the v-spot

🌈 Last call! Sliding scale tickets for this Sunday’s webinar close Sunday at 10am! . . 💻🌱 Sunday, March 3rd from 2:30-4pmEST I’ll be teaching my live webinar Sex Educator Starter Kit! . . 💌 $60-$100 sliding scale. If you can’t make the live webinar, contact me about recorded options! . . 🌸 Full details & descriptions on YANATALLONHICKS.com/SESK2019 or DM with questions . . #pleasureposishops #sexeducatorlife #keepitconsensual #valleyvspot https://www.instagram.com/p/BufZ06Jh7AaKWz-3aXT41MgT4uFBc3-j-5KfTc0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=nyl1byzusy3f

💎 In this week’s #valleyvspot...when do you tell someone about your STI status? . . . 👨‍❤️‍👨”Whatever you do, don’t shrink away from the power you have to set the tone of The STI Talk. . . If you approach this conversation with fear and shame, it can create an environment that’s negative and scary. . . Shaming yourself or others for testing positive for an STI is part of a larger culture of shaming people for having and enjoying sexual pleasure.” . . 👓 Read more at yanatallonhicks.com/blog . . . http://yanatallonhicks.com/2018/12/birdsbeesherpes/ https://www.instagram.com/p/Bq7dx84BagJUJUB1FsGNawr3iLgEvGjFIsRR_w0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1ebx0lol1lqpc

➰Thank you @rigged.thread for your darling rope embroideries & the perfect giftie for @thethanx ✨ https://www.instagram.com/p/Bq5gl4ThrUpcB8StjQ3j9attqtmrnFn0c21ABo0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1f7yelajav9o5

Thanks for a great workshop @clarkuniversity & for letting me geek out about attachment styles and empathy — but mostly, for taking me seriously even though I wore leggings as pants today. ✨ #pleasureposishops #keepitconsensual #sexeducatorlife (at Clark University) https://www.instagram.com/p/BqyfwcOhUpAPuNtleh4UJz4xoHP3UbdkjH9ASo0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1hv4qwlhjq6gg

The limited second edition of ✨Explicit Permission✨ is here & ready for gifting! Plus 7 sweet back patches made by @antlereditions of @ameliamartin’s perfect book cover design. . . 🎉 Explicit Permission is a workbook/zine all about sexuality & desire & consent. Illustrated by @ameliamartin // handprinted & bound locally by @lisahersey at @antlereditions. . . ⭐️ $24 each for workbooks & $12 each for back patches includes free shipping. . . 💕 20% of proceeds will go to my lovely neighbors The Brick House which offers youth programming like drop-in community time, leadership building, and family support in Turners Falls, Mass. . . 🌈 keepitconsensual.bigcartel.com or link in bio until Instagram inevitably takes my link down 🙄 . . 📦 Put your orders in quick for the gift-giving season! . . #sexcolumn #keepitconsensual #pleasureposishops #sexeducatorlife #valleyvspot #mywork https://www.instagram.com/p/BqsnIUXBmpmatzksYPzBEi19t5PaxmZex93npE0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1uzz53dljigb3

😬 So you’re in a non-monog relash and you’re starting to resent your partner’s partner but you’re just over here trying to be ✌🏼chill ✌🏼... ohhhhh maaaannn .... . . . 🛠 “Addressing building resentments with ‘chillness’ is like trying to patch a flat tire with a piece of gum — that shit is not even going to work, so let’s not crank up the Britney and turn on our left blinker like we are about to merge back onto the healthy relationship highway with that thing, because you are not”... . . ✨ Link in bio until IG breaks it or on yanatallonhicks.com/blog . . #valleyvspot #sexeducatorlife #sexcolumn #sexadvice #sexcolumnist . . . http://yanatallonhicks.com/2018/11/metamour/ https://www.instagram.com/p/BqOW00FB4-ptVDydDWH-DbErXNPouysOMKFycY0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=bc80c568iqdb

✨ It’s been such a fun Fall workshop season so far! Coming up next — . . 💕 Tomorrow! Pleasure-Based Consent @ Marlboro College! . . 🍒 November 29th! Communication Skills for Healthy Sex & Relationships @ Clark University! . . 🍡 December 6th! Polyamory & Open Relationships @ Hampshire College! . . ⭐️ I’m booking Spring Semester workshops for January 2019 - May 2019 now! . . ✨ Book a workshop or get details about these upcoming workshops on my website ✨YANATALLONHICKS.COM✨ . . #pleasureposishops #keepitconsensual #sexeducatorlife https://www.instagram.com/p/BqL1emLBU96eUlLhB__imq-Vh17GO5xq1j2-zY0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1qwcrg2s57t0t

@antlereditions is busy hand-printing this sweet 2nd edition of my workbook ✨Explicit Permission✨ which is all about unblocking barriers to & digging into our desires & enthusiastic Yeses! . . 💕 Illustrated by @ameliamartin // 20% of proceeds will go to the Brick House in Turners Falls // pre-sale at $20 with free shipping until Sunday! . . ➡️➡️➡️ yanatallonhicks.com/explicitpermission https://www.instagram.com/p/BqIGW9Jh7EGxLYDLvM6IiO_ArAy4lFnosOO73o0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=2q6d43ow0dgt

