leave my stories/saves behind because I feel they're important stories to tell and they should have a purpose. I don't and I never did just tell my stories (fan fictions included) for me, I've also written them to give them a voice.

They usually say that you shouldn't look for yourself in other people -- and that's the truth.

If people lack respect and maturity, then that is entirely on them. I will not be a part of it.

My instagram has been deactivated because I was trying to just delete the few posts I had, but I unfollowed everyone, so Instagram though I was bot. They asked for my phone number and I was like there's no way. I didn't even use my sims instagram for anything and even if I did, I'm not giving any of these apps my phone number.

I've deleted every post I've made on blusky, but I have kept the reblogs from other simmers I've made there.

I am looking into mass deleting my posts on Twitter, but it looks like it can't be done so I'll most likely be deleting my entire account.

I don't feel badly about these things because I never set out to do any simming outside of Tumblr, but randomly started to do so, but what I do feel hurt over is that I've been right here on Tumblr simming since 2017 and people wouldn't even notice or give a damn if I fell off the face of the earth.

I would -- but I'm not the problem in all of this. That I am confident enough to know after what I've repeatedly seen and how I've had other simmers treat me for reasons completely unknown to me.

I won't apologize for having fun in my game, caring about the sims in my stories, and doing my best to remind people that LIFE IS SHORT.

When one of your parents gets sick and dies just 3 months after his diagnosis, just a few days shy of his 73rd birthday, that's the kind of thing that can hurt a person to the point they're mad at the world.

I'm that person -- I lost my dad in July 2022 without even getting to tell him everything that I wanted to tell him because I had no time to even understand or think what was happening.

And I couldn't even help him because he was dying of stage 4 stomach cancer that had spread to his lymphnodes so no amount of praying or hoping could do a damn thing for him.

And yet I could have been that person who could have been mad at the world.

I could have been that person to drown in misery like so many people I see around here.

Yet all I did was deal with my pain from losing him and all I do is continue to deal with the pain of losing him -- with a smile on my face and the ability to put everything aside to help another person.

This happened once during this series, but I know it's been happening for a lot of people with or without mods.

I went through my mods folder like I usually do, but nothing is even being flagged by MCC.

I went into another one of my saves and the Sims are going about their business.

If I can't get it to work then I'll just start moving the Sims I know I'm taking out of the Lonely Professor save into my Age of Sims save, and finish the last two episodes from there.

It will be available on my CurseForge by some time tomorrow.

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In this episode...

Faith and Edgar go away on a winter vacation just to get away from Brindleton Bay for a little bit, after all that's happened...

Marcus, Faith's brother, is now engaged to Darnell

Shelby is NOT completely trained as I said, I just meant that she's trained enough with the training that makes sense for an average trained dog.

Derek, Timothy's step brother, passed away.

Janae gave birth to Timothy's son, Justin.

It doesn't happen every 10 seconds even without the change I'm trying to apply, because the original mod has it where the probability chance of it happening has no 'weight' to it.

I'm not a programmer so I'm just tinkering around here with patches of tutorials I've found online to change a few things here and there.

I'm saying that as someone who doesn't have an interest in Paralives (or InZoi), but for real… they've started with paywalling mods and the game is just in early access…?

Sims 4 ruined its own community because of greed. I mean people can blame EA, but you can't ignore the people within the Sims 4 community playing a part. I don't even think most of the players even play the literal game or play it without a shit ton of mods that make it something it's entirely not meant to be… which is a Rated T video game.

I've got to state that a lot of this has to do with the demographic of Sims 4 players or at least I hope, because in short, the older gen was 'raised much better than this' or even just, 'much different than this', which is also a big reason why the Sims 1 through Sims 3 communities roll a different way.

A lot of what's been promoted, hyped, and jazzed up wouldn't fly with the previous Sims communities -- and that's a fact, Jack!

And there's no going back. Not until people stop paying for early access and paywalled mods/custom content at the rate they are (or all together), but that's literally never likely to happen when people are literally refusing to turn their games on until said modder updates their mods because they just can't play without them because, because, because… like not for nothing, but there once was a time where mods didn't even exist for the previous Sims games. Custom content did, but hardly anyone I knew, was talking aout mods back in the days. And guess what? WE PLAYED. FOR HOURS. DAYS. WEEKS. MONTHS. YEARS.

Having 'all or nothing' isn't exactly a good thing -- CLEARLY, as plenty of us have already seen.

