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an apple can be used for a simple house blessing; cut an apple in half, and eat one half in your home. place the other outside, in the backyard or front porch, as an offering to good spirits for protection and warm energy.

bay leaves can be placed in the corners of a room to banish evil from it and protect those within it.

a cactus can be grown near a house to offer strong protection; even stronger protection is gained by planting cacti at all for corners of the home.

planting catnip in the garden, or hanging it above your door, will attract good spirits and good luck.

chamomile can be sprinkled about in the home to break curses and unwanted spells cast on or in the home.

cilantro brings peace and harmony to a home.

clover can be sprinkled around a home to banish unwanted spirits.

garlic can be hung in a home to bring its inhabitants closer together.

ivy plants can be hung to deter unwanted guests.

lavender can be burned and its ashes sprinkled about to cultivate rest and tranquility within the home.

orange peel can be placed in windowsills to bless the house with angel and sun energy.

peppermint can be burned as a smoke cleanser to remove illness and negative energy from a new home.

a sprig of pine can be hung in the home to bless it and its inhabitants.

sachets of saffron can bring happiness to the home.

ANXIETY • amethyst • carnelian • charoite • chrysoprase • jasper

AURA STRENGTHENING • celestite • jasper • labradorite

AWARENESS • azurite • creedite • jasper • kyanite

BALANCE • agate • amazonite • amber • aventurine • calcite • rhodochrosite • smoky quartz • tourmaline 

BEAUTY • aquamarine • clear quartz • lepidolite • rose quartz • sapphire

COMMUNICATION • amethyst • ametrine • aquamarine • blue calcite • celestite • citrine • kyanite • topaz • turquoise

COMPASSION • angelite • celestite • lapis lazuli • rose quartz • sodalite

COURAGE/CONFIDENCE • agate • carnelian • citrine • sugilite • tourmaline

CLARITY • agate • calcite • citrine • sapphire • tigers eye

CLEANSING • celestite • chrysoprase • jasper • kyanite • moonstone • selenite • shungite • sunstone

CREATIVITY • agate • amazonite • amethyst • aventurine • carnelian • howlite • lapis lazuli • opal • topaz

DEPRESSION • amber • calcite • chrysoprase • fluorite • lapis lazuli • pyrite • rainbow quartz • rose quartz • tigers eye

DREAMS • amethyst • hemimorphite • herkimer diamond • jade

ENERGIZING • agate • amber • calcite • carnelian • garnet • rose quartz • topaz

FEMININE ENERGY • cherry quartz • garnet • jade • lapis lazuli • moonstone • rose quartz

FERTILITY • agate • aventurine • jade • moonstone • pearl • red carnelian • rose quartz • smoky quartz • turquoise

FOCUS • emerald • fluorite • pearl • tigers eye

FORGIVENESS • blue agate • blue chalcedony • chrysoprase • dioptase • moonstone • sugilite

FRIENDSHIP • amethyst • barite • carnelian • desert agate • jade • lapis lazuli • rose quartz • strontianite

GENEROSITY • chrysoberyl • orange jasper • sunstone • topaz

GRIEF • apache tear • danburite • epidote • onyx • peridot • sodalite • rose quartz • ruby

GROUNDING • agate • hematite • obsidian • smoky quartz • tigers eye

HARMONY • agate • amazonite • carnelian • emerald • jade

HAPPINESS • agate • amber • chrysoprase • rose quartz

HEADACHE • amethyst • lapis lazuli • rose quartz

HEALING • agate • amethyst • aquamarine • blue lace agate • carnelian • citrine • clear quartz • hematite • lapis lazuli • rose quartz • selenite

IMAGINATION • aventurine • blue pietersite • citrine • fulgurite • iolite • malachite • rose quartz • sugilite • topaz • ulexite

INSIGHT/INTUITION • amethyst • aquamarine • citrine • dumortierite • euclase • green prehnite • iolite • moonstone

INSOMNIA • amethyst • ammonite • angelite • black tourmaline • clear quartz • hematite • jade • labradorite • rose quartz

INSPIRATION • agate • charoite • opal

INTELLIGENCE • agate • calcite • charoite • green aventurine • yellow tourmaline

LONGEVITY • amethyst • agate • carnelian • citrine • garnet • quartz • tourmaline