✨ In this week’s #valleyvspot with advice from @sugarcnt & @corinne.kai! . . “Most painful cuts and scratches from fingernails aren’t generally inflicted because of the *length* of the nails, but rather by jagged chips, splits, and un-filed part of the fingernail” . . ✨ yanatallonhicks.com/blog to read! . . http://yanatallonhicks.com/2018/11/manicuredsex/ https://www.instagram.com/p/BqFXVIBhWgO8rW_wD58goLE9vZCCIOFckrBwbo0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=g2j9ywvietp

The limited second edition of ✨Explicit Permission✨ is coming & pre-sale prices/orders are now available! . . 🎉 Explicit Permission is a workbook/zine all about sexuality & desire & consent. Illustrated by @ameliamartin // handprinted & bound locally by @lisahersey at @antlereditions. . . ⭐️ $20 each for pre-sale, now until November 19th. 20% of proceeds will go to my lovely neighbors The Brick House which offers youth programming like drop-in community time, leadership building, and family support in Turners Falls, Mass. . . 🌈 keepitconsensual.bigcartel.com or link in bio until Instagram inevitably takes my link down 🙄 . . 📦 All orders will be sent to you well before the holiday gift-giving season! . . #sexcolumn #keepitconsensual #pleasureposishops #sexeducatorlife #valleyvspot #mywork (at Brickhouse) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bp2D5FlBnZOsfqtqGHnlmw0BniOliiRYOetzBA0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=nfpwlv86vrfi

Getting excited for a big weekend next week! Thursday I’m at Duke University teaching sex toys & then I fly home to try a new thing — facilitating about kink dynamics and relational repair at Out in the Open for the first time! Hope to see you there. ✨ . . . #pleasureposishops #keepitconsensual #sexeducatorlife #mywork (at Brattleboro, Vermont) https://www.instagram.com/p/BpsNJxwh_G_fwtmtY8nmnSRqQz-amWVGdK4xLE0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1u00roe1vy6sn

Overalls! But (try) to make them office-appropriate. 👩🏻‍💼👩🏻‍🏫 https://www.instagram.com/p/BprpB6ShEo7zCJ002Ue-7oBBy5UE3rvQik0TYM0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1h1svzu4wx654

In this week’s #valleyvspot, a reader’s got it bad for their top surgeon ... . . "If there’s anything a decade of being a sex educator has taught me, it’s that if there’s a desire or kink out there, there’s someone out there who’s into it. . . But where do you find these foxy, bossy, badass women (bonus points if they’re handy with a scalpel)?"... . . http://yanatallonhicks.com/2018/11/deartopsurgeon/ https://www.instagram.com/p/Bprk_NShmG5bJabyTg663lpJ5FwTMKRZL1kLhc0/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1orzyhlp1ie0f

Being super snug & working from home on this rainy fall day. 🌧 . . 📬🎉 My inbox is overflowing! I love that folks see me as someone they can send their friends, workplaces, and their own sex/relationship conundrums to. And I sadly don’t have the resources to answer them all outside of my professional hours. . . 💌 I have lots of ways folks can seek out my advice & consultation to fit a variety of budgets! ⤵️ . . 📰 1. Write into my sex & relationship advice column, The V-Spot! Free! Anonymous! Answers will be published in roughly 2-4 weeks. Email your question (please keep it under 250-300 words) to [email protected]. . . 👩🏻‍💻 2. Get my advice over Email Coaching! Personalized, private advice with resource suggestions sent to your inbox within 72 hours. . . 📲 3. Set up a Skype Consultation! Individual or relational coaching sessions (for 2+ partners) over video chat. . . 🛋 4. Come in for individual or relational therapy! Ongoing, in-depth therapy work in my Brattleboro, VT office. Or, you can schedule a focused Relationship Intensive. . . ✨You can check out my pricing, book an appointment, and find out more about all of these options on my website ✨YANATALLONHICKS.COM✨. Thank you for supporting my work! https://www.instagram.com/p/BppMt0_hYfxbJkaHoKYzS8ov6UMcKOg336A4U00/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=nhtzjjrfbfj3

🎉🖍I spend so much of my professional time sitting in an office these days that it feels real good to spread out on my floor and make a ding-dang poster! . . 🌈✨ I’m getting super excited for the •Out in the Open Summit• where I’ll be co-facilitating a session with @thethanx about building intentional kink dynamics for happy & healing relationships! . . 💓🗣 This will be my first time at the summit and I’m super excited for everything they’ve got planned. Register ASAP if you’re interested! . . #keepitconsensual #sexeducatorlife #pleasureposishops #everydaykink #mywork (at Green Mountain Crossroads) https://www.instagram.com/p/BpfSk81gVkRh6hrStJh7cDwMcnSJ_jcqI9PvS00/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=rxl2z1tilp1n

✨ While I was off teaching about pleasure & consent this evening, these sweet men were rallying for #transrights. Sometimes you gotta divide & conquer. ✨ . . Massachusetts! Don’t forget to vote #yeson3! 🌈✨ . . #brewsterthedoge #sexeducatorlife #transrightsarehumanrights https://www.instagram.com/p/BpYNnplg9tXzAd2dSNYAgmbH5uLfMtqaPjmYd80/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=19eb5mlmj54km

Tag yourselves. I’m the hot pink internal clitoral model, obv. 🎀 . . . Thank you Mt. Holyoke for a great, packed workshop tonight! ✨ (at Mount Holyoke College) https://www.instagram.com/p/BpX_oGAgIIBmemh4vqbR9cIVviFxVmDBXudXm40/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=19aktm06irur3