The entitlement I see people complain about shouldn't be entirely blamed on the creator who is showing entitlement. How do you think they got there? The people in the community who gave them their bread and butter, stroked their ego, and practically glorified them. It's our fault as much as it is their fault for their behavior. Of course they could be better about it, but I've lost a ton of faith in humanity since 2020 (probably 2016 if I'm completely honest), so if someone's gonna become egotistical and entitled, I gotta say -- the shit's not gonna exactly shock me.

People are speaking up about the wrong things in this community and they're so far into their bubbles that they can't even see the big picture -- and that's the literal truth.

People need to stop following each other around in circles. Think and speak for yourselves (even outside of the community), but also, learn to love the game for what it is.

Sims 4 is never going to be Sims 1, Sims 2, or Sims 3. It is its own game.

When people insist that modders have made it so others are able to play Sims 4 -- is insane to me. No modder out there is responsible for the fun that I've had in my game. They've made things more tolerable and they've enhanced it in certain ways, but to give them this level of credit for a game that isn't even theirs -- is wild. This is exactly why some have become entitled.

This idea that Sims 4 has to be 'altered' to the extent I've seen it altered is just mentally not normal and it's also not mentally healthy. Of course I'm no doctor, but I can see a trainwreck a mile away.

Knowing this is what's made me start to want to move AWAY from as many mods as I can in my own game because I've lost sight of what's actually included with the packs and when I've discovered them -- I've been surprised, I've liked it, it's brought me some form of joy.

But you can't even say that. I've said it already a few years ago -- shouting out the players that play mostly vanilla or entirely vanilla, because people look down on them.

If you're a console player who has no choice, but to play vanilla, everyone literally forgets about you. You don't 'truly' exist as a simmer, or matter, because it's your fault your ass is playing on console instead of buying a computer to play the game.

If you're a computer player that just chooses to play vanilla, ALL you see are people running into community spaces with, "Just use a mod for that." or "There's a mod for that."

I'm sitting there some of the time like… is anyone going to stop and think before they actually speak? Meaning, "Hi. I'm not sure if you use mods or not, but if you do, there is a mod for that."

No. Everyone just 'assumes' that PC players are drowning themselves in mods and custom content, because that is ALL this community talks about.

No one is asking anyone what save they're currently in. No one is asking someone why their favorite Sim is their favorite sim. No one is trying to get to know another simmer on an honest personal level.

Every single thing that actually matters about humans and their 'favorite video game' or at least one they love a great deal -- especially one that is what it is because of how players have the ability to create endless scenarios has been ruined by superficial bullshit.

Reshade should NOT be this important.

Wicked Whims should NOT be this important.

Obsession with Neutrals… EVERYWHERE, should not be this important.

This gaming franchise was built as a Rated T game in the year 2000, for that ONE computer people had to take turns using in either their own living rooms, or a friend's (because there were A SHIT TON of people who could not afford computers back then), with nothing, but tacky furniture and wacky colored carpets for build/buy!

And if anyone says "Well times have changed" -- yeah… for the worse, bro. Because now there's nothing else there.

Or the argument, "Everyone should be able to play their game the way they want." Yes -- but at one point there were SEVERE limitiations to the game and people still had a GREAT experience -- but also, I repeat, is anyone even actually PLAYING Sims 4? And the excuse, "The game is so broken I can't play it." is stretching the truth LIKE HELL.

Think outside the box. Learn to work around things. HAVE FUCKING PATIENCE. Start a new save for the meantime. Have several saves for when things stop working in one of them. REMOVE YOUR FUCKING MODS. REMOVE YOUR FUCKING CC. TRY TO FIGURE OUT YOUR PROBLEM… by actually making an 'effort' to figuring it out.

And THIS… is what people are trying to let happen to Paralives or even any other game that'll come out that'll be in the same genre as The Sims?

I understand that there is an entire generation or group of people who have zero idea how to search for things because they've been taught helplessness, but all I can think about when I see that is 12 year old me not being able to ask anyone in the Sims community how to find something without getting my head taken off.

And when I was 12 I'm not even sure Google even existed. Yahoo did, but I swear the internet had about 3 websites… and that was it, or so it felt like, so going on a search was a lot more difficult than it is now.

Still -- to me it's like walking past someone in the street and them asking you for the time or directions, and basically blowing them off as if you can't be bothered.

I don't even state "WCIF Friendly" because it should be a given that I will help, but also, I feel like it should be a given -- because I feel it's the right thing to do.

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Keep it up, William! 😡

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I WAS WAITING FOR THEM TO GET THIS DYNAMIC!

Unless I record it with no commentary and just game sounds. I might do that, but I'm not entirely sure.