LOVE • amazonite • chrysoprase • jade • malachite • rose quartz

LUCK • aventurine • carnelian • citrine • rhodonite • rose quartz • tigers eye

MEDITATION • amethyst • calcite • celestite • elestial quartz • labradorite • lapis lazuli • rutilated quartz • selenite

MOTIVATION/DETERMINATION • aventurine • carnelian • citrine • garnet • jasper • tigers eye

NEGATIVE ENERGY (repel/absorb/protect) • amethyst • apache tears • black tourmaline • carnelian • chrysoprase • jasper • onyx • smoky quartz • tigers eye

NURTURING • amber • calcite • jasper • pearl • rhodochrosite • rose quartz

PHYSICAL STAMINA • amazonite • lace agate • hematite • jasper • red amethyst • red spinel • tigers eye

PROSPERITY • agate • carnelian • chrysoprase • citrine

SELF ESTEEM • agate • amethyst • amazonite • aventurine • charoite • chrysoprase • dumortierite • garnet • jade • malachite • sodalite • tigers eye • variscite

SPIRITUAL AWARENESS • amethyst • bloodstone • calcite • chrysoprase • howlite • kyanite • lapis lazuli • moonstone • pyrite • smoky quartz • selenite • turquoise • unakite

SPONTANEITY • hiddenite • opal

TRUTH • agate • aquamarine • celestite • charoite • danburite • iolite • pietersite • sapphire • scheelite • tigers eye

VISUALIZATION • iolite • imperial topaz • green tourmaline • kyanite • magnesite • petalite • pietersite • ruby • selenite • ulexite

WEALTH/ABUNDANCE • agate • chrysoprase • citrine • green aventurine • jade • moss agate • ruby • tigers eye

OTHER INFO:

Essential Oils & Correspondences

Get out there. Back a backpack, fill it with water and trinkets and notebooks. Put on your best shoes and go ahead. Go stick your feet in the pond. Pick up cool sticks in the forest and whittle them with open scissors. Pick common flowers and dry them in your room. Tie wool ribbons to trees and write little messages for others to find.  Prowl the streets of your area and pick pebbles out of the cracks in sidewalks. Find coins and bring them home. Look for abandon objects on the subway. Go dumpster diving, find fun free things you’d never expect to own from the trash. Use mud and stones to make tiny houses, use walnut shells as bowls and leave some water for the new inhabitants. Pick up sand from the beach or the desert or the local park and fill a little sack with it. Bury seeds in eggshells under your favorite trees. Get lost in the woods. Be that one person who does weird stuff, collect the words tossed around about you and save them in a paper envelope; they’re yours.

Corn Dolls for Fall

For me, I grew up making them in fall and winter because that’s when my family made tamales. Hojas, or corn husks were an integral part of the process and without them, no tamales. So we always had more than we needed. Better to have more masa than meat. And better to have more hojas than both.

Here’s a little corn doll you can make as a gift, a fetish, a poppet or whatever your tradition holds. It’s not my business what there for, but here’s how I make them.

So I went a little crazy writing again and still pulled myself back, so history of corn dolls is below the tutorial 😅 Based on requests, I’ll be focusing on ways to make these poppets instead of spirit dolls (though I may make another post for the spirit component at a later date). As a poppet, these will last as long as you need them to, they will dry completely within a day and keep indefinitely. Once you’re done or you want to end the working, these poppets burn rather easily.

Materials: scissors, string, and corn husks. Optional, use the corn husks instead of string, either cut thinly, or braided….and water. Super simple.

Step 1: soak the corn husks (about 6) in warm water for at least 5 minutes to make them pliable. You may need to weigh down the husks to keep them submerged…I only had a pomegranate on hand since I’m at work.

You can add ritual oils, dyes, herbs, or whatever you need to imbue to whole thing with your purpose. I used an oil blend for protection.

Step 2: take the husks out and pat them dry with paper towels to get off excess moisture.

Step 3: gather the thinnest points of the triangular husks and tie them off about an inch from tip.

Step 4: fold the lengths over the tied off end.

Before folding over, you can add a taglock to the tied off edges because folding them over will encase the taglock and form the head of the doll. For reference, add the taglock to the right of the twine in the above picture.

Step 5: Once all the lengths have flipped over the taglock and tied off section, tie string around the folded part to create the head.

You can introduce knot magic or color magic with the string. If doing baneful magic, you may want to make this into a noose.

Step 6: take one corn husk, and fold in half. Tightly roll and tie off the ends. Trim the edges. This is also a section where in folk practice, the arms may be braided instead.

If your tag lock was too large, or you want to include a sigil, written spell or other component, roll it into the arms. Whatever is at the most central point will sit where the heart is.

Step 7: separate the “dress” portion of the doll, and place the arms just beneath the neck. Once in place, tie off below the arms, this forms the waist.

Step 8: This section will vary doll to doll. You can leave it as is and make a dress. Or you can cut straight down the middle and make legs. I left a front and back section uncut to make this into a robe, covering the legs.

Step 9: Optional, but you can split a section and drape it over the shoulders, tying it off and creating an X, sealing the intent into the doll.

From there, do whatever you need to do with the doll to continue the spell you’ve done. You can toss it in a jar and label honey over it and other spices for a sweetening spell. Put it in a box with nasty things for a curse. Completely tie it off for a binding, or give t encouragement for some sympathetic magic/mood boosting to tour target.

You can also dress them in fabric or make adornments out of husks to further their likeness to the intended. The very first picture is a witch, capped in a hat and broom, so get creative!

🦇Cheers, Barberwitch

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How to Charge a sigil:

As I had made a post about making sigils, now it’s time to learn how to charge them. That’s right, you have to charge sigils. I think that this is an important factor that many people don’t really take into consideration when using them. So, here are some ways you could charge them!

METHOD 1:

FIRE: Write it on a piece of paper and then burn it. This is charging the sigil by fire energy. This a good method if you do well with heat or fire, but please do be careful! I’ve almost burned myself and a few items from being careless in my early days.

METHOD 2: AIR: As you’re writing the sigil on something, blow on it. This is something I learned from a friend and I have found that it’s helpful when I want to charge a sigil when I’m not around any fire, water, or earth. You can write this on paper, your skin, floor, whatever you like. As long as you do something to revive the energy once in a while.

METHOD 3:

WATER: This is a method I also use often. Though it can be a bit tricky and frustrating to get used to. What I will do is take a rock that I’ve taken a liking to and paint on the sigil I want to use. Then, I will drop it in while I’m taking a bath or I will leave it in a jar of water. (Doesn’t matter where it’s at) The water SHOULD charge the sigil.

METHOD 4:

EARTH: This is plain and simple. All you have to do is take a rock, a piece of paper, just something to write on (keep in mind you should use something you won’t want) and then bury it. Easy and simple. Or you could place it outside by some plants or anything earthy. The earth will charge this sigil.

Those are the four ways you could possibly charge a sigil. Of course there are many ways, but here are some simple and easy ideas to do so if you’re just starting out!

GROUNDING YOURSELF

This is very, VERY important, especially if you are considering doing Astral Travel or any sort of out of body travelling. This, well, to be put simply, grounds you to the earth.

What you can do to ground yourself is rather simple. This is different for every person so I will list a few things that you could do.

METHOD 1: Imagine you are sitting in a forest/park/by a river/etc, somewhere nature related and relax. If you’re not relaxed, this may end up being uncomfortable or it may not work in general. Now, imagine that you’re a tree sprout and you’re rooting yourself in the earth. Imagine yourself growing tall and deeply rooted into the earth. After that, imagine that you turn into the roots and the tree slowly disappears. AFter that, you should be done. IF you do not feel secure or like youre actually rooted then you may need to try again.

METHOD 2: relax and concentrate. Now, this is slightly similar to Method 1, but I find it helpful. You’re sitting wherever you please and your body is starting to become one with the earth. You are in the earth and one with it, imagine yourself with the roots and with everything around. Once you feel secure or firmly grounded, you’re good.

There are many other things that you could do for grounding, but these are the two methods that I generally use and have seen in the community. If you do have any ideas or methods that you have used, please feel free to message me ^_^ I am always open to new ideas!

🌻☀️ Blessed Litha ~ ☀️🌻 

 Happy Summer Solstice my fellow witches!! I wish you the best Summer! May the celebrations bring you joy and happiness! 

*if the exact time of the new/full moon is past midnight and thus technically in the next day I’ve put the previous day’s date so you know which evening to be prepping your rituals etc*

January

5th: New Moon in Capricorn

20th: Full Wolf Moon in Cancer->Leo (Blood Moon Eclipse)

February

1st: Imbolc

4th: New Moon in Aquarius

18th: Full Snow Moon in Leo->Virgo

March

5th: New Moon in Pisces

20th: Ostara - Vernal Equinox

and Full Worm Moon in Virgo->Libra

April

4th: New Moon in Aries

18th: Full Pink Moon in Libra->Scorpio

May

1st: Beltane

4th: New Moon in Taurus

18th: Full Flower Moon in Scorpio->Sagittarius

June

2nd: New Moon in Gemini

17th: Full Strawberry Moon in Sagittarius->Capricorn

21st: Litha - Summer Solstice

July

2nd: New Moon in Cancer

16th: Full Buck Moon in Capricorn

31st: New Moon in Cancer->Leo (Black Moon)

August

1st: Lughnasadh

14th: Full Sturgeon Moon in Aquarius->Pisces

29th: New Moon in Virgo

September

13th: Full Corn Moon in Pisces

23rd: Mabon - Autumnal Equinox

28th: New Moon in Virgo->Libra

October

13th: Full Hunter’s Moon in Aries

27th: New Moon in Libra->Scorpio

31st: Samhain

November

11th: Full Beaver Moon in Taurus

25th: New Moon in Scorpio->Sagittarius

December

11th: Full Cold Moon in Gemini

21st: Yule - Winter Solstice

25th: New Moon in Sagittarius->Capricorn

sources:

Phases of the Moon app

PaganCentric

The Old Farmers Almanac

This is a long post, the correspondences are under the cut.

Carrier Oils: Carrier oils, known also as base oils, are used to dilute essential oils before they are applied topically. They serve as the base for oil blends. 

Essential Oils: Essential oils are concentrated liquids that contain the volatile (”the tendency of a substance to vaporize") aromatic compounds of plants. They are obtained via distillation and the oil alone should never be applied to the skin directly as some a reactive to heat, and light, and some will give you chemical burns. You are likely to have a reaction to essential oils.

Carrier Oils:

Almond Oil, Sweet (Prunus Dulcis)

Ruled by Mercury and the Element of Air. Sweet Almond Oil makes a great carrier oil for blends that deal with prosperity, money and wisdom.

Apricot Kernel Oil (Prunus Armeniaca)

Ruled by Venus and the Element of Water. This makes a great carrier oil for blends that deal with love or emotions.

Avocado Oil (Persea Americana)

Ruled by Venus and the Element of Water. This makes a great carrier oil for blends that deal with love, lust or beauty.

Castor Oil (Ricinus communis)

Ruled by Mars and the Element of Fire. Castor oil makes a great carrier oil for blends that deal with protection and absorbing negativity.

Coconut Oil (Cocos Nucifera)

Ruled by the Moon and the Element of Water. Fractionated Coconut Oil makes a great carrier oil for blends that deal with purification and protection.

Grapeseed Oil (Vinis Vinifera)

Ruled by the Moon and the Element of Water. Grapeseed Oil makes a great carrier oil for blends that deal with fertility money and strengthening mental abilities.

Hemp Seed Oil (Cannabis Sativa)

Ruled by the Moon and Saturn and the Element of Water. Hemp Seed Oil makes a great carrier oil for blends that deal with healing, love, psychic ability and meditation.

Jojoba Oil (Simmondsia Chinensis)

Ruled by the Moon and the element of Water. Jojoba Oil makes a great carrier oil for blends that deal with healing and love.

Olive Oil (Olea Europaea)

Ruled by the Sun and the Element of Fire. Olive Oil makes a great carrier oil for blends that deal with healing, peace, fertility and protection. In many traditions Olive Oil is an all purpose oil.

Sunflower Oil (Helianthus Annus)

Ruled by the Sun and the Element of Fire. Sunflower Oil makes a great carrier oil for blends that deal with protection, fertility, health and wisdom.

Essential Oils:

Amyris (Amyris balsamifera)

Anointing, astral projection, attraction, blessing, consecration, exorcism, healing, love, meditation, protection, purification, sacral chakra, spirituality

Angelica Root (Angelica archangelica)

Exorcism, protection, healing, visions

Basil (Ocimum basilicum)

Business success, conscious mind (stimulates), happiness, lust, money, peace, prosperity, protection

Bay Laurel (Laurus nobilis)

Banishing, exorcism, luck, psychic ability

Benzoin (Styrax benzoin)

Purification, prosperity, attracts customers

Bergamot (Citrus bergamia)

Business success, happiness, money, peace, physical energy, prosperity, protection, sleep

Birch Sweet (Betula lenta)

Protection, purification, exorcism

Black Pepper (Piper nigrum)

Courage, physical energy, and protection

Blue Tansy (Tanacetum annuum)

Water, Venus, immortality, youth, longevity

Cajeput (Melaleuca cajeputi)

Purification, protection, dispel negative thoughts and energies, break habits

Camphor (Cinnamomum camphora)

Celibacy, crown chakra, physical energy, psychic energy, purification

Cardamom (Elettaria cardamomum)

Love, lust

Carrot Seed (Daucus carota)

Grounding, fertility

Catnip (Nepeta cataria)

Cat magic, love, beauty, happiness

Cedarwood (Cedrus atlantica)

Blessing, health (maintain), heart chakra, meditation, money, protection, psychic energy, purification, self-control, spirituality, unhexing

Chamomile (Matricaria recutita & Anthemis nobilis)

Meditation, peace, sleep

Chili Seed (Capsicum annum)

Protection, exorcism, fidelity, hex-breaking, love

Cinnamon (Cinnamomum burmanii / cassia / zeylancium)

Astral projection, base chakra, business success, health (maintain), luck, lust, magical energy, meditation, money, physical energy, prosperity, protection, psychic awareness, purification, spirituality

Citronella (Cymbopogon nardus / winterianus)

Exorcism (exterior use), health (maintain), purification, unhexing

Clary Sage (Salvia sclarea)

Vivid dreams

Clove Bud (Eugenia or syzgium aromaticum)

Balances chakras, business success, courage, divination, exorcism, healing, heart chakra, love, money, prosperity, protection, psychic awareness

Coffee Bean (Coffea arabica)

Grounding, Earth magic, Mars, ritual stimulant

Cypress (Cupressus sempervirens)

Longevity, healing, comfort, protection

Elemi (Canarium luzonicum)

Mental and psychic ability, spiritual balance, solar plexus chakra

Eucalyptus (Eucalyptus globulus)

Healing, health (maintain), protection, psychic energy, purification

Fir Needle (Abies sibirica)

Mind clearing, memory, communication, purification before ritual, , protection, hex removal

Frankincense (Boswellia serrata / carterii)

Blessing, consecration, courage, exorcism, meditation, protection, purification, solar plexus chakra, spirituality

Geranium (Pelargonium graveolens / x asperum)

Happiness, protection

Ginger Root (Zingiber officinale)

Attraction, business success, courage, love, lust, magical energy, money, peace, physical energy, prosperity, purification, sex

Grapefruit (Citrus paradisi)

Purification

Helichrysum (Helichrysum italicum)

Creativity, intuition, invoke spirits, scrying, channeling, awareness, calm, patience

Ho Wood (Cinnamomum camphora)

Cleaning, banishing, subdue sexual desire, celibacy, chastity, psychic power, dream work

Hyssop (Hyssopus officinalis)

Purification, protection

Juniper Berry (Juniperus communis)

Protection, anti-theft, love, exorcism, health

Lavender (Lavandula stoechas / angustifolia / latifolia / hybrida)

Balances chakras, business success, celibacy, conscious mind (stimulates), happiness, health (maintain), love, peace, protection, purification, sleep, third-eye chakra

Lemon (Citrus limonum / limon)

Balances chakras, health (maintain), love, physical energy, purification

Lemongrass (Cymbopogon citratus / flexuosus / schoenanthus)

Psychic awareness, psychic energy, purification, spirituality

Lime (Citrus aurantifolia)

Physical energy, protection, purification

Litsea (Litsea cubeba)

Energy, rejuvenation, letting go

Marjoram (Origanum majorana)

Celibacy, happiness, peace, sleep

Mugwort (Artemesia vulgaris)

Moon, divination, lucid dreaming, prophetic dreams, protection

Myrrh (Commiphora myrrha)

Astral projection, attraction, balances chakras, blessing, consecration, crown chakra, exorcism, healing, meditation, protection, psychic energy, spirituality, unhexing

Myrtle (Myrtus communis)

Love, good luck, fertility, and Venus, feminine and water aspects

Niaouli (Melaleuca quinquenervia)

Purification, healing, protection, clearing negative energies, aura cleansing

Nutmeg (Myristica fragrans)

Luck, magical energy, meditation, money, physical energy, psychic awareness

Opoponax (Commiphora guidotti)

Death/resurrection, divination, Pluto, Scorpio, change

Oregano (Origanum vulgare)

Happiness, tranquility

Palmarosa (Cymbopogon martini)

Healing, love

Palo Santo (Bursera graveolens)

Luck, air element.

Patchouli (Pogostemon cablin)

Attraction, banishes negativity, growth, love, luck, mastery, money, peace, physical energy, prosperity, sex

Peppermint (Mentha arvensis / piperita)

Conscious mind (stimulates), exorcism, health (maintain), protection, purification

Petitgrain (Citrus aurantium)

Conscious mind (stimulates), protection

Pine (Pinus sylvestris)

Exorcism, grounding, healing, health (maintain), magical energy, money, physical energy, protection, purification

Rosemary (Rosmarinus officinalis)

Conscious mind (stimulates), exorcism, health (maintain), heart chakra, longevity, love, protective, remembrance, third-eye chakra, vitality

Rosewood (Aniba rosaeodora)

Mars, Moon, Venus, spirit element, fire element, intuitive health, beauty, divination, scrying, healing rituals, maturity, wisdom, femininity

Sage Dalmatian (Salvia officinalis)

Conscious mind (stimulates), exorcism, money, purification, wisdom

Sage White (Salvia apiana)

Cleansing spaces and magical objects, banish negative energy

Sandalwood (Santalum album)

Anointing, astral projection, attraction, blessing, consecration, exorcism, healing, love, meditation, protection, purification, sacral chakra, spirituality

Spearmint (Mentha spicata)

Comfort, healing, sleep (for protection)

Spikenard “Jatamansi” (Nardostachys jatamansi)

Good luck, fidelity, and health

Star Anise (Illicium verum)

Psychic power, luck

Sweet Orange (Citrus sinensis)

Balances chakras, divination, happiness, joy, love, luck, magical energy, money, physical energy, psychic energy, purification, sacral chakra

Tangerine (Citrus reticulata)

Magical energy, purification

Tea Tree (Melaleuca alternifolia)

Purification

Thyme (Thymus vulgaris)

Conscious mind (stimulates), courage, health (maintain), purification

Turmeric (Curcuma longa)

Purification, protection

Valerian Root (Valeriana officinalis)

Love, sleep, purification, protection

Vanilla (Vanilla planifolia)

Love, lust, mental power

Vetiver (Vetiveria zizanoides)

Divination, exorcism, love, money, peace, protection, unhexing

Wintergreen (Gaultheria procumbens)

Protection, healing, hex-breaking

Ylang Ylang (Cananga odorata)

Love, lust, peace, sex, throat chakra

[Sources: [X] [X]

Why This Is Not Okay (On a Tarot Level):

Tarot readers are people. We are not your magic dispensers and we don’t work on demand.

Reading tarot (especially those of us who attempt energy channelling) takes up a lot of energy. I get tons and tons of request for free readings that you guys dont see and the times I have opened it up for free the request poured in too much to handle.

Even if someone is offering free readings, dont heckle them! Show some respect. If you genuinly believe this person is going to delve into your fate and advise you on paths then you better be nice to them.

Do you guys have any idea how much readings normally cost? $30-45 USD, thats just for a simple little spread and maybe some chat time. In cities some charge more like $60-200! Compared to that my average price is $5-10… I’m not wringing you for money here.

Why This Is Not Okay (On a Personal Level):

I feel I made it pretty clear that I was a professional tarot reader in my first message and not just practicing for free. Its okay if youre new and accidentally request a free reading without knowing- but once I tell you…well now you know.

Asking beyond that is coercive behavior which is incredibly toxic. Asking until someone says yes is not concent to engage in anything.

This is emotional manipulation. Learn to recognize it because I see it all the time and its becoming normalized. So much so that people who aren’t intentionally manipulative have begun doing it because it gets results. Intentionally or not its baiting someone to do something they wouldn’t normally do.

Either way I can tell you right now that this person is not ready to find their soul mate, or even be in any kind of relationship. They have so much self-work to do first before they drag somebody down with them.